Is everyone kinky or do some people just not have a kinky bone in their body?

Is everyone kinky or do some people just not have a kinky bone in their body?

AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
Is there something inside all of us that just rings true with kink or are there some who just don't possess that certain spark for kink?
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OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
I think some/ most have that tendency more than others. And some are hidden. Of course having a partner that has it will influence the other. I m very sure 99%+ of humans like or love to have sex and enjoy life
Jun 2, 1:34 pm
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I don't have a big sampling to work with here - but my guess is that there are more people than we realize who just don't enjoy sex at all - much less kink.

As for closet-kinksters like OH&W refer to - that definitely describes me - and to a greater extent my wife. Kink doesn't come easy to her - but she keeps trying new things - and is often surprised at the results!
Jun 2, 1:45 pm
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I don't have a big sampling to work with here - but my guess is that there are more people than we realize who just don't enjoy sex at all - much less kink.

As for closet-kinksters like OH&W refer to - that definitely describes me ...
I think everybody would like to enjoy sex and of course don't parade what they like to do.
And with many their " kinks " come out and also evolve.

Lol, I don't think everyone just wants to the samemo sameoh missionary day in day out. Every body likes to experience new things in life. Who wants a boring life and sex life.

And what's kinky to one is not to others.

" Try It, You Might Like It "
Jun 3, 10:40 am
Daddy'sSexKitten Daddy'sSexKitten
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Originally posted by AmethystQueen
Is there something inside all of us that just rings true with kink or are there some who just don't possess that certain spark for kink?
I think everyone has some kink in them, whether they know it or not. Some people also have hidden desires that they feel aren't normal or appropriate and hide it. You never know but I feel like even the everyday church lady has a dark side.

Then, there's us.
Jun 3, 11:49 am
GirlsJustWannaHaveFun GirlsJustWannaHaveFun
IMO, there are some people that just dont like sex. My bff, whom i love dearly, HATES sex. I feel AWFUL for her husband.

But as a rule i think there are more of us that LOVE sex than dont...WHEW!
Jun 3, 4:29 pm
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by GirlsJustWannaHaveFun
IMO, there are some people that just dont like sex. My bff, whom i love dearly, HATES sex. I feel AWFUL for her husband.

But as a rule i think there are more of us that LOVE sex than dont...WHEW!
I agree - many on EF seem to assume that everyone likes sex - and a lot of it. There are those who don't.

Frankly my wife would be happy with sex a lot less often, but she is grateful for what I've taught her about her potential and the opportunity to experience more than she ever thought possible.
Jun 3, 6:13 pm
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by GirlsJustWannaHaveFun
IMO, there are some people that just dont like sex. My bff, whom i love dearly, HATES sex. I feel AWFUL for her husband.

But as a rule i think there are more of us that LOVE sex than dont...WHEW!
Oh mann, a guy that doesn't like sex Is a exam in order ?
How does she cope?
Jun 6, 11:49 am
symbiasin symbiasin
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Oh mann, a guy that doesn't like sex Is a exam in order ?
How does she cope?
Precisely one of the reasons my ex is an ex.
Jun 7, 1:47 am
La Bachatera La Bachatera
As unusual as it seems to me, there are some people who just don't like sex, much less anything even remotely kinky. I have a very close friend I have known all my life who just isn't interested in anything even remotely sexual. She hasn't even kissed anyone, and she is 22. It actually makes things a little awkward for me, because I don't feel comfortable talking about my personal life with her. I feel like she would have a heart attack.

I have also run into problems with men sometimes. I am a very sexual person, and I feel like it has made some men I've dated uncomfortable. I have had men tell me that they don't want me to ever use toys. I even had one man break up with me because I told him I have had threesomes with two men (which, for the record, were absolutely wonderful experiences for me.) He was completely disgusted by it.

Now, that does not necessarily mean they will never be kinky. I was a somewhat late bloomer myself. I had really bad experiences in school with bullying, so I actually convinced myself that I was not a sexual person at all. I felt like no one would ever want me, so it made it easier to believe that I didn't want anybody, either. And I truly believed that. It took me quite some time to acclimatize to the real world, which was much better than school in my case. I never dated until after my first year of college, when I was 18, and it took a couple more years for me to actually have sex. Luckily, I have been blessed with open minded, respectful partners that have allowed me to explore my sexuality.
Jun 7, 11:53 pm
Daddy'sSexKitten Daddy'sSexKitten
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Originally posted by symbiasin
Precisely one of the reasons my ex is an ex.
I hear you on this one!!!
Jun 10, 6:15 pm
Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
I think some/ most have that tendency more than others. And some are hidden. Of course having a partner that has it will influence the other. I m very sure 99%+ of humans like or love to have sex and enjoy life
To think that some people don't have any kink in them is like saying there are people who don't like sushi, or martinis. With things sexual, often there are practices that for one couple may be extremely kinky that are just not that off beat for others. I remember a friend in the military that would only have intercourse in the missionary position, thinking all other forms were pagan. Poor guy apparently was taught by an extremely strict parent or other religious entity that changing positions was verboten. Just reading about some sexual preferences that to me at one time would be considered kinky, is just normal anymore. I think if a person truly opens their mind to what feels good sexually, and let their body tell them if it works, everyone has the capability of being kinky, in their own way.
Jun 11, 12:02 pm
AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I don't have a big sampling to work with here - but my guess is that there are more people than we realize who just don't enjoy sex at all - much less kink.

As for closet-kinksters like OH&W refer to - that definitely describes me ...
I'm always under the impression if those people who say they don't even like sex much less kink are women, they would change their minds if they would be the ones getting orgasms every time they have sex. How can you not like to orgasm? I don't think I've ever met anyone who just flat out doesn't like to orgasm so the problem lies in the way people are obtaining (or rather not obtaining) orgasms.
Jul 28, 11:20 am
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by AmethystQueen
I'm always under the impression if those people who say they don't even like sex much less kink are women, they would change their minds if they would be the ones getting orgasms every time they have sex. How can you not like to orgasm? I ...
I completely agree - my ability to bring my wife to orgasm multiple times each session brings her back for more. It's even a bit addicting - she doesn't sleep as well when we she hasn't had her quota of orgasms!

She calls it my job security!
Jul 28, 1:00 pm
AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I completely agree - my ability to bring my wife to orgasm multiple times each session brings her back for more. It's even a bit addicting - she doesn't sleep as well when we she hasn't had her quota of orgasms!

She calls it my ...
"Job security"!!?!?!? That's hilarious. She sounds like a very well taken care of, worshipped and respected woman.

All that would seem to build trust to me so a partner would be more willing to try kink and therefore may find their own connection to it after trying it out.

I think I lean more towards the idea that everyone is kinky somewhere inside, they just may need help in bringing it out and allowing themselves to bring it out.
Jul 28, 1:27 pm
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by AmethystQueen
"Job security"!!?!?!? That's hilarious. She sounds like a very well taken care of, worshipped and respected woman.

All that would seem to build trust to me so a partner would be more willing to try kink and therefore may find ...
I completely agree - like Shrek says (I think) I'm an onion - you have to peel back the layers! Helping a partner peel back the social inhibitions drilled into them as a child isn't easy, but it is a worthy pursuit full of unexpected benefits.
Jul 28, 4:24 pm
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