Is everyone kinky or do some people just not have a kinky bone in their body?

Is everyone kinky or do some people just not have a kinky bone in their body?

AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
Is there something inside all of us that just rings true with kink or are there some who just don't possess that certain spark for kink?
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OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
I think some/ most have that tendency more than others. And some are hidden. Of course having a partner that has it will influence the other. I m very sure 99%+ of humans like or love to have sex and enjoy life
06/02/2017
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I don't have a big sampling to work with here - but my guess is that there are more people than we realize who just don't enjoy sex at all - much less kink.

As for closet-kinksters like OH&W refer to - that definitely describes me - and to a greater extent my wife. Kink doesn't come easy to her - but she keeps trying new things - and is often surprised at the results!
06/02/2017
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I don't have a big sampling to work with here - but my guess is that there are more people than we realize who just don't enjoy sex at all - much less kink.

As for closet-kinksters like OH&W refer to - that definitely describes me ...
I think everybody would like to enjoy sex and of course don't parade what they like to do.
And with many their " kinks " come out and also evolve.

Lol, I don't think everyone just wants to the samemo sameoh missionary day in day out. Every body likes to experience new things in life. Who wants a boring life and sex life.

And what's kinky to one is not to others.

" Try It, You Might Like It "
06/03/2017
Daddy'sSexKitten Daddy'sSexKitten
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Originally posted by AmethystQueen
Is there something inside all of us that just rings true with kink or are there some who just don't possess that certain spark for kink?
I think everyone has some kink in them, whether they know it or not. Some people also have hidden desires that they feel aren't normal or appropriate and hide it. You never know but I feel like even the everyday church lady has a dark side.

Then, there's us.
06/03/2017
GirlsJustWannaHaveFun GirlsJustWannaHaveFun
IMO, there are some people that just dont like sex. My bff, whom i love dearly, HATES sex. I feel AWFUL for her husband.

But as a rule i think there are more of us that LOVE sex than dont...WHEW!
06/03/2017
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by GirlsJustWannaHaveFun
IMO, there are some people that just dont like sex. My bff, whom i love dearly, HATES sex. I feel AWFUL for her husband.

But as a rule i think there are more of us that LOVE sex than dont...WHEW!
I agree - many on EF seem to assume that everyone likes sex - and a lot of it. There are those who don't.

Frankly my wife would be happy with sex a lot less often, but she is grateful for what I've taught her about her potential and the opportunity to experience more than she ever thought possible.
06/03/2017
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by GirlsJustWannaHaveFun
IMO, there are some people that just dont like sex. My bff, whom i love dearly, HATES sex. I feel AWFUL for her husband.

But as a rule i think there are more of us that LOVE sex than dont...WHEW!
Oh mann, a guy that doesn't like sex Is a exam in order ?
How does she cope?
06/06/2017
symbiasin symbiasin
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Oh mann, a guy that doesn't like sex Is a exam in order ?
How does she cope?
Precisely one of the reasons my ex is an ex.
06/07/2017
La Bachatera La Bachatera
As unusual as it seems to me, there are some people who just don't like sex, much less anything even remotely kinky. I have a very close friend I have known all my life who just isn't interested in anything even remotely sexual. She hasn't even kissed anyone, and she is 22. It actually makes things a little awkward for me, because I don't feel comfortable talking about my personal life with her. I feel like she would have a heart attack.

I have also run into problems with men sometimes. I am a very sexual person, and I feel like it has made some men I've dated uncomfortable. I have had men tell me that they don't want me to ever use toys. I even had one man break up with me because I told him I have had threesomes with two men (which, for the record, were absolutely wonderful experiences for me.) He was completely disgusted by it.

Now, that does not necessarily mean they will never be kinky. I was a somewhat late bloomer myself. I had really bad experiences in school with bullying, so I actually convinced myself that I was not a sexual person at all. I felt like no one would ever want me, so it made it easier to believe that I didn't want anybody, either. And I truly believed that. It took me quite some time to acclimatize to the real world, which was much better than school in my case. I never dated until after my first year of college, when I was 18, and it took a couple more years for me to actually have sex. Luckily, I have been blessed with open minded, respectful partners that have allowed me to explore my sexuality.
06/07/2017
Daddy'sSexKitten Daddy'sSexKitten
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Originally posted by symbiasin
Precisely one of the reasons my ex is an ex.
I hear you on this one!!!
06/10/2017
Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
I think some/ most have that tendency more than others. And some are hidden. Of course having a partner that has it will influence the other. I m very sure 99%+ of humans like or love to have sex and enjoy life
To think that some people don't have any kink in them is like saying there are people who don't like sushi, or martinis. With things sexual, often there are practices that for one couple may be extremely kinky that are just not that off beat for others. I remember a friend in the military that would only have intercourse in the missionary position, thinking all other forms were pagan. Poor guy apparently was taught by an extremely strict parent or other religious entity that changing positions was verboten. Just reading about some sexual preferences that to me at one time would be considered kinky, is just normal anymore. I think if a person truly opens their mind to what feels good sexually, and let their body tell them if it works, everyone has the capability of being kinky, in their own way.
06/11/2017
AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I don't have a big sampling to work with here - but my guess is that there are more people than we realize who just don't enjoy sex at all - much less kink.

