Did you or your partner start off Vanilla?

Contributor: Cowgirl-Cutie Cowgirl-Cutie
Did one of you start off as completely vanilla?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes
55  (69%)
No
21  (26%)
Other
4  (5%)
Total votes: 80
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Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Cowgirl-Cutie
Did one of you start off as completely vanilla?
I was always kinky!
01/02/2013
Contributor: KinkyNicki92 KinkyNicki92
i definitely did. after my lover and i dabbled in light BDSM play we just havent went back
01/02/2013
Contributor: panthercat23 panthercat23
I was interested in kinky ideas before I started having sex.
01/02/2013
Contributor: anonkitty anonkitty
I was kinky before I knew what it was. =]
01/02/2013
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
No way
01/02/2013
Contributor: fizzygato fizzygato
I guess.

I didn't do kinky things with other people, but I had kinky thoughts (but just didn't know they were regarded as "kinky" by others) and didn't know I was doing kinky things

Me and my partners never did anything kinky until I realized what kink was, though
01/07/2013
Contributor: epiphanyjayne epiphanyjayne
My hubby yes me a little
01/07/2013
Contributor: tunacan75 tunacan75
Nope, was kinky out of the box
01/07/2013
Contributor: subbieforHer subbieforHer
Personally, I was born kinkier than a twisted garden hose but my Mistress/Owner was once my live-in vanilla girlfriend. She always had a knack for a discriminating taste and a desire to be in control... my submissive mindset had a realization one day: jackpot!

After rehearsing my thoughts a bit I gathered up as much trust and courage as I could and opened up to Her about my desires. To my delight, She fancied the idea and started reading up on Femdom and Female-Led Relationships.

We started slowly and stuck to only bedroom play at first. It took plenty of training time but soon enough I had proven that I wanted to serve and please Her- sexually, domestically, and romantically on a 24/7 Lifestyle basis.

She went from vanilla to Mistress in the course of about 3-4 months became my Owner within a year.

Coming out to a vanilla partner is worth it is if one is well prepared to do so. Just remember that a lover will, at the very least, be open enough to listen to what you have to say.
01/08/2013
Contributor: chicagobearsfan chicagobearsfan
I started out unexperienced, though I was looking to get into kink. He started out pretty much completely vanilla.
01/08/2013
Contributor: damnbul12 damnbul12
Quote:
Originally posted by Cowgirl-Cutie
Did one of you start off as completely vanilla?
nope
01/08/2013
Contributor: Boyqueen Boyqueen
Nope here.
01/09/2013
Contributor: Trixxxy Trixxxy
Wtf does "vanilla" mean?
01/09/2013
Contributor: HisLittleFiend HisLittleFiend
Quote:
Originally posted by Trixxxy
Wtf does "vanilla" mean?
Non-kinky. Like vanilla ice cream! Think missionary or one or two other positions. "Vanilla" people tend to think even the really light BDSM is mega-kinky or shameful.
01/12/2013
Contributor: HisLittleFiend HisLittleFiend
I was kind of vanilla with my current. I had a rough sexual past when I was just learning about my own sexuality, and that turned me off of any kind of sex play for a long time. Now that I'm with somebody I trust completely and love with my whole heart, I can explore myself. So, we started out with the very vanilla things, and it wasn't until I researched into it that I realized I love kink.
01/12/2013
Contributor: Trixxxy Trixxxy
Oh thats what it means Then my answer is fuck no on all levels xD I embrace the kinky.
01/12/2013
Contributor: Inkkythesquid Inkkythesquid
Nope. We Got Together Because We Were Both Looking For A BDSM Relationship.
01/12/2013
Contributor: leilani leilani
Quote:
Originally posted by Cowgirl-Cutie
Did one of you start off as completely vanilla?
nothing wrong with being vanilla... my hubby was even though he didnt see the truth underneath... he is my dom... and he is respectable because of the fact he was a vanilla.. he knows to pay attention to my reactions and to learn what is good for me and him both... it gets kinda scary sometimes as he wakes up a little more, but he always tries to back off if it gets too much
01/12/2013
Contributor: xcapricax xcapricax
My partner did now hes a dirty nasty freak like me.
01/15/2013
Contributor: marriedlady123 marriedlady123
Quote:
Originally posted by anonkitty
I was kinky before I knew what it was. =]
Me too
01/17/2013
Contributor: bog bog
Quote:
Originally posted by Cowgirl-Cutie
Did one of you start off as completely vanilla?
Always been fascinated by BDSm, but never realized I was turned on by it until later in life.
01/18/2013
Contributor: xscorpiox xscorpiox
yup
01/20/2013
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
Yup, one of us did, but we're learning.
01/21/2013
Contributor: shorejen9 shorejen9
I'd say we were both vanilla on the outside and hid our kink for a long time.
01/21/2013
Contributor: gwenevieve gwenevieve
Quote:
Originally posted by Cowgirl-Cutie
Did one of you start off as completely vanilla?
yes, my husband did but now he's just as into it as i am! ;P
01/23/2013
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by Cowgirl-Cutie
Did one of you start off as completely vanilla?
Yup...
01/23/2013
Contributor: RomanticGoth RomanticGoth
He was always vanilla, will always be vanilla. He has no interest in anything related to BDSM or kinks.
01/23/2013
Contributor: happywaffle34 happywaffle34
Quote:
Originally posted by Cowgirl-Cutie
Did one of you start off as completely vanilla?
i suppose a little vanilla. there was a lot and still is a lot of passion. but now we trust each other enough to experiment
01/23/2013
Contributor: IvyFayette IvyFayette
He was a virgin so for the first few times we stayed vanilla. I introduced things slowly to him and it took off from there. Most of the time we will have a little bit of kink and safe the big stuff for when we have a lot of free time to play.
01/23/2013