You did a wonderful job with this article! If it makes you feel any better, my husband (also my Master) emailed me today saying he's been feeling overwhelmed. He says he's been worried about me (even though I assure him I'm fine a thousand times over) and constantly thinking of little interactions that he normally wouldn't. I was kinda confused because I just assumed he had the easier job. He just had to set the rules and then I had to be the one to do everything with following them. Apparently being the one on the other end of the flogger can be emotional and doesn't happen overnight as well. This gave me some good insight into what's probably going on in his head that he can't quite articulate. less

great job on the article!!! sounds like you may have rushed into the BDSM thing a little... you can be kinky without being in a Ds relationship. my Mister and i have both played Dominate roles in previous relationships now in our relationship its not a Ds one its more like kinky vanilla. You can still be equals in like and just one be more of a Top and one a bottom. He spanks me and we do scenes and during play he's the Dom but its not done as punishment, its done because we both enjoy it ... but as soon as scene/playtime is over we go back to being equals.. you need to sit back and consider where BDSM fits in for you and your life. every couple is different just take your time and explore all the different aspects and talk to people that have lived the lifestyle for a long time, dont base something like this off of fantasy based book. feel free to email me if you ever have any questions, i'd be happy to give advise where i can less

Kira- Thank you SO much for all of your help with everything. You have no idea how much you have eased my mind, and helped me to see both sides of things. Just goes to show that sometimes you can get so worked up over something that is totally normal! less