Best time to start anal?

Contributor: slynch slynch
5:37 pm
09/14/2011
Contributor: mcl272 mcl272
i say long term relationship. anal can be a scary thing for some people exp first timers. i have never done anal with anyone but my long term partner! i feel 100% comfortable with him back there! he doesn't push the issue or anything, he listens, he respects me, etc.. i think all of those things are really important!
09/14/2011
Contributor: frisky069 frisky069
Quote:
Originally posted by lezergirl
What would the best time to try anal be?
i think it depends on the person, but for me it was atleast 6 months before we tried
09/16/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
I say it depends on the couple. It would take some real trust and all. My partner and I have been together for 5 years and we've never done anything anal. I just ain't interested, neither is he, but I think it depends on the person's comfort level. It might take some people longer to be comfortable enough to do that.
09/26/2011
Contributor: ss143 ss143
As many have said it depends on the people involved. For me it has to be a LTR I have to completely trust my partner
09/26/2011
Contributor: Mr Dj Mr Dj
anytime! if both are willing to experiment, or want to try anal, why not? I guess if it's one night stand, make sure you have some anal lube with you!
10/27/2011
Contributor: Mr Dj Mr Dj
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
I say it depends on the couple. It would take some real trust and all. My partner and I have been together for 5 years and we've never done anything anal. I just ain't interested, neither is he, but I think it depends on the person's ... more
it looks like you want to try anal with him, but you'r both shy. Is this right, Kendra?
10/27/2011
Contributor: Cookie Monster Mike Cookie Monster Mike
as most stated, depends on what type of person you are. for me, personally LTR
10/28/2011
Contributor: jj1228 jj1228
Any time. As long as both are on the board with it. If its just a one night stand and the other person would wanna do it I would do it with her.
11/02/2011
Contributor: (Re)tired Stripper (Re)tired Stripper
I never place a time limit/frame/deadline/e tc. on sex acts. Sometimes I don't have sex for awhile after getting involved with someone (you can interpret "awhile" as you wish, haha). Sometimes I introduce kinky crazy stuff on the first night. I go with my instincts (not always good, and it's bitten me once or twice but also rewarded me greatly with amazing experiences) and what I'm feeling at the time, and what my partner is comfortable with.

If we are talking about giving anal, even a finger in the butt during a blow job, I don't introduce it with guys for a good long time unless they ask me. I've had bad experiences asking about it too early on. Receiving anal has historically been only in LTRs with a few exceptions, simply because the guy has never asked until we got pretty secure in the relationship.
12/10/2011
Contributor: geliebt geliebt
For me, it's only in a committed relationship. But I'm only interested in sex acts within a committed relationship anyway. Everyone's different! Do what feels right
12/12/2011
Contributor: switzerland switzerland
i always said anal was something i would only do with my husband. i obv didn't wait till marriage, but i waited for the man that i know i'm going to marry
12/12/2011
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
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Originally posted by clp
Its not about how long your relationship is; your long-term partner may be very aggressive and difficult to stop/slow down, meaning they may not be ready for that first for a while. You may also just meet someone that is a 'pro' and knows ... more
Totally agree with this.
12/12/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I believe it's best in a long term relationship.
12/12/2011
Contributor: Sublime Sublime
I've never had a girl want anal in a one night stand, and only one that wanted it pretty early in a relationship. But she LOVED anal/double penetration with toys.

But in terms of trying it, I'd go with the relationship route. At least you can get a feel/be more comfortable with them while it happens. Really it's more of a personal question.
12/14/2011
Contributor: bratofthekitties bratofthekitties
You should try it with someone who you trust and feel comfortable around....for me that can take a matter of days or weeks but its not about the time its about the person
12/14/2011
Contributor: blankthewall blankthewall
just be safe.
12/29/2011
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
Take it from ME, ask for it as soon in the relationship as possible. If your partner is not going to want to ever do it or even be the slightest prude towards it, now is the best time to find out so you can move on to someone who isn't.
01/10/2012
Contributor: squire squire
The way I would reword this question is what are the factors that allow my body to be safety receptive for anal sex. I think for some that can be right away, for others it can take days, months, years of practice. For others, it's less about time and more about emotional intimacy..thus, what does it take for my body to engage safely in anal and in away that brings me pleasure
01/19/2012
Contributor: jc123 jc123
Anal isn't that intimate or special of an act to me, but there is some additional disease risk so I probably wouldn't do it with a complete stranger unless I was sure they were clean.
01/24/2012
Contributor: godweensatan godweensatan
FIRST DATE!!!!
01/31/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Anal usually takes a lot of time to get used to if you haven't done it in a while or never done it before. It's really something that's better for LTR.
01/31/2012
Contributor: godweensatan godweensatan
sooner the better
05/02/2012
Contributor: hillys hillys
I waited till i was with someone I had been going out with for awhile so I could trust them. I mean if you like it afterwards feel free to do it during anything one night stand ect. but first few times it will be good with someone who knows you well
05/02/2012
Contributor: spineyogurt spineyogurt
Long term only imo
05/03/2012
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
I'd rather have someone I trust in my back door since there are so many ways you can hurt a person if you're not careful with anal.
06/05/2012
Contributor: AbbyLover AbbyLover
anal takes practic
06/11/2012
Contributor: Why Not? Why Not?
First time anal frequently requires a lot of patience. Usually, one night stands or new relationships don't head into the bedroom with any restraint. I'm sure there are exceptions, but that is my experience.
06/15/2012