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Contributor: KnK KnK
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
That can also depend on the store though. The two closest to my house can be a little seedy and they also both have peep show back rooms. While the next 2 closest to me are both remarkably clean and very nice and secure. But if you go into say, a ... more
Oh, I understand. I guess I'm assuming the ones that don't card would be more seedy, course that's just an assumption on my part.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by KnK
Oh, I understand. I guess I'm assuming the ones that don't card would be more seedy, course that's just an assumption on my part.
I'm not sure. I guess it's probably that it would be more likely that way? All of the ones by me card, no matter what - and it's probably more stringent because 3 of the 4 I frequent have peep shows as well.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
I know a couple girls who worked in sex shops in Toronto and they had to deal with men jerking off all over the greeting cards and porn. There were also a lot of lewd remarks being thrown around. This was a pretty well known and respected shop on a busy main st as well.
12/07/2010
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
I don't think anyone under the age of 18 should be able to purchase toys, not because I think people under 18 shouldn't be using toys but more because we're losing milestones left and right in this day and age. I couldn't wait until I was 18 so I could walk into the local headshop and get whatever I wanted. Had I asked for a vibrator my mother probably would have let me pick one through a catalog and order it for me but it wasn't key to my sexual development and I doubt having a toy under 18 would have quelled any sort of curiosity I may have had.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Robin Goodfellow Robin Goodfellow
I think buying toys, and using forums should be open to those under 18. The age 18 is an arbitrary number that has little to do with actual maturity and brain development. Just like all of us, those that are younger than 18 have a right to explore their bodies and their sexuality and enjoy the wisdom and encouragement that people here share.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
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Originally posted by Robin Goodfellow
I think buying toys, and using forums should be open to those under 18. The age 18 is an arbitrary number that has little to do with actual maturity and brain development. Just like all of us, those that are younger than 18 have a right to explore ... more
It can depend. The adult forums I go to, they also share porn and role play sexually with each other. By having underaged people it puts the forum at risk with child pornography and they could have been shut down.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Kim! Kim!
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Originally posted by Emma (Girl With Fire)
I agree with this law fully. If you are under 18 and want a sex toy ask your parent to go buy you one or to let you choose one online and pay for it through paypal or their card. Some parents are obviously not going to allow this, but most, when face ... more
I wouldn't say that if you cannot have that conversation with your parents you aren't ready. I know mine would have absolutely flipped out and I would have been grounded if I approached them asking for a sex toy. There are a lot of parents out there who are not at all laidback.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
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Originally posted by Kim!
I wouldn't say that if you cannot have that conversation with your parents you aren't ready. I know mine would have absolutely flipped out and I would have been grounded if I approached them asking for a sex toy. There are a lot of parents ... more
Agreed. My dad will kick me out if he finds my toys, and I'm over 20, so that says a lot.

Some parents are just prudes and sex is a taboo issue. It happens.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
I agree which is why I said that this would not work with all parents.
12/07/2010
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by Robin Goodfellow
I think buying toys, and using forums should be open to those under 18. The age 18 is an arbitrary number that has little to do with actual maturity and brain development. Just like all of us, those that are younger than 18 have a right to explore ... more
Contact your local congressman. It's a federal and state imposed law. I don't mean that in a snarky way, really. Since EF is a website and therefore nationwide, there would have to be law revision in every state to allow them to make a sale/allow posting in the forums, anyone under the age of 18. This would truly be a feat too, because in some states, like Alabama, you're not even allowed to purchase/own sex toys.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Jessica Elizabeth Jessica Elizabeth
I think if you're underage (meaning under 18 or 21, whatever the applicable law is) then you simply need to deal with it; it's the law. Whether or not it's "right" has no meaning, I know many under 18 mature enough to handle sex toys, and many over 18 not mature enough to handle getting dressed in the morning. It's really too bad it can't be a case by case basis. As for porn I think you should be a little older; but again: it's case by case.

As for Spencer's the one back home never carded that I saw, but then again I didn't buy sex toys there and being almost 30 I rarely get carded for anything anymore despite the fact that I don't look my age. I in fact barely look old enough to drink. I've been in actual "sex shops" who haven't carded me. *shrugs* If they don't want to follow the law, they can deal with the consequences.
12/07/2010
Contributor: ZenaidaMacroura ZenaidaMacroura
The Spencer's here doesn't card, but I'm sure they are supposed to and probably do in a lot of places. I got my first vibrator at a Spencer's when I was 18, and I wasn't carded, though it would have been fine if I was. And they definitely don't care who goes into the back end of the store, though they probably should. I see kids back there half the time. This is probably a special case where the people working at this particular store just don't give a crap or can't be bothered to do what they're supposed to.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
Also, don't you all think it's a little immature to argue back and forth about Spencer's practices? I mean, really!
Haha, YES! I'm sorry to have read it.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
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Originally posted by Jessica Elizabeth
I think if you're underage (meaning under 18 or 21, whatever the applicable law is) then you simply need to deal with it; it's the law. Whether or not it's "right" has no meaning, I know many under 18 mature enough to handle ... more
I agree. Just deal with it. I think alcohol is much more dangerous than weed, but our government thinks differently, so I deal with it.
12/07/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Robin Goodfellow
I think buying toys, and using forums should be open to those under 18. The age 18 is an arbitrary number that has little to do with actual maturity and brain development. Just like all of us, those that are younger than 18 have a right to explore ... more
Then by your rationale there exist people who should have a higher limit, and I think that we all accept that in the ideal world things such as this would be controlled by individual maturity, but we can't easily do that, so we fall back to age limits in the law. If you think it should be changed then come up with a good argument and start writing your representatives - but don't expect anything big. There are too many people who would be unhappy with this and not enough people who would be ecstatic to make it worth the risk for most politicians.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by mariah
at spencers they cheak ids? or sex shop? i never been in a sex shop so i dont know about thoes... but at spencers they let everyone in and everyone buy.
At Spencer's if you try to buy anything "Adult" they will check your ID
12/07/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
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Originally posted by mariah
well when i was in high school. EVERYONE just went to spencers to get them. maybe its just oregon? idk. but ya just go to spencers and walk in there and get one then leave... they never cheaked ids or anything.. and i herd rummors that u can go into ... more
It's illegal for them not to check ID's at the store as far as I know. Here, they stop you at the front door and ask for ID. There's no just walking in "oh I'm 18 no worries." You have to show ID. My best friend is 37 and they still ID her.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
This is how I feel:

