Eggs, you can say it through a ball gag.

Ours is "Henry" lol.

'Journey'. I chose it because it's the name of her blog. Thought it would make it easy to remember. It's not...

I use the traffic light system: Green, Yellow, Red. Green means great, yellow means whoaaa hold on we need to pause or renegotiate, and red means all play stops entirely and the scene is over. You really don't want to hear yellow and red is a pretty serious foul up. If gagged, the same idea is used with either holding up fingers (1 means fine, 3 means stop) or holding hands and squeezing. Its easy to integrate this system into play because you can just quietly ask 'color?' during play and continue. I think its also VERY important to have that medium level to check in at, because sometimes you can tell a scene is going downhill but if you don't hear a safeword, you assume you should keep going. Miscommunication 101.

Of course, this all depends on your level of play and your relationship with your play partner. I suppose some situations don't need such intense thought behind safewords--I love petnames over real names during vanilla sex, so if things get too rough, a quick bark of the Christian name ("DAVID! STOP!") usually does it.

Now, I use "red." Once upon a time, I chose something completely and totally off the wall when I was still *very* new to BDSM, and I needed to use it, but I forgot it. That was not the best experience. But you live and learn right?

Red. I play with a lot of people --traffic light system is best. Safeword is also the default for anyone who can't remember. Scream red or safeword and the dungeon monitor should come running.

We don't really have one even though we get super, super depraved. If I felt that I needed to use an actual safeword we're both pretty accustomed to the red/yellow/green thing or the use of the word "safeword" so I guess I'd probably use that.

The thing I use the most often if things get way too intense is "No, seriously. Stop."

If i'm gagged or otherwise unable to talk it's three grunts/taps on bed/taps on shoulder, etc.

She simply says stop, or she does a double tap somewhere on me.

If I'm playing with someone who isn't Master, I use 'red', or tap out, or just flat out tell my partner that I need the scene to stop, depending on who I am with.

I need to come up with one for my current partner, I've never liked any of the ones past partners have chosen. I know a few people who use banana, or bananaphone. I tend toward to the traffic light system, it works for me, and gives the person a chance to warn before having to call a total stop.

Pizza.

Pineapple because there should never be a pineapple in the bedroom

I use red, but I want a new word. I don't like "yellow" so I'm in the market for a new word. Red is mostly used to stop all play. I usually don't want that. When I use my safeword it's because I have reached my limit for the moment, but it will pass, and then play can continue. Yellow is most appropriate, but it just doesn't roll off the tongue.

We use the red, yellow, green system too. It's easy to use with experienced partners and new partners.

Oklahoma....

Lorem Ipsum!
It's mostly just joking though because he's ridiculously gentle with me.

The theme to jaws.
You can hum or say it no matter whether you're gagged or in pain.
Duuuuuuudum. Duuuuuudum. <- gagged
dumdum dumdum dumdum dumdum dumdumdumdumdum BANANAHHHH!!! <- in pain.

Daisy. We picked something I'd never say normally, so he knows right away.

Banana. I don't remember anymore where it came from, but it's stuck over the years.

We use banana in my circle. Its super easy for us to remember. I never heard of the stoplight system before last week. Weird!

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