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Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
It would totally turn me off. Like, any kind of poop that I have to touch or that occurs outside the toilet would completely turn me off and ruin the experience for me. Should I even bother experimenting? I'm 21 and have not done so thus far, so I feel a little prudish, but... frankly, I just cannot handle poop.

Farting is like, kind of okay, but if it happened in front of a partner I'd absolutely never be able to continue.

P.s.: I'm referring to experimenting with toys, being with a partner... god, I wonder if I'll ever find a mate at this point, because this just adds to the list of things I will probably never do.
10/05/2012
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Contributor: luggit luggit
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Originally posted by emiliaa
It would totally turn me off. Like, any kind of poop that I have to touch or that occurs outside the toilet would completely turn me off and ruin the experience for me. Should I even bother experimenting? I'm 21 and have not done so thus far, so ... more
I'm not a fan of the poop department, so this can count me out too, lol
10/05/2012
Contributor: cricket cricket
Lol wut?
10/05/2012
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
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Originally posted by cricket
Lol wut?
10/05/2012
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
Is everyone point farming today or does anyone actually have some helpful advice?
10/07/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
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Originally posted by emiliaa
Is everyone point farming today or does anyone actually have some helpful advice?
I am a beginner myself, but I'm interested to see if anyone has anything useful to contribute.
10/07/2012
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
Thank you. And those who are asking 'wut', if you are seriously confused, I'm referring to anal play....and the risk therein of poop occurring.
10/07/2012
Contributor: mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
You know, I have only had a poop experience once with anal. Thank god it was in the shower, which allowed for it to be avoided in the most part! Otherwise, it probably would have damaged me! I don't think the fear of poop should keep you from basic experimenting. The one time I saw poop was with a 7" vibe. Never on my butt plug or fingers. Until you've had an anal orgasm, you shouldn't write off anal! That's my two cents.

Non-sexually, I fart in front of my partner, like just laying in bed and whatever. I couldn't be with someone who I wasn't comfortable enough with to fart in front of.

On two occasions in my whole life I have farted during sex. Once during oral, and once in actual sex. Both times I was utterly mortified and it still bothers me...bother is actually an understatement. It killed the sexy mood, but luckily my man is a sweetie and just laughed it off. However, he still makes fun of me to this day, and it is a worry now.
10/07/2012
Contributor: jr2012 jr2012
I don't know if this helps much, because I have only had anal with a partner...but I was actually surprised that there was no poop inside me to embarrass me the first time. I don't know if I'm just lucky or it's my high fiber diet or what, but it's never happened.

Farting, however is a whole different story. I have had all kinds of farting noises during anal, air just gets in and pushes back out...at least it wasn't stinky. I have been with my partner for a long time and we just giggle about it, though.

I sort of thing playing with toys would be a really great place to start with this, you can figure out what your body will do on your own, instead of having an embarrassing situation on your hands. And think, if you did get a partner who happened to be interested in anal, you would be a hero if you've practiced

wow that was a revealing reply, LOL!
10/08/2012
Contributor: Alyxx Alyxx
I've only had one bad experience involving anal and poop, but my boyfriend was awesome and we just laughed about it and jumped in the shower together to get cleaned off. If it worries you too much, think about picking up an enema kit here or at a pharmacy to make sure you are entirely cleaned out before you start to play.

And I agree, it may be embarrassing but I could never be with someone I wasn't comfortable enough to fart in front of.
10/08/2012
Contributor: bsgs bsgs
there have been times where some comes out on the dildo, weve found that beads are the worst for that sort of stuff though, but that makes sense, being in that they are typically longer and kinda shaped like a squeegee. ive felt it in my wife when i was fingering her before. its not really a big deal. i feel that if youre going to play back there its a possibility of the area, and the pleasure that comes from anal play outweighs the not so pleasant side effect. it doesnt happen all the time either, just depends on how prepared you are.
10/08/2012
Contributor: EastCoast36 EastCoast36
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Originally posted by emiliaa
It would totally turn me off. Like, any kind of poop that I have to touch or that occurs outside the toilet would completely turn me off and ruin the experience for me. Should I even bother experimenting? I'm 21 and have not done so thus far, so ... more
My wife and I have only had anal sex a few times. She has hangups and only tried/offered it to make me happy. I literally have fantasies about her wanting to explore anal play. I have even purchased a few small/medium plugs to stir her curiosity. She has not been willing to try them to this point.

