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Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
My partner has absolutely no interest in using restraints (collars, cuffs, etc) on me during sex, but I still sometimes have that desire to be dominated, even if it's by an invisible partner during masturbation.

So, my question is, is being restrained (by yourself) feasible? Economical? Possible? Have you tried it? How did it work for you?
04/29/2011
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Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
I have not tried this, but I really want to. I had been wondering about if it was possible as well.
04/29/2011
Contributor: Noira Noira
It is possible within reason. When doing self-bondage, the first thing you have to consider, as well as the last thing, is safety. Whether that means letting someone know what you're up to, so they can come free you if it all goes wrong, or just making sure there's a way of releasing yourself. Some people will make ice locks, so that as it melts they'll be freed. (This generally involves a nylon, an o-ring, and a little bit of creativity.)

I've done a tiny bit of self-bondage using cuffs that can easily be undone. It's after all, the feeling rather than the actuality that matters, in my mind. So yes: it is both economical and feasible... as long as you keep in mind the risks your behavior may be inviting! You don't want to be a headline because you couldn't untie yourself.
04/29/2011
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I really recommend these link. The middle chain is long enough for you to unhook yourself. I did a self-bondage photo series for my Master and they worked very well. They're also nicely priced.
04/29/2011
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
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Originally posted by Noira
It is possible within reason. When doing self-bondage, the first thing you have to consider, as well as the last thing, is safety. Whether that means letting someone know what you're up to, so they can come free you if it all goes wrong, or just ... more
Oh, of course. I'm just wetting my feet in this realm, and would only stick to things I can eaaasily get out of. It's more the sensation of being restrained, not the actual restraining, I think, that does me good.

Thanks for some great suggestions!
04/29/2011
Contributor: sumie sumie
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Originally posted by Annemarie
Oh, of course. I'm just wetting my feet in this realm, and would only stick to things I can eaaasily get out of. It's more the sensation of being restrained, not the actual restraining, I think, that does me good.



Thanks for ... more
If you are more into the sensation rather than the dominant/submissive aspect you should talk to your partner about using something that does not look so BDSM-like such as silk sashes These also look like you could use them to restrain yourself in a limited aspect as well.
05/12/2011