I understand. For us, it's part the Power Dynamic and part, he just doesn't like his anus messed with. No, he doesn't associate it with "gay" either, he just isn't into it. He likes his butt cheeks played with, to a point, but NO penetration. And, in our Dynamic, penetration is a Male/Dom thing.

Mileage and all that.

So, it's more a medical issue.

I have had IBS pretty badly, but we took it slowly and just as Tristan Taromino said, it actually helped some. But, up until a few years ago, I wouldn't have even have allowed it done to myself, anally, because I thought it would start a whole round of IBS symptoms. And, who knows, my IBS was worse years ago, back then, it may well have made it worse. We only started with anal sex after the IBS was under better control

Again, mileage and what ever y'alls like.

That's what I was kind of thinking when the woman is the Domme. I mean, I would imagine you WANT PIV sex, too. For me to penetrate My Man would be High Crimes and Treason, but I think most Femme Dommes enjoy a good fuck, too.

Cover his penis in Vet Wrap? Is that Dom behavior, or is it just mean? (Glad you decided not to do it.....more than maybe just once....) I think it might hurt both of you, that stuff is totally waterproof.

I do think there's a different dynamic when the woman is the Domme. At least when I comes to penetration.

That's one of the reasons I posed the question, and put gender in the responses.

Thanks Mistress.

Easy way of making it more of a submissive act: don't allow him to move and use him for yourself. Move him inside of you as opposed to allowing him to move in you.

And, honestly, I do not find penetration to be a dominating act. He's doing you a service by giving himself to you, no? So maybe think of it that way and it'll be alright?

And yeah, I don't know the point of that AT ALL...

Yeah, it is a different dynamic. And you're supposed to put a Magnum condom over the Vet Wrap so he can't feel anything. Or it was also suggested that I make him wear a hollow dildo so he can't feel anything else.

That seems to take all of the intimacy out of it. Yes, it's BDSM and he's my slave, but I want to share that with him - especially since he's my boyfriend too. I suppose looking at it as him surrending his body to my every use works best.

I should do a woman-on-top for Dominance sake (and he prefers it), but I'm usually lazy, so it's normally missionary. Boring me.

OOO, I Magnum OVER the Vet Wrap? A hollow dil? I don't get it. My Man is Dom and he completely wants to give me pleasure as much as I want to give it to him, whether he's penetrating or whatever. I'm his sub, but he loves me.

Yeah, I do think that in a lot of cases, a man being the Dom has more reason to not want to be penetrated. (Very un-PC, but then I think a lot of people probably think the whole D/s thing is. {Shrug} It makes no difference to me what people think.) I could be wrong, but there's something more submissive about anal sex than there is about being the receiver of vaginal intercourse. I mean, sometimes. There are times when the receiver of PIV sex can be very submissive. Or not, depending again, on the situation and the dynamic.

Mistress, you and your bf are having PIV intercourse, and he's trussed up, or still or simply in a Sub mind set, or whatever works for you two. I can't really think like a Domme, (not a Switch by a long shot, just a bratty, sneaky "Topper from the Bottom" some of the time) but I know I'd be doing the same thing you are.

Anyway, I'm just interested in what works for people. I don't ever think there's "right way" or a "wrong way" to do whatever Power Dynamic you and your partner are in.

The poll is pretty much turning out the way I thought it would. Male Doms aren't being penetrated, Femme Doms are (on Their terms, Mistress ) Subs usually wouldn't think of penetrating etc.

Don't have any feed back from same sex couples though, (I don't think) that is going to be interesting also. (I didn't leave a specific for that, but it could be included in the thread.) Interesting stuff, indeed.

im a switch and so is my partner. he like getting pegged and i like doing it to him. but i don't finish that way. when its my turn i turn sub in a way. im still pretty dom in telling him what he is doing right and where to go, but i like to feel weak with him then. it goes back and forth. it also good to let out aggression and frustration.

'bout damn time, I was waiting for your answer.... (taps little foot impatiently)

HAHA!! Well, there you go!

We are the same way, except I am not always a heavy sub (I think I would like to identify as a switch -even though he is ALWAYS is control. Does that make any sense? So I am not sure where I fit in as far as an answer). My husband is exploring prostate massage and I feel I can serve him in that way too.

If you're going to be pegging him soon - you'll have to put your dom hat for a while!

Yeah, we've talked about this earlier on the thread; how it's different if you are a Female Domme. It's often difficult to eliminate penetration, as many don't see it as as much as a "sub" action as penetrating a male bodied or male-identified Dom.

But, it varies from each situation and relationship, as we can see from the thread.

I find these different dynamics of power exchange very interesting.