I just want to throw it out there that when women criticize or control other women, it usually still boils down to patriarchy and its standards for women, such as women policing each other's make up or clothes when those standards were created by men, who determine what sexy is in society. All women are trying to get ahead in a patriarchal society, and therefore they often adopt its principles and use them against others. I have been guilty of this in the past, and through feminism, have now worked toward not judging or criticizing women, including my housewife mother, which a poster above alluded to feminists hating. less

I'm really not crazy about the presentation of that article. Two ideas that don't join, it seems to me.

A letter to his baby is awesome, and many things in there truly are the secret to life--nobody can make your decisions but you, and the sooner you learn that, the sooner you can enjoy it. However, wrapping that beautiful sentiment around a fist aimed at Feminism is a punch out of nowhere, and reads more like sassy pouty finger-pointing than any true insight.

I mostly consider myself a feminist. I think I should have an an equal opportunity to a job as a man, earn compensation at the same rate. I don't think ladies invite or deserve sexual assault, and I abhor the mentality that 'it isn't that big of a deal'. I'm proud of the accomplishments my grandmother made for her daughter and what my mother made for me. I've never been critical of another woman for her decision to have children, and if she does, whether she should hold a job at the same time. That decision seems to be mostly financially based, but since I've never been in the position, its no business of mine to say so.

However, I've never encountered a violent gang of screaming feminists that .... what does he say again? ... "People – and feminists especially, because you’re a woman – won’t want you to achieve your ambitions, or do great things, or live on your own terms, because it is a raw and painful reminder that they haven’t done the same. " Haters gonna hate, alright, but how *especially* feminists do this, I'd love to know. The point of feminism is to empower, not destruct, and THAT is the lesson that should be taught, not that radical others are wrong.

This 'letter' was more disrespectful than kind. Why not just come out and speak your disagreements, why hide behind a child? That's certainly how it seems.

Oh! And calling women 'wretched bitches' in a letter written to your own daughter?! Thats a Super Awesome thing to say. Way to make an example. Calling other women bitches (or anything on the mean lady list) gives social permission for someone else to call her the same. Its not a difficult concept to understand and its not a hard habit to correct. That has nothing to do with feminism, either, it is basic reciprocal decency.

How about telling her that she can be the best in ALL of her classes, if she wants to. Tell her she can be a ballerina, or a physicist, or a lawyer, or a programmer. Tell her to stand up for herself when people are unkind or unfair. Tell her that her heart will break, but it will heal, and be made better for it. Tell her that courage is being scared, but getting the job done anyway. Tell her all of the things that stand her up and make her strong, not break her and other little girls like her down. The daddies that demonstrate respect and love towards the women in his little girl's life are the daddies that earn brave daughters. Tell her to be brave. less

Welcome to this week's featured SexIs article:


Dear Daughter: Live Without Limits, by Roland Hulme!



Roland (aka Champagne and Benzedrine) is having a baby soon! In honor of International Women's Day, he wrote a letter to his unborn child telling her a few things he'd like the baby to know about our current society if it's born a girl.

It's no secret Roland has a scathing view of feminism. In particular, he takes issue with feminists who judge women just as harshly as the patriarchal society they profess to be against. So it's no surprise that Roland tells his daughter to watch out for these kinds of women.

From the article:
It’s been a long time coming – today is only the “best” era for women because it’s been kind of shitty for them for the rest of the 100,000 years leading up to this point – but be aware that you’re going to become an adult in a world that, for the first time ever, will potentially be ruled by women.

But don’t think that’s going to make it easy for you.

One of the first challenges you’re going to face being a woman is that everybody and their mother (including your own mother) will expect you to look, and act, and talk a certain way. Your presence will be challenging to them, and they will want you to conform to an expectation that makes them feel comfortable. People – especially other women – want to control women.

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I understand what you are saying, but doesn't blaming men for women's behavior towards each other take away power and responsibility from women? If we excuse it by saying, "That's OK. The patriarchy made you that way," how can anyone expect to move forward? It excuses a woman's behavior as something set out by a man, and therefore not her fault. Isn't taking away that personal choice and responsibility, by definition, anti-feminist? less