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What is your favourite aspect of BDSM?

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Contributor: His scarlett His scarlett
I love that there are so many aspects to our D/s relationship.

I adore his sadist side and that play is just perfect for my masochistic side.

The bondage is wonderful as is all the play/scening/whatever you want to call it.

But, I realised a while ago, that if it came down to it I would just wilt if I wasn't able to serve him in everything. So I wonder if that is my favourite aspect of our relationship, being his slave and literally doing everything for him (to the extent that a friend once commented that if he didn't do something for himself sometime his limbs would atrophy...). I need to be allowed to make his life easier and happier in every way I can.

That said, the idea of never having him tie me again or give me beautiful bruises would make me very sad, but if it came down to it I think I could survive (thankfully, I've never had to test that theory).

What is it for you? What aspect of BDSM could you not live without?
03/06/2013
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Contributor: AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
Actually, I think you hit on the main point why everyone does BDSM. It's the emotional connection all of it brings that really does it.
03/06/2013
Contributor: His scarlett His scarlett
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Originally posted by AmethystQueen
Actually, I think you hit on the main point why everyone does BDSM. It's the emotional connection all of it brings that really does it.
Thanks for your comment. I agree that the connection is just so amazing. It is so much deeper than in any vanilla relationship.
03/06/2013
Contributor: His scarlett His scarlett
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Originally posted by AmethystQueen
Actually, I think you hit on the main point why everyone does BDSM. It's the emotional connection all of it brings that really does it.
Thanks for your comment. I agree that the connection is just so amazing. It is so much deeper than in any vanilla relationship.
03/06/2013
Contributor: A Good Girl A Good Girl
Complete surrender
03/08/2013
Contributor: BloodHound BloodHound
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Originally posted by His scarlett
I love that there are so many aspects to our D/s relationship.

I adore his sadist side and that play is just perfect for my masochistic side.

The bondage is wonderful as is all the play/scening/whatever you want to call it.

But, ... more
The play and the emotional connection between people
03/09/2013
Contributor: His scarlett His scarlett
Thank you! It is lovely to read other's thoughts and to discover that they are so similar.
03/09/2013
Contributor: lolisadist lolisadist
The thing that gets me going to how much she relies on me. Knowing she puts that much trust into me is the part so if that suddenly went away there would be nothing. But then again, that is the whole point
03/09/2013
Contributor: Sir Sir
I could not do without any part of it, to be blunt.

These are integral parts of who I am. I am not Sir just for bedroom time or when I go to the dungeon. I am not striking someone with a flogger or crushing their flesh under my boot on weekends just because it makes me erect. These are needs, just like sex is a need for people who are not into BDSM. Sex, too, is a need of mine, but this could all easily replace sex. Nothing is more erotic to me than having a person rub their hands or tongue all over my leathers.

However, if I had to give every piece of me up, the one that I would not ever give is the power exchange. Total, complete surrender of what is mine is necessary, and needed. It is what I need from a lover in order to be at peace, in order to feel at home.
03/23/2013
Contributor: Hentialover Hentialover
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Originally posted by His scarlett
I love that there are so many aspects to our D/s relationship.

I adore his sadist side and that play is just perfect for my masochistic side.

The bondage is wonderful as is all the play/scening/whatever you want to call it.

But, ... more
When it comes to BDSM I tend to be a top, though I am willing to be a bottom. That said, I couldn't imagine not having that rough, hard, and wild feeling that I get when BDSM is involved. Sure, I like to be loving, but when it comes to 'sex' as apposed to 'fucking' I don't think I'd enjoy it nearly as much if i couldn't hold my lovers wrists down and then kiss them better afterwards.
03/26/2013