I do not remember, honestly, when I said, "I'm into this lifestyle." But I know that, from childhood, I was a fetishist, I had it in me. And even before I reached my teen years, I called myself a "kinkster." So I have no idea, really. I was just born with it, I suppose!

Haven't had one yet.

I dunno - I've always been into kinky sex - never what one would call a scene per se though. I also always thought I was a sub, because of traditional roles we are all brought up with. Until I met the boy, and I guess in a way he turned me into his dom. He was the one that essentially gave me my power - I then did a lot of research on what female doms do, and I found it hilarious because I was looking at stuff, and I was like..hey! I do that! Hey that's one of my favorite things! huh...

And i realized I have been slapping boys around all my life - might as well take up the mantle and run with it. and ps - they loved it...

I have always loved having some one take control over me. When I look back, as a kid I loved playing "Cops and Robbers" being the robber was always my favorite part because I would get tied up and put in jail. But I never acted upon my BDSM fantacies until just recently. I wanted to make sure that the person I chose to do it with was both trustworthy and understood my limits. And I LOVE IT! I'm so glad that my boyfriend is the one I did it with (and hell I got him into by just telling him what I wanted and he LOVES IT TOO).

So I guess It was always in me to do it, it just took some time to actually do it. But I'm happy I did.

I think just the thought of it - seeing snipets in mainstream movies, reading about mild forms of BDSM in books - always appealed to me and aroused me even as a young teen. I just didn't realize how much I'd be into it personally until I had my first serious boyfriend who was a little more experienced than I and very much a dominant. It honestly was like a lightbulb went off the first time I felt that shared sensation of pain becoming pleasurable and the feeling of being able to let go and allow someone else to take control over me. It all kinda clicked and I haven't stopped since. I've since found out I'm actually quite naturally dominant but enjoy more being a submissive when in a trusting committed relationship - it's odd, I know, but whatever works

I used to hang myself upside down (from my knees) from the highest spot in the playground and imagine my hands and feet bound. Sometimes right-side up with the bar between my legs. I stayed in each way for several minutes and noticed my clit (didn't know the name then) throbbing lightly.

starts when i'm 18, my ex intreoduce it to me

Mine was actually in public, but in a very unpopulated place. Try the middle of the night in the middle of nowhere by a farm. It was pretty mild in comparison to most BDSM activity but essentially there was a whole lot of spanking, biting, and writhing. We were both covered in bruises. I left welts on him and drew a little blood. What was funny was there were cows mooing the entire time. It cracked me up. He got mad at me for ruining the moment.

That was my first rough sex moment, but it got more kinky from there and he was unofficially my sub. He was just a submissive guy in general...well at least with me.

My wife confessed she could never orgasm from using a vibe because the sensations became so intense that she always stopped. After watching her start and stop half a dozen times (ruining the mood), I decided to take matters in my own hands. I tied her down to the bed with some of my neck ties, straddled her stomach (reverse cowboy?), and held the vibe to her clit until she finally orgasmed - screaming and writhing. We loved it so much that we couldn't wait to do it again - gradually incorporating different variations. Today, we have a small sex shop under our bed and enjoy our playtime as often as we can.

i met a pro domme and her slave at the radio station that i worked at about 13 years ago. they where going to be on the political talk show that was on the air that day. the producer was going to be the sub, but the woman that was going to top him was sick and wasn't there that day. i was in the lounge doing some homework and the domme came up to me and said that i would make a great domme and if i wanted to learn to top someone and all the safe ways of doing things on the show. i was good friends with the host and the producer, so i was game.

i guess that i knew some things instinctively because the domme kept saying that i was better at it the first time than she was her first year.

i did spend a while training with her and i had that sub for a long time as well. i had lost contact with him for a few years but i am now back working with him.