I love it all. We are relatively new to sex toys. I enjoy using them on my man, and invite him to get creative using them on me. We've been having a lot of fun lately!

Now keep in mind, I'm not saying either is better than the other, however the experiences definitely are different! I love solo play and mutual play each in their own lovely way, so if it sounds like I'm all about only the couple stuff, it's only because such is the scope of the question. I love self love immensely as well however.

Now then, I most definitely love when my partner uses my toys on me, and when I use on her as well.

No matter how well you know your toy, no matter how many times you have used it and think you have felt each and every last way to enjoy it, everything changes when a partner uses it on you.

First noticable thing before even using it is that positioning gets a major buff. Suddenly you aren't constrained to an arm's natural range of mobility, or a smooth surface and a suction cup. You can now all of a sudden be bent, straightened, stretched or otherwise all in every which way.

After that, the control or power dynamic shift changes. Using a toy independently will only happen as quick, slow, deep, shallow and more but only according to how you decided to in that moment do it. With a partner, things get more unpredictable. Suddenly it's not you riding something, but rather it's now thrusting in its own accord at you, it too being lost in pleasure. Suddenly it's at a different angle, or all now stimulating you in a particularly intense way you yourself wouldn't be able to keep up if purely on your own.

Much of BDSM plays on this especially, and is a reason why alone we can have a good time, yet with a partner taking the lead we can experiences sensations, excitement, and intensity we ourselves never realized was a thing. Power play, sensation play, even fear can all be experienced with a partner in ways unable to be on ones own.

There is plenty of more, however those are just some pros and differences between independently and with a partner using our toys, and that's not even breaking into COUPLES TOYS, which is an altogether lovely, sexy and totally different thing within itself!