Never did this before...advice?
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Also, you may want to investigate the whole "creeps me out" thing. Does it repel you? Why? Is Kink really something you want to do? Or are you pushing yourself for some reason we weren't given.
It's good to, at least in the beginning, stay within your comfort zone. My Man and I engage in... hard play, but we don't do anything that "creeps" either of us out. We do what we do because we both want to.
If you've already used "furry handcuffs" a nice pair of neoprene cuffs that close with Velcro, like the Sports Sheets Cuffs and Tether is great.
Not only are they easy to put on and take off, but you have the "out" of removing them yourself (in certain set ups) so you can feel safer. This might be a logical next step, in fact, IMO, neoprene or even leather cuffs are safer than metal cuffs.
But, take it slowly. If you feel grossed out by the Kink, figure out why BEFORE you do it. Panic is not conducive to a good sexual experience.
Also, you may want to investigate the whole "creeps me out" thing. Does it repel you? Why? Is Kink really something you want to do? Or are you pushing yourself for some reason we weren't given.
It's good to, at least in the beginning, stay within your comfort zone. My Man and I engage in... hard play, but we don't do anything that "creeps" either of us out. We do what we do because we both want to.
If you've already used "furry handcuffs" a nice pair of neoprene cuffs that close with Velcro, like the Sports Sheets Cuffs and Tether is great.
Not only are they easy to put on and take off, but you have the "out" of removing them yourself (in certain set ups) so you can feel safer. This might be a logical next step, in fact, IMO, neoprene or even leather cuffs are safer than metal cuffs.
But, take it slowly. If you feel grossed out by the Kink, figure out why BEFORE you do it. Panic is not conducive to a good sexual experience. less
Take the time to find out what creeps you out. Start slow. Maybe purchase a light BDSM kit or a Restraint system. I have this one. I can get out of it myself. You may want to look into something light first. Then see how you feel.
He should respect that you need to go slow. If it isn't something you are into then it isn't something you are into. He should respect your wishes, since you would be the one tied down.
Maybe see if he is open to the idea of being the one who is restrained. It might help you out to see it used first. And he might understand more why you are scared.