What type of BDSM toys do you like, or would you use?

Why not let your husband explore your uncomfortable zone pushing limits. A little pain can be pleasant but yes the blindfold leading you to the unknown. Toys that he's never used on you before or maybe not even seen. All add to the wow factor. Blindfolds heighten your senses for sure.

I don't believe in inducing fear, especially while they are restrained or blindfolded. That could honestly scar them emotionally and should not be done unless they specifically ask for it.

If she is honestly uncomfortable doing something, it should not be done.

The type I like most are crops, blindfolds, and paddles. I like it all gentle.

Like used on you or your SO

ahhh,yes. As illustrated by your avatar.

Both.

I mostly agree - but sometimes the initial thought of a fetish or a fantasy may be difficult to comprehend, but I have found that with some space and time and communication, partners can adapt to ideas they never thought they would.

Although I could name dozens of situations like this throughout a 27 year marriage - the most astounding is my wife's attitude about anal play and sex. After 25+ years of - no don't go there - to lustily demanding it on a regular basis.

So my advise is don't give up on your dreams - be patient, communicate and foster a sense of adventure - a real openness to trying new ideas. If your SO knows that your primary interest in something is that you will both enjoy the adventure.

I'm not huge on blindfolds, but I like crops (and whips), and paddles could be fun too.

I assume you didn't pressure her into it and didn't do it until she was ready to. That would make it consensual and mean that she was no longer honestly uncomfortable with the idea.

I am usually willing to try anything at least once..

Agreed - 27+ of marriage will teach you patience - and other valuable lessons!

My partner and I enjoy all of these things. Her favorite is definitely being tied down and restrained

I'm glad you are both enjoying it!

Electric play toys are great for BDSM

For us spanking was an acquired taste. I was always afraid my wife would hurt her hand doing the hand-spank thing, so I bought various types of slappers, crops, floggers and paddles to see what she liked.

At first we would switch using them on one another - but it wasn't long before it became clear that I liked being on the receiving end far more than she did. This revelation started us down the road of a D/s relationship - which has deepened quite a bit.

Back to the impact implements. My wife loves having a variety to choose from - and we're partial to leather so we don't have any faux-leather, silicone or wood implements. We use (in no particular order); a split-tawse, 20" & 14" 2-ply bats (they are equestrian devices not baseball bats), a flogger with wide falls for a thuddy feel and one with thin falls for a stingy feel, a heart-imprint paddle and a studded paddle.

Shorter implements are easier to use for most of what we do - but when I'm cuffed to the door she can use the longer paddles and floggers because she's standing a bit farther away.

You may actually want to look at equestrian sites for whips, crops and bats - they are generally less expensive and pretty good quality. But when it comes to paddles and floggers you pretty much have to stay with leather product and adult product merchants.

Best of luck - and above all have fun - don't forget to have a safe word so your partner can tell you if you've gotten a little overzealous

I share your fascination with anal hooks. But logistically I haven't been able to figure out how to pull it off. A nice butt plug or double dildo seem to do the job without as much of an effort.

I'd also be a bit concerned about the possibility for injury - so for us, they remain a curriosity

A friend of mine who is quite skilled with the single tail suggests, to practice, having the bottom wear a leather coat until the top perfects their aim.


One of my personal favorite impact toys is wooden canes. *swoon*