Are you an "I will give it if you do too" person?

This sounds like something that's very couple specific. It's great it works in the context of these people's relationship. I can't fathom it ever going over well in mine lol. I don't really understand why should would require that of him. I mean, I get that he likes it, but... I just don't get it haha. I'm just more of a "do it if you like it" kind of person. No games

We've talked about anal but he doesn't want to try unless I do

Lots of variation to be found for sure, but we don't practice it the way the question was worded. We both like each others backside, some times we like to put things in em, other times less so. If one of us asks for it, then the other tends to be more than willing, for the sake of pleasing and sharing a pleasurable experience, but for us that by no means suggests reciprocating is an expected condition. We just like to please for the sake of pleasing, and we know where our firm limits are day-to-day

The idea is a little... odd, to me, but fair.

I might be open to trying that if for whatever reason I ended up in a relationship with a guy who wanted me to. But the way this girl you work with says it it sounds like she must not like anal sex, so there has to be a stipulation of getting back at him, and the only reason some girls view it like that is that they see anal sex as a bad thing, so misery loves company. Frankly I don't understand anyone wanting to do something sexually with someone else if they know that person doesnt like it, or is against it. Where the fun in that? Then its like an obligation rather than something fun and lustful.

My partner and I have never done anal. But the partner I had before my current partner (lol) did constantly beg and pretty much harass me about anal. I firmly said no, I would never be comfortable with it and he could not let it go. Jokes and all were fine at first, but it turned into an obsession where no matter what we were doing or talking about, anal would come up. He wasn't taking no for an answer and it got to the point to where he would seriously whine to me about it! I mean whine like a 3 year old child does! We weren't meant for each other thankfully, but that was way too much for me. He started giving me the guilt trip about it and that's not very cool.

Anyways, one day I finally was furious and said "I wouldn't even consider it if YOU agreed to be f'd anally!" That fueled the fire. He thought him letting me shove something in his rear would make it to where I'd finally break down, feel guilty and endure. CLEARLY this is somethign that I'm terribly uncomfortable with. It turned into him begging me to put something in his rear. I finally said, "The first thing you put in my hand will go in your a**" He went in the bathroom of our friend's house and brough back a green round, tooth brush holder for travelling. It was big! It was flat at the end too. He bent over and I shoved it just where he wanted and got the heck outta there! Lol. I wasn't about to stick around for more begging. He told the football team and his coach that it was a vaccuum attachment so they called him hoover or something and when I clarified that it was, in fact a tooth brush holder that belonged to our friend, he felt the need to tell the team and coach that! Then they called him Colgate and people STILL call him that and I still have people say "aren't you the girl that put a toothbrush holder in X's a**" Ha Ha. We broke up but remained friends and had some very humorus jokes about it. Once I bought toothpaste and wrote Colgate on his car.

As for me feeling the need to give, no! If it makes me uncomfortable to this extent then I've learned it's best to not do somethign I'm not comfortable with no matter what someoen wants.

I have no issues with accepting anal, but I don't expect a partner to have anything shoved up their butt at any stage if they don't want to.

We both take it and both enjoy the hell out of it, but not as a condition for fucking the other. It's something we both enjoy.

Both my hubby and I love anal

I'm not into anal sex; I've done it once or twice and it's not my cup of tea. Preparation and everything is just uncomfortable. With that being said, if I really, REALLY liked the person, I would let him in my butt. I have no interest in returning the favor though. I get some people like pegging, but I'm not turned on by the activity at all and I hope the partner that I essentially I end up with isn't interested either.

if she wants to fuck me in order for me to fuck her, im ok with that

I would love to try anal play with my husband, but there is NO way he would ever let me stick anything up his butt. For me it's a matter of trust and bonding, not a desire to dominate him (I'm actually quite submissive.) Too bad for him-he doesn't know what he's missing!

We both enjoy anal, but generally speaking, only one of us receives at a time. Lately, it's been me...but that's because I've only really started enjoying it, and she's had a thing for years about giving it to me...works for me