What's the etiquette for bringing old toys with you to a new BDSM relationship? Fortunately, my partner and I are quite happy together, but as I'm amassing this stockpile of toys I can't help but wonder if I'll ever be able to use them with any other partner but her. I know that as a sub I wouldn't want anyone using a toy on me that had been exposed to someone else's body fluids, but what about items like my new (bitchin') jaguar cuffs or leather leash? Would it be insulting to a new dominant to ask to have these used on me, knowing that someone else had "broken them in"? Anyone have any experience in this?
Old toys in a new BDSM relationship?
01/30/2012
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I don't have any actual experience here, but my toy collection is very large and if I was to move on to a new relationship I definitely wouldn't be replacing everything just because it had been used with someone else.
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Entropy
What's the etiquette for bringing old toys with you to a new BDSM relationship? Fortunately, my partner and I are quite happy together, but as I'm amassing this stockpile of toys I can't help but wonder if I'll ever be able to use
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What's the etiquette for bringing old toys with you to a new BDSM relationship? Fortunately, my partner and I are quite happy together, but as I'm amassing this stockpile of toys I can't help but wonder if I'll ever be able to use them with any other partner but her. I know that as a sub I wouldn't want anyone using a toy on me that had been exposed to someone else's body fluids, but what about items like my new (bitchin') jaguar cuffs or leather leash? Would it be insulting to a new dominant to ask to have these used on me, knowing that someone else had "broken them in"? Anyone have any experience in this?
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Adding new toys for the new relationship, yes. (New, as in things I haven't bought before) If my new partner insisted on not using the used ones? I would tell them that they would have to pay for the replacements.
01/30/2012
I had an old set of shackles from a past relationship. We (current relationship) used them for a while, then got a new pair... Not because we were uncomfortable using the old ones, but because we just wanted something different, higher quality.
Talk to your partner about it. If she's comfortable with it, then it's all good. If not... well, I honestly don't know what to suggest in that situation. Keep them if you're ok with it, or give them to her in the occasion that you split?
Talk to your partner about it. If she's comfortable with it, then it's all good. If not... well, I honestly don't know what to suggest in that situation. Keep them if you're ok with it, or give them to her in the occasion that you split?
01/30/2012
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