I have so much desire that I wanted to get some feel of what I was asking her for. I have tried a finger, the groove, and mood naughty medium plug. I have not had trouble inserting when relaxed, and it was pleasurable and mild. The only "issue" I have had is a number of times it did not seem as clean as many on this forum describe. Nothing too gross, but it seems difficult for me to tell if I am completely prepared. I have never eaten lighter or fasted for play. I experimented once with an enema by emptying the solution and replacing with barely warm water. It worked ok, but it also didn't seem to go as I expected based on forum discussions. It definitely did not seem like something I would ask my wife to do unless she was completely open. Thanks for bringing up the issue, because I have wondered if it is just something with my digestion. By the way, in the little bit of anal play and sex I have had with my wife, this has not been any issue.
10/09/2012
Contributor: libra777 libra777
What about doing an anal douche or enema a little while before hand?
You would probably have to use more lube then usual because enemas and "flushing out" can dry things out inside. (Not safe to do all the time by the way!)
10/10/2012
Contributor: libra777 libra777
What about doing an anal douche or enema a little while before hand?
You would probably have to use more lube then usual because enemas and "flushing out" can dry things out inside. (Not safe to do all the time by the way!)
10/10/2012
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
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Originally posted by libra777
What about doing an anal douche or enema a little while before hand?
You would probably have to use more lube then usual because enemas and "flushing out" can dry things out inside. (Not safe to do all the time by the way!)
how often is it safe to do this? XD I couldn't handle the other stuff. I'd be totally turned off.
10/10/2012
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by emiliaa
how often is it safe to do this? XD I couldn't handle the other stuff. I'd be totally turned off.
If it's just a little warm water (under 1-1/2 cups or so) and you don't keep it in too long there is a very low risk of any problems (though it's still better not to do this every day). Any bacteria that get washed out will be quickly replaced from higher up. In fact, sometimes I find that a small enema reduces the amount of lube I need because it "loosens up" and thins out the mucus inside so it's slicker and doesn't try to grab the water out of the lube.
10/10/2012
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
If you're worried about fecal matter, just give yourself an enema beforehand. I mean, feces is natural (as is farting), but I definitely understand the aversion to having it possibly become a part of your sexual encounter.
I myself am also a bit wary of it (feces and flatulence) during sex, but some things you just can't really help. Sex isn't really one of those "neat and tidy" sort of experiences. You sweat, as well as secrete bodily fluids. It's bound to get at least a little messy whether you're having anal or not.
10/10/2012
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
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Originally posted by (k)InkyIvy
If you're worried about fecal matter, just give yourself an enema beforehand. I mean, feces is natural (as is farting), but I definitely understand the aversion to having it possibly become a part of your sexual encounter.
I myself am also a ... more
I'm fine with sexual fluids and sweat. Feces are dirty, and have e.coli and smell horrible... It's definitely, definitely different.
10/10/2012
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
The enema suggestion is good advice. Also, I've heard glass toys recommended as less likely to exit with any hitchhikers, especially if the withdrawal is slow. I've never seen more than a tiny dot, and then only on matte silicone, never on steel or glass. I definitely share your aversion, but it's worth it.
10/10/2012
Contributor: MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
I definitely don't think you need to "experiment" with it--Most people aren't really into it either, so I wouldn't worry about it too much unless the issue comes up in a future relationship. Even then, I think the majority of people, even those with fetishes like that, are pretty understanding that poop is a big nono boundary for most people.

In terms of small amounts... Unfortunately, it happens. Try not to let it ruin your sexual experience and if you're ever worried about it, try an enema or plan for a shower immediately afterwards. It is gross, but it happens! Honestly, I'm a very.. Enthusiastic orgasm-er, and I've had a lot of issues with farting in the past. I do what I can to not fart, but sometimes I wish I didn't have to bother--it takes just a little away if I have to constantly worry about squeezing my butt together so I don't fart. :/ I've found though that generally even if something slips, my partner is respectful enough not to say anything and ignores it; you may find the same is true of partners you have in the future. Hopefully, anyways!
10/11/2012
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
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Originally posted by ToyGeek
The enema suggestion is good advice. Also, I've heard glass toys recommended as less likely to exit with any hitchhikers, especially if the withdrawal is slow. I've never seen more than a tiny dot, and then only on matte silicone, never on ... more
I know, dude, I really want to try it. But oh my god. *shudders* I'd be in the shower for HOURS sobbing if I saw any poop outside of a toilet, especially in a sexual setting. I'm just so easily disgusted, I have no idea why.
10/11/2012
Contributor: Jesyra Jesyra
If your aversion to poop is this bad... don't have a baby. My daughter stuck her hand into her diaper once and wiped a handful of poop across my face. I never, ever left her diaper loosely fastened after that. But back on topic:

Yes feces has a smell that's unpleasant, and yes it has bacteria, but it isn't rife with necrotic facitis or ebola. It isn't going to kill you. I'm not a fan of it myself, but my husband and I do quite a bit of anal play and I've learned to prep as best you can and ignore the rest.

If you want to do anal play you need to get used to the idea that there is a possibility of coming into contact with fecal matter. Steps to minimize the occurance are simple: thorough enema and use a condom over whatever is inserted. The enema should clean out the cavity, and the condom will keep anything missed off of the toy or your partner and allow for fast, easy disposal.

Your last post about sobbing in the shower for hours if you saw poop outside a toilet makes me think you need to see a therapist, especially if this is not the only thing that sets you off in an unusual manner. Being that freaked out by a natural process is overkill.
10/11/2012
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
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Originally posted by Jesyra
If your aversion to poop is this bad... don't have a baby. My daughter stuck her hand into her diaper once and wiped a handful of poop across my face. I never, ever left her diaper loosely fastened after that. But back on topic:

Yes feces ... more
Definitely don't plan on having a baby, because my aversion to vomit is so bad it'd put me in the hospital. Poop just 100% turns me off, I have a phobia of vomit, so yeah. lol.

...You really don't need to tell me what to do with my life, and if you want me to see a therapist, wire me the money for it.
10/12/2012