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Contributor: Gary Gary
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Anatomy of Sexual Humor (and Yes, You Can Touch Those Bits Down There)
Realistically I would assume that we are most likely drawn towards finding humor in, and making light of, anything sex related because of the serious issues and emotional strains that can often accompany sex in our lives. Finding humor in sex helps us to both maintain a levelheaded perspective in times of extreme tension, and also to blow of a little steam here and there. It is a symbiotic relationship, and maintaining a proper balance is essential to sanity and happiness. Also, masturbation can really help to grease the wheels of the process.

Sex and humor are two very essential ingredients in our everyday lives. Individually they are powerful, but when combined…

Well let’s just try to imagine if Luke Skywalker had said “sure, why not” to Darth Vader. Then together they killed the Emperor, and ruled the universe as Father and Son. Maybe sex did give birth to humor, (or vice versa), but that’s not really the point I was trying to make.

Sex and Humor together, focused like the rays of the Deathstar, are unstoppable
03/20/2009
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Contributor: PurpleReign PurpleReign
I think you might mean laughter and good humour, intimately tied to what is in essence a very silly activity, when looked at from an impartial perspective. That makes your point of 'unstoppable'.

Ah, but Yeti, what do you make of the concept that behind every joke is a spark of anger or of a wrong being redressed?
03/20/2009
Contributor: Gary Gary
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Originally posted by PurpleReign
I think you might mean laughter and good humour, intimately tied to what is in essence a very silly activity, when looked at from an impartial perspective. That makes your point of 'unstoppable'.

Ah, but Yeti, what do you make of the ... more
That is a valid point, I was generalizing.

Why is it that most jokes are only funny when there is some kind of victim? Maybe you are right about there being a spark of anger. I have always looked at anger as being the outcome of other emotions such as fear and frustration. So maybe humor, and even more specifically, laughter, helps deal with all types of bottled up emotions and insecurities... and also sex.
03/20/2009
Contributor: Mr Guy Mr Guy
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Originally posted by Gary
That is a valid point, I was generalizing.

Why is it that most jokes are only funny when there is some kind of victim? Maybe you are right about there being a spark of anger. I have always looked at anger as being the outcome of other emotions ... more
I think it depends, as far as making someone else the butt of the joke. Granted, there's a ton of unresolved misogyny, homophobia, racism, misandry out there, and it yields some unseemly humor.

Then there's what I like to call 'reindeer games comedy'. In my own philosophy, everyone SHOULD be made fun of - regardless of and because of their every difference and similarity. And it's not to be cruel - it's just human bonding; after all, laughter is a language we all speak. And it's good to be able to laugh at yourself. Take a Don Rickles show - on the surface, it's incredibly abrasive, if not offensive - but at the same time, it's incredibly life-affirming, because EVERYBODY is in on the joke - and the ultimate joke is that we're all pretty much the same, regardless of all the distinctions we throw up.

As a writer, however, I'm a big believer in the joke coming back around - if you're going to grandstand and make fun of others, then the joke has to come back onto joke-writer. The written word isn't always subtle enough (especially in this age of Everybody's Offended) to convey that jokes are just jokes, unless you telegraph the moral out at the end: here's the final, world-shattering joke - on me!
03/20/2009
Contributor: Cinnamon Chambers Cinnamon Chambers
Well, i laugh at my self more than I do other people. That is just me, so does that mean I hate myself deep inside?
03/20/2009
Contributor: Cinnamon Chambers Cinnamon Chambers
Shoot the rest of my reply disappeared.

My favorite sex memories are the funny lighthearted ones. I love giggling and laughing and just having fun with sex and everyday life.

How can sex not be funny at times, sit down and play with some testicles and a scrotum for 30 min and you will see what I mean! Funny stuff will just start to happen.
03/20/2009
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
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Originally posted by Cinnamon Chambers
Well, i laugh at my self more than I do other people. That is just me, so does that mean I hate myself deep inside?
Ahahah, Cinnamon Chambers!

Not quite related to where this topic has turned, I find that "kidding on the square" is a really effective way to express frustration or misgivings in a tense situation. At least for me it is. It makes me feel less pent up and usually lightens the mood a bit.
03/20/2009
Contributor: PurpleReign PurpleReign
Hi Pink,

(expand: "kidding on the square" 22 min.)

Alright, I'll come clean on this. I was, until REALLY enveloped by winegrowing and winemaking, a satirist in Canada that had upset Prime Ministers and got them to issue death threats. Jokes are an aspect of humour, which I raise with Yeti, that are dangerous (and certainly deathly - read Freud on humour) to analyze. But laughter in the bed...that is a radically different category. It matches sex on every level, meaning it 'feels' the same...authentic...at that level. That's why I think Yeti is righ. However amusement, diversion, joy etc. in the pure moment is, I belive, different than the humour of a joke, or even a great cartoon...whether a classic New Yorker or Playboy one (even an early National Lampoon one, as it goes). I believe that the ones that have the most effect (and get the best soul-centered laughter) are like minor explosions to the status quo.

However, nothing really sounds as funny or as absurd as a good session of wet sexual congress, which is about as close to slapstick comedy (and the one most humans seem to agree on - ie Charlie Chaplin in the early 20th century in the silent era) as most of us ever effect.

(too much wine, one the death of my father-in-law (93.5 years) after prostate cancer; hence my wife's vow yesterday: "I've seen what the terrible role of the prostate can be. I think it's time we found the good part.)
03/20/2009