Are you an "I will give it if you do too" person?

Are you an "I will give it if you do too" person?

Bignuf Bignuf
A girl I work with said that when her boyfriend asked her for anal last year, she said "sure...but only if YOU have a "cock in you when you put yours in me". He said okay...which was part surprise and part fun to her. First off, she enjoys "plugging him" prior to him PLUGGING her, and she will NOT allow him into her rear end, till she has filled his with some toy. He sure does not seem to mind either, and she is getting him a collection of prostate stimulator plugs for the holidays!!!!

Anyone else in that kind of "give and take" relationship????
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, she gets me if I get her.
6
No, but it sounds like fun.
14
No way, no anaal for either of us.
6
Nope..one of us takes it, but the other does not.
8
Other?
7
Total votes: 41 (39 voters)
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Cherrylane Cherrylane
This sounds like something that's very couple specific. It's great it works in the context of these people's relationship. I can't fathom it ever going over well in mine lol. I don't really understand why should would require that of him. I mean, I get that he likes it, but... I just don't get it haha. I'm just more of a "do it if you like it" kind of person. No games
12/06/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
We've talked about anal but he doesn't want to try unless I do
12/07/2011
squire squire
Lots of variation to be found for sure, but we don't practice it the way the question was worded. We both like each others backside, some times we like to put things in em, other times less so. If one of us asks for it, then the other tends to be more than willing, for the sake of pleasing and sharing a pleasurable experience, but for us that by no means suggests reciprocating is an expected condition. We just like to please for the sake of pleasing, and we know where our firm limits are day-to-day
12/07/2011
HannahPanda HannahPanda
The idea is a little... odd, to me, but fair.
12/07/2011
Brianna91 Brianna91
I might be open to trying that if for whatever reason I ended up in a relationship with a guy who wanted me to. But the way this girl you work with says it it sounds like she must not like anal sex, so there has to be a stipulation of getting back at him, and the only reason some girls view it like that is that they see anal sex as a bad thing, so misery loves company. Frankly I don't understand anyone wanting to do something sexually with someone else if they know that person doesnt like it, or is against it. Where the fun in that? Then its like an obligation rather than something fun and lustful.
12/08/2011
K101 K101
My partner and I have never done anal. But the partner I had before my current partner (lol) did constantly beg and pretty much harass me about anal. I firmly said no, I would never be comfortable with it and he could not let it go. Jokes and all were fine at first, but it turned into an obsession where no matter what we were doing or talking about, anal would come up. He wasn't taking no for an answer and it got to the point to where he would seriously whine to me about it! I mean whine like a 3 year old child does! We weren't meant for each other thankfully, but that was way too much for me. He started giving me the guilt trip about it and that's not very cool.

Anyways, one day I finally was furious and said "I wouldn't even consider it if YOU agreed to be f'd anally!" That fueled the fire. He thought him letting me shove something in his rear would make it to where I'd finally break down, feel guilty and endure. CLEARLY this is somethign that I'm terribly uncomfortable with. It turned into him begging me to put something in his rear. I finally said, "The first thing you put in my hand will go in your a**" He went in the bathroom of our friend's house and brough back a green round, tooth brush holder for travelling. It was big! It was flat at the end too. He bent over and I shoved it just where he wanted and got the heck outta there! Lol. I wasn't about to stick around for more begging. He told the football team and his coach that it was a vaccuum attachment so they called him hoover or something and when I clarified that it was, in fact a tooth brush holder that belonged to our friend, he felt the need to tell the team and coach that! Then they called him Colgate and people STILL call him that and I still have people say "aren't you the girl that put a toothbrush holder in X's a**" Ha Ha. We broke up but remained friends and had some very humorus jokes about it. Once I bought toothpaste and wrote Colgate on his car.

