So I'm new...

So I'm new...

ToyGurl ToyGurl
I'm kind of new to the whole kink thing. It started when I realized I LOVED when my husband (at the time, fiance) spanked me. Not just a little, but HARD. Like hard enough to leave red marks.

I'm looking for some toys that would be good for this kind of play. Nothing that will draw blood or injure someone, of course. But some good toys for newbies. I have a paddle, but it's too soft (faux leather) and it frankly doesn't hurt at all when used against my ass.

Also, what are some fun ideas for this kind of play? Are there any activies you find really fun that I may be interested in? Unfortunately my hubby doesn't like the pain, only I do. So it's a one way street.
10/10/2011
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RonLee RonLee
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
I'm kind of new to the whole kink thing. It started when I realized I LOVED when my husband (at the time, fiance) spanked me. Not just a little, but HARD. Like hard enough to leave red marks.

I'm looking for some toys that would be ...
I'm perplexed, you've done over a hundred toy reviews, you're a mentor with students, you've got over seventeen hundred posts on this forum. And you're new to the whole kink thing?
10/10/2011
Angelica Angelica
I like riding crops. You can get a good one for a low price at a farm and fleet store. Mine was $6. Leaves quite the mark.
10/10/2011
Antipova Antipova
Other people will have more to say in the paddle arena than I will (but I've got an awesome handmade one... beautiful bloodwood, so it's a nice rich red and very dense...) It was made for me by a gentleman on the east coast, extremely affordably! I'll give you his website if you PM me).

But as far as what to do and how to do it, check out a few books. The Compleat Spanker has a lot of nuts-and-bolts information about how to spank and be spanked with only causing the correct amount of pain (the erotic amount, right?)

And then for some more entertaining reading, I believe Please, Sir had some nice spanking stories, and I know for a fact that G is for Games has the hottest spanking story I've ever read (even though the rest of the book wasn't really that great).

Books are your friend whenever you want to dip your toes into something new!
10/10/2011
AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
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Originally posted by RonLee
I'm perplexed, you've done over a hundred toy reviews, you're a mentor with students, you've got over seventeen hundred posts on this forum. And you're new to the whole kink thing?
I think she's referring to BDSM. I myself don't consider using toys always kinky, depends on the play and the kind of toys you use
10/10/2011
AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
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Originally posted by Antipova
Other people will have more to say in the paddle arena than I will (but I've got an awesome handmade one... beautiful bloodwood, so it's a nice rich red and very dense...) It was made for me by a gentleman on the east coast, extremely ...
I'm gonna check out the book!
10/10/2011
Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
Definitely try out the fluffy flogger.
I love it! It's got fluffy strands, so you can't be hit so hard you'll bleed or anything, but it has quite a bit of sting to it.
10/17/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
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Originally posted by RonLee
I'm perplexed, you've done over a hundred toy reviews, you're a mentor with students, you've got over seventeen hundred posts on this forum. And you're new to the whole kink thing?
Ughm, RonLee... I am referring to BDSM, aka "kink". Let's not get rude here, please.
10/18/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
Quote:
Originally posted by Antipova
Other people will have more to say in the paddle arena than I will (but I've got an awesome handmade one... beautiful bloodwood, so it's a nice rich red and very dense...) It was made for me by a gentleman on the east coast, extremely ...
Thanks for all the awesome info! I will definitely check out the Compleat Spanker and I will PM you for that man's website. I would love a good quality paddle. I want something to give that right amount of pain I should get some books too... I haven't purchased any lately, so I'm sure that's why I didn't think of it!
10/18/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
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Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
I think she's referring to BDSM. I myself don't consider using toys always kinky, depends on the play and the kind of toys you use
LOL thank you for clarifying the situtation. And yes, I was referring to BDSM. In my BDSM is referred to as "kink". I think that's just the slang we use down here?
10/18/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
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Originally posted by Princess-Kayla ♥
Definitely try out the fluffy flogger.
I love it! It's got fluffy strands, so you can't be hit so hard you'll bleed or anything, but it has quite a bit of sting to it.
Really? The paddle I have made of faux leather doesn't hurt enough, so I don't know if that would do the job? I can give it a try though! I'm open to anything!
10/18/2011
Antipova Antipova
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Originally posted by ToyGurl
Thanks for all the awesome info! I will definitely check out the Compleat Spanker and I will PM you for that man's website. I would love a good quality paddle. I want something to give that right amount of pain I should get some books too... I ...
Just noticed he doesn't have a picture sample for his bloodwood, so I took one because it's so pretty.

10/18/2011
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