To those who don't think such a thing exists in your area, i can almost guarantee that there is, in some form. There is almost certainly a venue or event for kinky play near you. I'd be surprised if there was an area that didn't have some BDSM presence, at least within a couple hours drive. They aren't always called "Dungeons" and are rarely advertised thusly. They are somewhat underground. Not illegal in any sense but kept under wraps a bit to keep it a safe space, to keep it safe from people who are unfriendly to kinksters or who might accidentally stumble into it not knowing what it is. They aren't something you'll see just walking down the street. There won't be a big sign that says "Kinky BDSM Dungeon". It's done this way to keep it safe for the people who want to use it and to keep it safe for people who don't want to see it. It wouldn't really do to have someone wander in not knowing what it was and freak out because they weren't expecting what is inside. It's done in such a way that people who attend are those who want to be there for the right reasons. Connect with your local kink community, Fetlife is a good resource. Find munches, workshops, classes, demos, socials, etc. Yes, these almost certainly exist reasonably close to your area, whether you know it or not. People who attend these events are usually friendly and welcoming and will almost certainly be happy to tell you how to find safe, local playspaces, dungeons, and parties. There may also be a local BDSM club in your area. Again, don't assume it doesn't exist because some form of a group almost certainly does, even if you don't know about it. We have a club here and they host play parties in a space that they rent a few times a month. A city about 2 hours away has at least 2 local dungeons and other parties. And there's literally hundreds of events a month within a couple hundred miles of my home. If you're within a few hours of a decent sized city, there's something kinky going on. If you're in the boonies hundreds and hundreds of miles from a city, BFE nowhere, it might be harder, but otherwise, it's there if you look.
