In you're mind, what constitutes a D/s relationship? What makes it different from being play partners? less
EdenKink - Types of BDSM Relationships - Wednesday, November 16th, 2011 @ 8pm ET
In you're mind, what constitutes a D/s relationship? What makes it different from being play partners? less
I can't believe I'm this clueless....lol. less
There are relationships like these that are 24/7. For example, I am owned completely by Melen, and submit to him 24/7. ... When I'm not acting like I don't know my place, that is. =D
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I love all the stuff on there. There's also wonderful information on Polyamory.
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i hugs you. not to worry lady. me myself i'm a total dunce when it comes to this stuff. i think alot of people have no idea! us EFers are getting ahead of the mainstream just be being here and learning. i hug you.
In you're mind, what constitutes a D/s relationship? What makes it different from being play partners? less
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I love all the stuff on there. There's also wonderful information on ... more
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I love all the stuff on there. There's also wonderful information on Polyamory.
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its a real life series following a polyamorous family with one man and 4 wives.
i hugs you. not to worry lady. me myself i'm a total dunce when it comes to this stuff. i think alot of people have no idea! us EFers are getting ahead of the mainstream just be being here and learning. i hug you.
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I love all the stuff on there. There's also wonderful information on ... more
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I love all the stuff on there. There's also wonderful information on Polyamory.
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I can't believe I'm this clueless....lol. less
In you're mind, what constitutes a D/s relationship? What makes it different from being play partners? less
Where playing is about scratching an itch, D/s becomes a sort of lifestyle where the power exchange is disbalanced in favor of one partner. It's different because as play partners, everyone is calling the shots. It's about mutual agreement. D/s is about mutual consent... where one partner is consenting to being submissive and the other is consenting to taking control.
Honestly, the D/s spectrum is the part where I have the most trouble. I ID as a sadist (the more you know...!) and as a woman I'd love to be in a D/s relationship where I can be a D in the traditional sense, but everyone who wants a female D wants something I just don't ID as.
I would say that it seems to be the most common dynamic, at least from where I stand as a poster on the internet. It's less severe than the Master/slave dynamic and it's less wrapped up in sadism and masochism (therefore psychologically less 'frightening', I suppose), even though it is still about s and m.
You can have a submissive sadist. You can have a dominant masochist. D/s is about the psychological view of what you are, and it doesn't have to include s/m at all. Play partners are about the kink. D/s is about the mindset.
In my opinion. ;-)
its a real life series following a polyamorous family with one man and 4 wives.
its a real life series following a polyamorous family with one man and 4 wives.
There's so many pesky terms out there that can get crazy.
There are relationships like these that are 24/7. For example, I am owned completely by Melen, and submit to him 24/7. ... When I'm not acting like I don't know my place, that is. =D ... more
There are relationships like these that are 24/7. For example, I am owned completely by Melen, and submit to him 24/7. ... When I'm not acting like I don't know my place, that is. =D less
I'm already amazed at the array of different views and opinions mentioned. I personally have zero experience with BDSM, except a few times when we tried out blindfolding and some power-shift roleplay.
I'll be leaning back, gathering information. Generally do what I do best; lurking forums. :p
There's so many pesky terms out there that can get crazy.
its a real life series following a polyamorous family with one man and 4 wives.
I'm already amazed at the array of different views and opinions mentioned. I personally have zero experience with BDSM, except a few times when ... more
I'm already amazed at the array of different views and opinions mentioned. I personally have zero experience with BDSM, except a few times when we tried out blindfolding and some power-shift roleplay.
I'll be leaning back, gathering information. Generally do what I do best; lurking forums. :p less
I'm already amazed at the array of different views and opinions mentioned. I personally have zero experience with BDSM, except a few times when ... more
I'm already amazed at the array of different views and opinions mentioned. I personally have zero experience with BDSM, except a few times when we tried out blindfolding and some power-shift roleplay.
I'll be leaning back, gathering information. Generally do what I do best; lurking forums. :p less
why is it so underground and hush hush? this type of lifestyle for sex to me seems, now that i'm learning about it, as universal and commonplace as being hetero, homo, pan, bi or transsexual. but i know plenty of trans, bi, hetero and homosexual people. how come people dont talk about their BDSM play? or i guess, how come they dont talk about it with ME!?
why is it so underground and hush hush? this type of lifestyle for sex to me seems, now that i'm learning ... more
why is it so underground and hush hush? this type of lifestyle for sex to me seems, now that i'm learning about it, as universal and commonplace as being hetero, homo, pan, bi or transsexual. but i know plenty of trans, bi, hetero and homosexual people. how come people dont talk about their BDSM play? or i guess, how come they dont talk about it with ME!?
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its a real life series following a polyamorous family with one man and 4 wives.