I don't have one. He rarely gags me during play, so if something is hurting me/upsetting me/just plain doesn't feel right, I straight out tell him. Nothing against safe words and those who use them; this is just what works best for us.

For the most part, we really haven't had to use safe words. We monitor each others' reactions very closely or else straight out tell the other that we don't like what is happening. That being said, the best safe word I've heard to date is that of my friend: "Frappuccino."

We haven't picked one yet (we would if we had any consensual non-consent scenarios - but we don't), we just tell each other when to stop.

No if I am not gagged works every time. I love that my man was raised right that no means no ALWAYS. but if I am gagged we actually use hand signals or clapping of hands...particularly if I am cuffed

'White Rabbit' is our ultimate safe word. Of course, we still communicate a lot during scenes but after lots of orgasms or general sub spaceyness, I get 'small' and tend to forget how to relate things. So white rabbit (or some variation) gets my Dominant's attention really fast.