It shouldn't be based on age. Any of it. Period. Some individuals are adult enough before hitting eighteen to deal with such things. Some are not. Do not penalize the ones who are for the ones who are not. It's generalization, which is never a good thing.

So all of your choices are not how I feel, if that helps.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
Quote:
Originally posted by Robin Goodfellow
I think buying toys, and using forums should be open to those under 18. The age 18 is an arbitrary number that has little to do with actual maturity and brain development. Just like all of us, those that are younger than 18 have a right to explore ... more
Agreed. YES!

Finally, I find someone who feels the way that I do. Thank you.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Not here Not here
I'm curious as to why you would include "I don't want to answer because I'm under 18" as a choice when this website clearly states on the bottom of every page,

"This website is intended solely for viewing and purchasing by an adult audience. If you are under 18 years old (21 years old in some states) we ask you to leave this website. Please do."

While I'm not jumping to any conclusions, it's a bit off-putting that you would have that as a voting option.
12/07/2010
Contributor: Mistress Kitty Mistress Kitty
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Originally posted by Sir
This is how I feel:

It shouldn't be based on age. Any of it. Period. Some individuals are adult enough before hitting eighteen to deal with such things. Some are not. Do not penalize the ones who are for the ones who are not. It's ... more
I agree completely.
12/07/2010
Contributor: mariah mariah
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Originally posted by Not here
I'm curious as to why you would include "I don't want to answer because I'm under 18" as a choice when this website clearly states on the bottom of every page,

"This website is intended solely for viewing and ... more
i guess i put that there as a joke?
12/07/2010
Contributor: just a sub just a sub
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Originally posted by Not here
I'm curious as to why you would include "I don't want to answer because I'm under 18" as a choice when this website clearly states on the bottom of every page,

"This website is intended solely for viewing and ... more
that was my first thought when i saw it
12/08/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by just a sub
that was my first thought when i saw it
lol me three
12/08/2010
Contributor: cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
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Originally posted by mariah
well when i was in high school. EVERYONE just went to spencers to get them. maybe its just oregon? idk. but ya just go to spencers and walk in there and get one then leave... they never cheaked ids or anything.. and i herd rummors that u can go into ... more
spencers has retarted things for the most part... why are wondering about this if you are 18?
12/08/2010
Contributor: cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
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Originally posted by Throwingawaysoon
My wife (fiance at the time) was actually not allowed to go into their erotic section because she was 17. They wouldn't let her because they changed their policy for minors. Now, please do the following for whichever browser applies to ... more
LMAO! I am so following you
12/08/2010
Contributor: cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
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Originally posted by mariah
hmm.. well the two mall i been to that i been in there spencers i never had a probem with the age when i was.. i look young.. so its not that i look older or anything., so idk?
You act young too. Since you are on Eden, do you honestly feel the need to go into a sex shop anyways ?

If you are 18 then you would get things mailed to you anonymously, unless you live at your parent's house (no offense lots of people do..) and aren't supposed to have them.
12/08/2010
Contributor: cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
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Originally posted by Airekah
Thank you. I was hoping you would say something about this before I felt the need to.

Honestly, Mariah.. rules are in place for certain reasons. You may feel like people should be allowed to own sex toys at any age, but for others it just ... more
I feel like minors should not be allowed to buy sex toys due to their psychological parameters.

As a minor you are still maturing and developing, and it is not appropriate, in my opinion, for you to get involved in things that could affect you in negative ways.

Fun Fact: Gray matter is the "wise" part of the brain which grows as people get older. It is not fully developed until about age 23 for females and about age 25 for males.
12/08/2010
Contributor: cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
Same by me. Well, if you look like you may be underage, they check at the door. I look 'of age' (I'm 28 and have stopped getting carded places )and my boyfriend is 14 years my senior so we never gets questioned.

But we were in a ... more
Don't worry Tori, I hardly get carded and I'm only 22! I actually like when someone cards me..
12/08/2010
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
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Originally posted by cherryredhead88
Don't worry Tori, I hardly get carded and I'm only 22! I actually like when someone cards me..
I get carded all the time when I buy booze. especially when I am not rocking a beard. I had a women think I was 16... Never shaving again... NEVER... Or cutting my hair again... I'll look like a mountain man before long!
12/08/2010