As for closet-kinksters like OH&W refer to - that definitely describes me ...
I'm always under the impression if those people who say they don't even like sex much less kink are women, they would change their minds if they would be the ones getting orgasms every time they have sex. How can you not like to orgasm? I don't think I've ever met anyone who just flat out doesn't like to orgasm so the problem lies in the way people are obtaining (or rather not obtaining) orgasms.
07/28/2017
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by AmethystQueen
I'm always under the impression if those people who say they don't even like sex much less kink are women, they would change their minds if they would be the ones getting orgasms every time they have sex. How can you not like to orgasm? I ...
I completely agree - my ability to bring my wife to orgasm multiple times each session brings her back for more. It's even a bit addicting - she doesn't sleep as well when we she hasn't had her quota of orgasms!

She calls it my job security!
07/28/2017
AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I completely agree - my ability to bring my wife to orgasm multiple times each session brings her back for more. It's even a bit addicting - she doesn't sleep as well when we she hasn't had her quota of orgasms!

She calls it my ...
"Job security"!!?!?!? That's hilarious. She sounds like a very well taken care of, worshipped and respected woman.

All that would seem to build trust to me so a partner would be more willing to try kink and therefore may find their own connection to it after trying it out.

I think I lean more towards the idea that everyone is kinky somewhere inside, they just may need help in bringing it out and allowing themselves to bring it out.
07/28/2017
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by AmethystQueen
"Job security"!!?!?!? That's hilarious. She sounds like a very well taken care of, worshipped and respected woman.

All that would seem to build trust to me so a partner would be more willing to try kink and therefore may find ...
I completely agree - like Shrek says (I think) I'm an onion - you have to peel back the layers! Helping a partner peel back the social inhibitions drilled into them as a child isn't easy, but it is a worthy pursuit full of unexpected benefits.
07/28/2017
Crazyscreamer Crazyscreamer
I think kink is in the eye of the beholder. To someone who is super vanilla, doggie style can be considered kinky. I think everyone has some fetish of some sort, but not everyone is brave enough to find out what theirs is. I feel sorry for those people.
09/18/2017
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Crazyscreamer
I think kink is in the eye of the beholder. To someone who is super vanilla, doggie style can be considered kinky. I think everyone has some fetish of some sort, but not everyone is brave enough to find out what theirs is. I feel sorry for those ...
Yes, agreed.
09/18/2017
JRockitt JRockitt
Everybody, I think, has that desire in them, but many can't admit that. The urge to get playful and act strange is trained out of many people. For some, sex for any reason but procreation is perverted and wrong. I think that the imagination of many people when it comes to sex is stifled from childhood, and it's a damn shame.
10/22/2017
Lena Eden Lena Eden
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Originally posted by JRockitt
Everybody, I think, has that desire in them, but many can't admit that. The urge to get playful and act strange is trained out of many people. For some, sex for any reason but procreation is perverted and wrong. I think that the imagination of ...
So true.. Anyway, it's never late to start exploring your own sexuality, right?
10/23/2017
Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
The big question is, how to get the un-kinky person to take that first leap into the unknown. I think you need to build a lot of trust and be patient with them. One bad experience can set the progress back a long way. From one who knows!
11/01/2017
LovelyGirl93Official LovelyGirl93Official
I believe that a lot of people are kinkier than they admit or even believe themselves to be. However, I have met some people who truly have no kinky or sexual bone in their body. At least in the time I've known them I have never heard or seen anything to admit so.
11/09/2017
AlaskanBeauty AlaskanBeauty
I think even some asexual people can be kinky)
12/22/2017
Lena Eden Lena Eden
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Originally posted by AlaskanBeauty
I think even some asexual people can be kinky)
Aww, really?
12/22/2017
lock down lock down
I think deep down almost everyone has that taboo desire to try that one thing that really gets them. Though society doesn't see it as norm so they don't give it a shot or show it even in the most intimate moments.
12/22/2017
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by lock down
I think deep down almost everyone has that taboo desire to try that one thing that really gets them. Though society doesn't see it as norm so they don't give it a shot or show it even in the most intimate moments.
LOl, we learn some from watching adult movies Never knew people did that. And when the performers that looked like everyday people had more of an effect on us. Strange looking people with tats , bod jewelry in places that look like would hurt turned us off.

12/23/2017
merc41 merc41
I think that some people just are not kinky in anyway. My wife would be perfectly happy with plain vanilla missonary sex. That makes me crazy. She is very well taken care of but does nothing to enhance or spice up our sex life. I have thought that leading by example would help but she continues to be blissfully ignorant. It has gotten so bad that I have looked elsewhere for satisfaction.I need that edgey sex from time to time and have sought it out where ever I could find it. It makes me feel bad when I do participate because I love her very much. But honestly arent we entitled to a happy fullfilling sex life. I don't need kink all of the time but she just doesn't participate at all. She has NEVER expressed an intrest in postions,toys,iniation of sex,porn,oral or generally my pleasure at all. Anything to do with sex is on my shoulders if she approves. Blow jobs ? I have to ask ( beg ) but she likes it when I go down on her,rimming out of the question but she sure cums hard when she recieves it,toys she enjoys the hell out the wand I bought her. I bought a strap on for my pleasure and she won't even look at it.
12/28/2017
Stormysmagick69 Stormysmagick69
I think every bone in my body is kinky lol I do believe some just doesn't have it in them or maybe too shy to go to a new level. I say whatever makes each person happy and comfortable is what's right for them.
12/29/2017
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Unique posters: 16