I'm kind of new to the whole kink thing. It started when I realized I LOVED when my husband (at the time, fiance) spanked me. Not just a little, but HARD. Like hard enough to leave red marks.

I'm looking for some toys that would be good for this kind of play. Nothing that will draw blood or injure someone, of course. But some good toys for newbies. I have a paddle, but it's too soft (faux leather) and it frankly doesn't hurt at all when used against my ass.

Also, what are some fun ideas for this kind of play? Are there any activies you find really fun that I may be interested in? Unfortunately my hubby doesn't like the pain, only I do. So it's a one way street. less

Other people will have more to say in the paddle arena than I will (but I've got an awesome handmade one... beautiful bloodwood, so it's a nice rich red and very dense...) It was made for me by a gentleman on the east coast, extremely affordably! I'll give you his website if you PM me).

But as far as what to do and how to do it, check out a few books. The Compleat Spanker has a lot of nuts-and-bolts information about how to spank and be spanked with only causing the correct amount of pain (the erotic amount, right?)

And then for some more entertaining reading, I believe Please, Sir had some nice spanking stories, and I know for a fact that G is for Games has the hottest spanking story I've ever read (even though the rest of the book wasn't really that great).

Books are your friend whenever you want to dip your toes into something new! less

Other people will have more to say in the paddle arena than I will (but I've got an awesome handmade one... beautiful bloodwood, so it's a nice rich red and very dense...) It was made for me by a gentleman on the east coast, extremely affordably! I'll give you his website if you PM me).

But as far as what to do and how to do it, check out a few books. The Compleat Spanker has a lot of nuts-and-bolts information about how to spank and be spanked with only causing the correct amount of pain (the erotic amount, right?)

And then for some more entertaining reading, I believe Please, Sir had some nice spanking stories, and I know for a fact that G is for Games has the hottest spanking story I've ever read (even though the rest of the book wasn't really that great).

Books are your friend whenever you want to dip your toes into something new! less

Thanks for all the awesome info! I will definitely check out the Compleat Spanker and I will PM you for that man's website. I would love a good quality paddle. I want something to give that right amount of pain I should get some books too... I haven't purchased any lately, so I'm sure that's why I didn't think of it! less