I'm a sub and personally i'm not aroused by service, but I feel it's important in long term kink relationships when both parties have defined roles (I.E. One's the dom/me and one's the sub). I know topping's a lot more work than bottoming and thus it's important for a sub to... even things out if you want those awesome scenes to continue. I think that part of keeping the spark alive is making the bed and doing the dishes, so that the dominant has the energy to scene. Anyone else have thoughts on this?
Service In Long Term BDSM Relationships
12/02/2010
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I agree...plus why frustrate him/her with those tasks if they are yours to begin with? To me, there is no sense in causing an issue when I can avoid it.
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Madeira
I'm a sub and personally i'm not aroused by service, but I feel it's important in long term kink relationships when both parties have defined roles (I.E. One's the dom/me and one's the sub). I know topping's a lot more work
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I'm a sub and personally i'm not aroused by service, but I feel it's important in long term kink relationships when both parties have defined roles (I.E. One's the dom/me and one's the sub). I know topping's a lot more work than bottoming and thus it's important for a sub to... even things out if you want those awesome scenes to continue. I think that part of keeping the spark alive is making the bed and doing the dishes, so that the dominant has the energy to scene. Anyone else have thoughts on this?
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12/02/2010
As a Dominant, I fully agree.
HAHAA!! That probably makes me sound like a jerk, but hey, my job isn't easy either. I've got to take care of all of the other things, so I expect my partner to care of the house chores.
HAHAA!! That probably makes me sound like a jerk, but hey, my job isn't easy either. I've got to take care of all of the other things, so I expect my partner to care of the house chores.
12/02/2010
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I'm a sub, and I've always wanted to do the "old fashioned" gender role activities (housework, cooking etc) That's just what I'M comfortable with.
Originally posted by
Madeira
I'm a sub and personally i'm not aroused by service, but I feel it's important in long term kink relationships when both parties have defined roles (I.E. One's the dom/me and one's the sub). I know topping's a lot more work
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more
I'm a sub and personally i'm not aroused by service, but I feel it's important in long term kink relationships when both parties have defined roles (I.E. One's the dom/me and one's the sub). I know topping's a lot more work than bottoming and thus it's important for a sub to... even things out if you want those awesome scenes to continue. I think that part of keeping the spark alive is making the bed and doing the dishes, so that the dominant has the energy to scene. Anyone else have thoughts on this?
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12/02/2010
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I'm a sub and I hate service stuff.... I suck at cooking and despise cleaning.
Originally posted by
Madeira
I'm a sub and personally i'm not aroused by service, but I feel it's important in long term kink relationships when both parties have defined roles (I.E. One's the dom/me and one's the sub). I know topping's a lot more work
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more
I'm a sub and personally i'm not aroused by service, but I feel it's important in long term kink relationships when both parties have defined roles (I.E. One's the dom/me and one's the sub). I know topping's a lot more work than bottoming and thus it's important for a sub to... even things out if you want those awesome scenes to continue. I think that part of keeping the spark alive is making the bed and doing the dishes, so that the dominant has the energy to scene. Anyone else have thoughts on this?
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That said, I try to do it cause it makes Daddy happy and the praise he gives me for doing it makes me happy.
12/02/2010
I am a Domme and my hubby is my slave. He excels at the service part of it, and I am very lucky that he also enjoys it.
12/03/2010
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