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#RomanceAllYear - Do you know how to keep the fires burning?

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Contributor: Ansley Ansley




YAY! Valentine's Day is officially over (thank goodness for that, no?)! Spring is almost upon us and love is in the air, but how do we keep those fires burning all year 'round? When the kids, and the jobs, and the bills and stress of everyday life becomes just too much to handle does it significantly impact your intimate moments? If so, how do you come back together to reconnect?



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Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
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02/20/2013
Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
For me and my guy, reconnecting often means getting the hell out of the house. Too often, especially in winter, we tend to stay in and drive each other nuts cuz we're bored. Getting out and about, going to dinner or the mall or even for a walk with the dogs, helps us let go of the stress of being jammed together in the house all the time and laugh and let go and have fun.

Romantic hotel weekends also rock
02/20/2013
Contributor: zj22 zj22
Reconnecting for me and my partner means just taking time for each other, with all the craziness of day to day life it's hard sometimes. We like to watch soccer (football) games in bed together while sipping tea. And then during the game we cuddle and discuss what's going on with us. It's nice to just have that time together, and have it not just be about sex either. Even when there's no soccer on we still make the time to relax together and let everything else go.
02/20/2013
Contributor: captainsgirl captainsgirl
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Originally posted by Ansley
YAY! Valentine's Day is officially over (thank goodness for that, no?)! Spring is almost upon us and love is in the air, but how do we keep those fires burning all year 'round? When the kids, and the jobs, and the bills and stress of everyday ... more
We will designate a date night of alone time and buy something new to spice up the night life.
02/20/2013
Contributor: SparkleDs SparkleDs
I don't really have a significant other I would guess going camping or taking a trip would be how I would want to change things up. Get back to nature and eliminate stress.
02/20/2013
Contributor: Silverdrop Silverdrop
We have time set aside every evening between when we turn off tv and computers and such and when we try to sleep. That is our time, and we spend it snuggling, talking, reading to each other, and (of course!) having sex. It means a lot to us to have this time each day.
02/20/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
I'm hoping that it will get warmer soon so we can do more active things outside like go on walks. And it's always nice to make time for each other like we give each other massages or cuddle up by the fireplace and talk.
02/20/2013
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
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Taking a night off once a week really helps us, especially when we both have really killer class schedules and lame family functions.
02/20/2013
Contributor: surfer surfer
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Originally posted by Ansley
YAY! Valentine's Day is officially over (thank goodness for that, no?)! Spring is almost upon us and love is in the air, but how do we keep those fires burning all year 'round? When the kids, and the jobs, and the bills and stress of everyday ... more
Trips are always a nice way to reconnect and relax together. When traveling is not an option, we try to plan time focused on us -- whether it's a quiet evening cooking, watching movies, and cuddling or a peaceful day kayaking on a creek. Having that kind of time to appreciate each other's company builds intimacy and definitely has a positive impact on our love life.
02/20/2013
Contributor: scottr scottr
it can be as simple as going for a walk hand in hand
02/20/2013
Contributor: kitty1949 kitty1949
I don't have a partner, but I make sure I keep myself satisfied.
02/20/2013
Contributor: meitman meitman
Anytime we can be alone with just the two of us and we can spend quality time doing anything. That always helps us get back on track.
02/20/2013
Contributor: Rita Spratlen Rita Spratlen
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02/21/2013
Contributor: Do emu Do emu
We live on opposite sides of the world, but rarely have problems keeping the romance alive. Even a simple moment of appreciation during the day makes things worth it. Guess we're lucky.
02/21/2013
Contributor: Fun2 Fun2
You get some new toys and spend some together time.
02/21/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
You have to set time aside that is just for you two - preferably once a week. If that means getting out of the house, so you're not interrupted by children or whatever, then that's what you do.

And I don't mean get together with others, either. Just the two of you, maybe some nifty toys from Eden & spending some time reconnecting. Go to a show or be waited on -- even go to a hotel.

You can surprise each other by trading off who gets to plan the activity for that date. I think it's important to have this time be a priority & not put it off or re-schedule. You need to re-focus on why you got together in the first place!
02/21/2013
Contributor: LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
Making sure we set aside one day a week to spend time together usually. We play video games together, skype, watch TV shows or movies, and have webcam sex.

Sometimes we don't have a whole day anymore. Q_Q But we still set aside as much of one as we can.
02/21/2013
Contributor: shorejen9 shorejen9
It can be hard during this time of year. We are all stuck in the house, our daughter who is two starts to get antsy for playing outside but its still too cold. We just try to keep the lines of communication open and listen to each other.
We don't get leave our daughter with anyone so going out for a date isn't a possibility. Just not something we do.
02/21/2013
Contributor: fizzygato fizzygato
I guess. To an extent.

Just last night I was too busy with homework to have sex with an old romantic interest.

She was in town unexpectedly but I couldn't because I had a major 10 page lab report and shirt designs due tomorrow (now today). I still haven't finished but hope to finish/ that she's still available tonight. She's just here till Friday

So it wasn't even spring and I was too busy. Season doesn't matter. Amt of schoolwork does
02/21/2013
Contributor: Missy27 Missy27
Have date nights. Even if its at home with the kids home we rent a movie and go off to our room for a few hours. No one allowed as we are on a date.
02/21/2013
Contributor: Baron Kaputnick Baron Kaputnick
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Originally posted by Ansley
YAY! Valentine's Day is officially over (thank goodness for that, no?)! Spring is almost upon us and love is in the air, but how do we keep those fires burning all year 'round? When the kids, and the jobs, and the bills and stress of everyday ... more
Yes it does. We've found that writing intimate/sexy notes to one another is a good way to keep the fire burning. Nothing like opening an email to find a saucy story!
02/21/2013
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
We love spending time together and doing things for each other, so it's pretty easy to keep it going. Sometimes we get busy and tired, but luckily that is the exception.
02/21/2013
Contributor: Chastity Darling Chastity Darling
A date night away from the kids. A few mixed drinks and some romantic music keeps the flame alive.
02/21/2013
Contributor: lildrummergrl693 lildrummergrl693
It's all about making sometime that is just for the two of you. Turning off the phone and computer, and locking the door. Forgetting that the outside world still exists
02/21/2013
Contributor: Angeleyes7 Angeleyes7
Its all about making some peaceful time that is just for you and your significant other. I personally think nature, camping, a nice warm fire, a good bottle of wine, or a couple beers and just the two of you. Can be really sexy making love in nature like that. That would help me reconnect no doubt
02/21/2013
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
I have no partner, so no real tips from me. I'm glad some of you have ways to keep the fires burning!
02/21/2013
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
wish I had someone to connect with.
02/21/2013
Contributor: ADrew ADrew
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
YAY! Valentine's Day is officially over (thank goodness for that, no?)! Spring is almost upon us and love is in the air, but how do we keep those fires burning all year 'round? When the kids, and the jobs, and the bills and stress of everyday ... more
We have been very lucky over the years that we are both very focused on staying connected emotionally, mentally and physically. We meet for lunch once a week to talk about a book that we pick to read together. We don't always have time for the full hour long sex romp so we make sure we are doing everything we can to keep each other satisfied, which means sometimes I help her and sometimes she helps me. As our kids are getting older (14 and 17) we find we have much more time in the house alone and we take full advantage of those times to do all the things we haven't had a chance to do for a while!
02/21/2013
Contributor: chicmichiw chicmichiw
Take-out and movie night, and a big, fluffy blanket if it's cold out.
02/21/2013