Play Parties... Fun, or...?

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Vanessa Weiss

So, fetish events. Specifically open-dungeon style "play parties" at places such as The Citadel (SF), The Wet Spot/SFSPC (Seattle), Hellfire (I think - NY?) and the like. Basically, public events where you can come, mingle, use the equipment, play around, and get your freak on.

What do you think of them - yes no? Fun? Awkward?

Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):

Totally fun, love to socialize. When's the next event?! I'm there!

ac0313 , Pixel , strawberrystwstd , LilLostLenore , Kitka , ScarlettSeraph , Katelyn , Badass , Nerdydyke , SmutGeek , Miss Morphine , SexyRayne , HannahPanda , idunshire , klyte , Harpina is gone , xxjoel , BloodHound , Mia.The.Wonder.Slut , VelvetDragon , USJT130119200518 , Defiledpixxy , geekkink , KrissyNovacaine , smlove , RavenInChains , tunacan75 , TheSinDoll , Miss L

It's okay. A little too much high protocol fetish drama...

Vanessa Weiss , Mistress Jezebel , Badass , SmutGeek , pootpootpoot , geekkink

Playing in someone else's dungeon? Yay! I don't have this stuff at home!

Vanessa Weiss , ShadowKitten , Ryuson , Ms. Spice , ac0313 , Pixel , Kayla , sexyintexas , ScarlettSeraph , Katelyn , 131231e43 , Nerdydyke , SmutGeek , NightKat , idunshire , pootpootpoot , underHim , xxjoel , Defiledpixxy , KrissyNovacaine , smlove , Miss L , SassySam

I hate the whole "play party" scene. Private parties are more my style.

padmeamidala , CoffeeCup , Ghost , MistressDandelion , hall5885

Super awkward. I never know what to do.

Vanessa Weiss , KyotoAngel , pootpootpoot , xxjoel , Aishiteru , cicispizzaisyummy , SassySam

Have not been to any scene events, but I'm not curious.

Ansley , newlady , MaryExy , newfoundlust , eggiweg , married with children , Ava5 , Envy , aroarofthunder , Apirka , Voir , Hallmar82 , sexxxkitten , hall5885 , FHeemz , gsfanatic , xMila , Stagger13 , phoenixfire , SavingMyself , Falsepast , Lildrummrgurl7

Have not been to any scene events, but I am curious.

MaryExy , Ryuson , Ms. Spice , CafeSabroso , froggiemoma , toxie m , M121212 , Lady Marmelade , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , sarki , systematicweasel , anonymouse58 , LilLostLenore , LavenderSkies , sausagelover , Girly Girl , authorzero , GoneBabyGone , (k)InkyIvy , Beck , coconut1 , MsRigby , dks210 , Sohotdinosaur , Princess-Kayla ♥ , SexyRayne , pokefan15 , KyotoAngel , elli , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , blixa , pootpootpoot , underHim , melissa1973 , Marcianpro , lustylusty , BeepBop , Sinfully , ScarletFox , CadmiumKitty , Mitzuki , ViVix , Phantom2291 , ginnyluvspotter , violets , RatchetS , Katzer , MidnightStorm , Dora Bunny , Strider , novanilla , samanthas , CaitieLynn , Heatherbipoly , chort

Other, explain below?

ShadowKitten , PassionQT , Jon S , Airen Wolf , BurntToast , Aishiteru

Total votes: 153 (121 voters)

Poll is closed

07/25/2011

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Vanessa Weiss

Yeah, I voted in my own poll. Choose whichever answers combine to make up your particular opinion, if you can't choose just one

07/25/2011

Ansley

I'm not at all curious about those scenes. If the people in attendance are anything like those that hang out at Fetlife, all I would end up doing is pissing someone off by not knowing "the rules". They're also REALLY REALLY expensive, especially for couples and in my state they are out in the middle of nowhere. I definitely don't know anyone I would trust enough to go to their home to participate in something like this ... and I don't think hubs is down with it, either.

07/25/2011

Vanessa Weiss

Yeah, unfortunately in smaller states it can be hard to find a good one to attend. Heck, even in big cities like SF and NYC it's hard to find an event that's all at the same time fun, interesting, and from which you get what you want. I love play parties in theory - I don't have a big nice dungeon at home! - but... it's either the space looks like someone's garage (in a bad way) or the people are weird or it's too expensive or etc etc etc.

07/25/2011

MaryExy

I'd be open to going to one, if I had the kind of dom who wanted to. I think I'd definitely want a partner there. It sounds interesting, just not sure I'd go based on my own interest; I'd need to be with someone who really wanted to go.