As for me feeling the need to give, no! If it makes me uncomfortable to this extent then I've learned it's best to not do somethign I'm not comfortable with no matter what someoen wants.
12/08/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
I have no issues with accepting anal, but I don't expect a partner to have anything shoved up their butt at any stage if they don't want to.
12/08/2011
AndroAngel AndroAngel
We both take it and both enjoy the hell out of it, but not as a condition for fucking the other. It's something we both enjoy.
12/08/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Brianna91
I might be open to trying that if for whatever reason I ended up in a relationship with a guy who wanted me to. But the way this girl you work with says it it sounds like she must not like anal sex, so there has to be a stipulation of getting back at ...
NOPE...wrong. The woman in question was NOT against anal sex and it was NOT meant as a "get back at him" thing. She says that SHE has done anal before, but she figures it is 1. Like oral...fair play is fair to BOTH. Both give, both get. More then that, she said that 2. If HE has an anal plug or toy in, he UNDERSTANDS how sensitive that area is and HE will "play nice" with him, and thus BOTH can enjoy it...without hurting anyone. Finally, 3. SHE is turned on as much by playing with HIS rear end as he seems to be to play with hers,so why SHOULDN'T she set some "fair play time" rules. Understand that this girl is studying to be a LAWYER. Does that put a clear spin on how she asks EVERY detail to be SPELLED OUT???? Ha, Ha.
12/08/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Shellz31
I have no issues with accepting anal, but I don't expect a partner to have anything shoved up their butt at any stage if they don't want to.
I never was and AM NOT in their bedroom, but maybe I didn't do a good job describing the fact these two LOVE each other and NEITHER one of them minds the activities...or they would not do them!!!

They seem to be having a lot of fun in their relationship. There is nothing remotely cruel to either one. She is almost done with law school. He is a pretty successful young lawyer already. They work and PLAY together...hard, but seem to have a super respectful and FUN relationship,as far as I can see. We talk pretty freely, but they are WAY younger so we certainly don't "hang out" and outside work are really not "buds" so, you never know...BUT...sure seems like a happy couple.

Oh....and they are BOTH going to be doing REAL ESTATE law, so they are kind of factual, straight on folks...nothing too stressful or strange, I think!!!!
12/08/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
Both my hubby and I love anal
12/10/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
I'm not into anal sex; I've done it once or twice and it's not my cup of tea. Preparation and everything is just uncomfortable. With that being said, if I really, REALLY liked the person, I would let him in my butt. I have no interest in returning the favor though. I get some people like pegging, but I'm not turned on by the activity at all and I hope the partner that I essentially I end up with isn't interested either.
12/10/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Ms. Spice
I'm not into anal sex; I've done it once or twice and it's not my cup of tea. Preparation and everything is just uncomfortable. With that being said, if I really, REALLY liked the person, I would let him in my butt. I have no interest in ...
If I may comment on your "uncomfortable" statement. If you do try it again, SKIP the "porn movie" standard doggy style. Others here at EF Forum like that position too, but for me, IT HURTS and I NEVER could really do that. Try it either laying on your left side, with upper leg more forward (either spooning, or MUCH better, with your bottom sort of off the edge of the bed and him standing behind you), OR our favorite....HIM standing at edge of the bed, and me on my back, butt on a thin pillow (we love our JAZ or HEART pillow from Liberator for this), and my legs up over his shoulders or my feet on his chest. He can penetrate my tush VERY, VERY comfortably that way, and can also play with my clit, penetrate my vagina with fingers or toys, play with my nipples AND we can look each other in the eye. It is THE BEST position for me...period. Anal or vaginal sex. Love it.

ALSO...use MORE lube then you could possibly think you need....THEN add twice more that amount, THEN use half a bottle more. Got the idea?

ENJOY.
12/10/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by AndroAngel
We both take it and both enjoy the hell out of it, but not as a condition for fucking the other. It's something we both enjoy.
I think that was just their way of establishing rules and equal time???
12/10/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by HannahPanda
The idea is a little... odd, to me, but fair.
BINGO...that is how WE thought of it too.
12/10/2011
bsgs bsgs
if she wants to fuck me in order for me to fuck her, im ok with that
02/12/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I would love to try anal play with my husband, but there is NO way he would ever let me stick anything up his butt. For me it's a matter of trust and bonding, not a desire to dominate him (I'm actually quite submissive.) Too bad for him-he doesn't know what he's missing!
02/12/2012
LAndJ LAndJ
Nope, he plays with me sometimes (we've yet to reach the point of him actually inserting his penis), but I've only even fingered him twice ever, over a year ago.
02/12/2012
Eliyahu Eliyahu
We both enjoy anal, but generally speaking, only one of us receives at a time. Lately, it's been me...but that's because I've only really started enjoying it, and she's had a thing for years about giving it to me...works for me
02/13/2012
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