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Contributor: ~*Nikila*~ ~*Nikila*~
So I have a Bf who ive been dating for a few months now and i want to tell him i like bondage but idk how Help please
06/14/2011
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Contributor: Linga Linga
Me, I would just come straight out with it but I realise that some people are a little more conservative than I am so maybe you could seduce him, get him all worked up and climb into his lap and whisper in his ear that you want to try something new and bring out some silk ties or some soft rope or even a light fogger that tickles more than anything else. I'd say chances are that unless he is super conservative he will love the idea and you won't have much to worry about!

Good luck and I wish you lots and LOTS of fun!
06/14/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
I just came out with it and told my husband (we'd been married 17 years at the time) one night while we were in the tub. We were already worked up and in the mood, and telling him what I secretly dreamed of, apparently was right up his alley and tapped into some buried sadistic tendencies of his own, much to my delight! Now, BDSM and bondage is very much a part of our playtime.

He has even let me take the reigns and restrain him once. What a turn on to have him all tied up, and to do what ever I wanted to him for as long as I wanted! It was an evening made in Heaven, I tell you!
06/14/2011
Contributor: slynch slynch
Just tell him you want to try it.
06/14/2011
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Just tell him...he probably will not be surprised!
06/14/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
I think that simply telling him wouldn't do harm.
06/14/2011
Contributor: MattBryant MattBryant
just start grab a belt or scarf or bandanna or something and lightly tie his hands together when you're riding him.
06/14/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
buy some gear and tell him you want to try something new.
06/15/2011
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
Well, maybe buying gear may not be the best way to go. Maybe just try to get it look like a spur of the moment thing. Get his tie or belt, ask him to tie you up and then say, 'do what you will with me.' - or something to that effect.
06/15/2011
Contributor: NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
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Originally posted by ~*Nikila*~
So I have a Bf who ive been dating for a few months now and i want to tell him i like bondage but idk how Help please
Away from anything sexual, I talked to my boyfriend about some of my bondage experiences and fantasies, asked how he felt about it, then one evening, before he was home, pulled out mild bondage gear and laid it all on the bed. I asked for exactly what I wanted, let him choose how far we went, and just sort of talked him through some things. He had no bondage experience ever so it was actually really fun and exciting : )
06/15/2011
Contributor: ac0313 ac0313
Have a scarf or someting bedside and the next time you two start up, grab the item and ask him if he would tie you up? It gives him an out if he is completely freaked out, but then you can talk about it later. If he is willing, it may be the start of something good. Just make sure that he does not tie too tight and that you do not struggle against the binds too much, possibly making this first attempt a negative experience for either of you by causing an injury.
06/15/2011