07/25/2011

ShadowKitten

communities around the globe vary alot, some are clichey, some are really friendly and welcoming, some are uptight and snooty. It's all about the people, over this weekend I actually attended only my second (although the first one where I actually played) play party, the main thing is basic respect for others, thats it...watch and wait until after the scene/speak at lowered volumes and all the other good stuff. Sure, some people may not talk to you but some of the times it isn't them refusing to talk to you but their Top preferring them to keep their mouth shut.

I'm still very much new even after being around for almost 3 years, the kind of person that is shy/meek and quiet unless spoken to so my overall connection the community is love/hate I suppose...

I think some of the peeps here would be helped/understand play parties better with this informative educational video: link the guy who makes these has tons of helpful stuff up so check those out if you like the one linked

07/25/2011

newfoundlust

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Originally posted by Vanessa Weiss

We have never been, but we are curious. We would not likely want to participate, but rather to observe and check it out.

07/25/2011

padmeamidala

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Originally posted by Vanessa Weiss

I used to love going to parties but they came with way too much drama for me. I much prefer private parties at home now. It's just my Master and I but maybe one day we can have a few kink friends over to play.

07/25/2011

Ms. Spice

i've been wanting to go to a kink party for a while and personally, i think it would be a great way to make friends with similar interests (of course, depends on who's there). and also, i don't have any of the equipment and won't be able to afford it in the near future, so that would also be another major plus

07/25/2011

Miss Morphine

I enjoy larger play parties and smaller private ones. We have a party after our weekly munches and I go to most of those.

07/25/2011

froggiemoma

never been but curious

07/25/2011

ac0313

We have a good sized fetish community here in central Indiana. Lots of events every month and a large party/event every couple of months. Been to two with dungeons and depending on the people, most of the ones we attend will be low protocol!

07/26/2011

M121212

I've never tried but would like to, and am a little nervous about it. Heh heh

07/26/2011

Vanessa Weiss

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Originally posted by ac0313

That sounds like a lot of fun! Low-key events are more my speed than high-protocol super-fetish stuff

07/26/2011

married with children

not something I am interested in trying. Fun time is just between my wife and I.

07/27/2011

Pixel

My local kink community runs two play parties a month, and I try to attend both. They're both fairly informal events, hosted in homes, and the main protocol seems to be 'Don't be a dick'. It's a great place to learn new things...I currently have a Domme who is teaching me how to do fireplay!

07/27/2011

Envy

Never been and I don't think I'd want to go, I'm just not one to do those kinds of things--I'm more reserved, can't just randomly get a freak on with anyone.

07/27/2011

Ava5

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Originally posted by married with children

not something I am interested in trying. Fun time is just between my wife and I.

yeah I agree, I like any of my activities to be private

07/28/2011

sarki

I'm curious abot them

07/29/2011

systematicweasel

They sound interesting ^^

08/08/2011

sexyintexas

I would LOVE to attend, but in a town as small as mine, it would be an issue finding one. Sigh....

08/08/2011

PassionQT

I would watch as a voyeur, but I'd have no inclination to participate. I prefer to do it in private.

08/08/2011

briluminary

I'm a performer and I work at fetish events and dance. I never participate in anything at the events or parties because nowadays 1/3 people are disease free and I'm extremely paranoid. But attending the events is definitely interesting and a fun time whether or not you participate!

08/09/2011

Kitka

I love play parties and Daddy loves to show off my body to other people. That and we just love hanging with people and learning some new techniques from them.

11/06/2011

LavenderSkies

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Originally posted by Vanessa Weiss

Cool- but not for me.

11/07/2011

Mistress Jezebel

I find at these events too many people forget they're there to mingle. They put themselves on a pedestal and act holier than thou.

11/07/2011

Rarity

I've never laid my eyes on a dungeon in person. I'd love to attend a play party with my partner just to socialize, but from these responses it sounds like a hit-or-miss type deal.

11/08/2011

ScarlettSeraph

I like attending events like this, but agree good space and reasonable prices can be hard to find.

One of the places we went charged $20 a head and you had to bring a snack/beverage to share. They had us sign privacy waivers etc. The play space was cramped and mediocre, the changing area was a sheet hung over a closet that had a mattress leaning against the wall and a shower chair (like for old people) in it. Then, the bartender recognized me and told my ex and a whole group of people I know that I was there. It was terrible.

My favorite event locally is held once a month in a nice club, they let us have the entire upstairs. There's a full bar and lounge areas. They set up and area for vending fetish wares and stock the place with dungeon equipment. It's only $10 to get in and no membership fees. I love it and can't wait to go back.

The best thing to do if find and talk to local scene members and see which places they like and why. Then you just have to start checking them out, see which atmosphere works for you.

11/09/2011

Girly Girl

never been to these kind of events

11/09/2011

GoneBabyGone

I haven't been to any but I would love to go to one. I think it would be fun. Especially since you are with like minded people I doubt they judge.

My fiancee has gone though and he enjoyed it (before me).

12/03/2011

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