Love and BDSM: is it possible?

Contributor: leilani leilani
i honestly think it is possible since i love my dom and he loves me... we may be beginners but i know he is the only one who knows me well enough to know my limits.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
yes, love is always possible
33  (97%)
no, you can't love or it is impossible
maybe? never thought of it
um i am not into it
1  (3%)
Total votes: 34
Poll is closed
01/08/2013
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Contributor: kdlt kdlt
Of course so! Love and BDSM can often times go hand-in-hand.
01/08/2013
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by leilani
i honestly think it is possible since i love my dom and he loves me... we may be beginners but i know he is the only one who knows me well enough to know my limits.
Yes, it's possible.
01/08/2013
Contributor: Hermosura21 Hermosura21
It is possible
01/08/2013
Contributor: Leather & Lace Leather & Lace
Yes!
01/08/2013
Contributor: sillylilkitten sillylilkitten
Of course! What kind of a relationship doesn't involve love? Especially if you're going to be involved in something so physically and mentally demanding as BDSM, you have to really trust and care about the other person.
01/08/2013
Contributor: Inkkythesquid Inkkythesquid
Of course! I am currently in a BDSM relationship, and my Master loves me as much as I love Him. So it is possible for sure! However, there are also cases where it doesn't involve love and is purely a sexual thing, as it can be with vanilla people. I've known people who have partners purely for BDSM play, sometimes it doesn't even involve sex! Each person and their relationships are unique, so it can go both ways, really.
01/08/2013
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Yep, a lot of people make it work. Every relationship is different after all
01/08/2013
Contributor: Boyqueen Boyqueen
It's definitely possible.
01/09/2013
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by leilani
i honestly think it is possible since i love my dom and he loves me... we may be beginners but i know he is the only one who knows me well enough to know my limits.
Absolutely!!
01/09/2013
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by leilani
i honestly think it is possible since i love my dom and he loves me... we may be beginners but i know he is the only one who knows me well enough to know my limits.
I do think it's possible.
01/09/2013
Contributor: Cowgirl-Cutie Cowgirl-Cutie
Yes, very!
01/09/2013
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
I think it's possible.
01/09/2013
Contributor: palindromic palindromic
Certainly! And it's important to take into account the varying levels of BDSM relationships. My sweetie and I, for example, are not necessarily "lifestylers" or 24/7 and we love each other very much, just as plenty of 24/7 folks love each other as well. Love isn't required for BDSM relationships, but it's possible!
01/09/2013
Contributor: xcapricax xcapricax
absolutly
01/09/2013
Contributor: fizzygato fizzygato
Yes, it's possible if you do/ don't want it to be I think it could still happen and everyone has definitions of what it means "to love" anyway. I think it's also possible for it to not happen, regardless of whether you want it to or not. I think that's part of "possible" is anything being possible
01/10/2013
Contributor: ScarletFox ScarletFox
It certainly is, I am in love with the person who is my Dom and we where in a relationship before it became what it is now.
01/10/2013
Contributor: Gdom Gdom
Of course! Trust, communication, and understanding each other's desires are core elements of a good BDSM relationship--they're also some of the most important aspects of a loving relationship of any sort.
01/11/2013
Contributor: HisLittleFiend HisLittleFiend
Mhm. My love and I are definitely in love. The love part came first, and now the BDSM is for fun and for love. I will say it poses a different problem than non-loving BDSM play, because I know he has a hard time topping me in fear of hurting me (we are both true switches). Part of it for us is knowing we can hurt each other and trust ourselves and each other not to go "too far."
01/11/2013
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
I don't really get why anyone would think it could not
01/13/2013
Contributor: Roz W Roz W
Quote:
Originally posted by novanilla
I don't really get why anyone would think it could not
Yeah, same. I'm interested in what the OP might be thinking about, though.
01/13/2013
Contributor: roskat roskat
Of course it is possible.
01/13/2013
Contributor: GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
Definitely!
01/14/2013
Contributor: XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
Yes, it is!
01/14/2013
Contributor: table38792 table38792
Definitely, I don't see why this would be in doubt.
01/14/2013
Contributor: LoneOokami LoneOokami
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Originally posted by table38792
Definitely, I don't see why this would be in doubt.
exactly
04/04/2013