Did anal sex hurt your first time?

Contributor: sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Did anal sex really hurt the first time?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes
19
No
11
Kind of
9
Total votes: 39 (38 voters)
Poll is closed
03/01/2013
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03/01/2013
Contributor: rihanne rihanne
Quote:
Originally posted by sweetpea12
Did anal sex really hurt the first time?
yeah it did.
03/01/2013
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
It wasn't comfortable, that's for sure. Still isn't. Then again we don't do it often.
03/01/2013
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
It was slightly uncomfortable.
03/02/2013
Contributor: Two Grand Two Grand
It hurt like hell, I was gang raped, when I was a teenager.
03/02/2013
Contributor: Yellow Dog Yellow Dog
I voted "kind of". It's sort of in the "hurts so good" realm. I mean, if it hurt so much (personally- not speaking for anyone else here), why is my hardon so raging when I take it?
03/04/2013
Contributor: Septimus Septimus
It didn't really hurt, but there was some discomfort involved. I think it'll get better with time and practice, but I just haven't had much opportunity to try.
03/04/2013
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Quote:
Originally posted by Two Grand
It hurt like hell, I was gang raped, when I was a teenager.
OMG, you poor kid.
03/04/2013
Contributor: Elbert's Angel Elbert's Angel
Quote:
Originally posted by sweetpea12
Did anal sex really hurt the first time?
Anal sex hurting or not really depends on your partner and how much they are educated on it and the sensitivity of the anus. At least that is what has been my experience.
03/04/2013
Contributor: Sassy Pam Sassy Pam
Yes, I don't think he knew what he was doing.
03/04/2013
Contributor: Yellow Dog Yellow Dog
Relaxation and communication are key, in addition to lubrication. I don't have much pain anymore. If there is a sudden jab of pain, we stop, talk about it, and apply more lubrication as necessary.
03/05/2013
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
We went slow and used plenty of lube so it wasn't great the first time but it wasn't horribly painful.
03/05/2013
Contributor: bratcat bratcat
Quote:
Originally posted by Yellow Dog
Relaxation and communication are key, in addition to lubrication. I don't have much pain anymore. If there is a sudden jab of pain, we stop, talk about it, and apply more lubrication as necessary.
such a wonderful point! for myself the frist time and even now, we use a lot of thick lube and take things very slow. The frist time wasn't painful, but the best i could describe it would be a "stinging" sensation i guess. My partner is very good at listening, understanding my body language and checking in, and if he thinks i've been hurt or am no longer into it, he will stop and ask if i'm okay and if we need to take it slow or stop.
03/05/2013
Contributor: Yellow Dog Yellow Dog
Quote:
Originally posted by bratcat
such a wonderful point! for myself the frist time and even now, we use a lot of thick lube and take things very slow. The frist time wasn't painful, but the best i could describe it would be a "stinging" sensation i guess. My partner is ... more
Yeah, it's not so much pain as a burning association associated with stretching the internal and external sphincter muscles. That just reminds me to slow down a bit and not to get too anxious.

If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. That's why I picked "sort of". With a bit of slowing down, communicating, and slowing down some more, the sensations are incredible.

It doesn't help that my eyes are bigger than my butt; and I sometimes want to start out with something like the Tantus Vamp instead of warming up with something smaller.
03/05/2013
Contributor: CutiePatootie CutiePatootie
He made me very comfortable, enough to where I wanted to try it again later that night. It was so new to me!
03/13/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
The first time we were drunk and we didn't prepare...
03/16/2013
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by sweetpea12
Did anal sex really hurt the first time?
It hurt like HELL the first time, but it was a lack of knowledge on his part. LOL
03/16/2013
Contributor: TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
I was really drunk (my first extreme drunk), and I trusted my anal educated ex. It was really pleasurable after the initial insertion. I did experience discomfort when I tried it again a year later. So, I was given a butt plug by a different ex, and with a little bit of practice, I was enjoying it again.
03/16/2013
Contributor: AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
I was really surprised it didn't. We were actually doing some heavy thrusting on that first try. I loved it. Now I'm hooked.
03/16/2013
Contributor: noway noway
Nope, didn't hurt a bit. I was actually laughing because of how funny it felt. It felt funny like when someone pokes you in the ribs it kinda tickles. That's what it felt like to me.
03/16/2013
Contributor: LeeBee LeeBee
It didn't hurt for me. It was kind of strange, but certainly didn't hurt.
03/18/2013
Contributor: butts butts
The second time I ever had real sex was receiving anal, it didn't hurt at all! I've never had it hurt actually, the only time it was a bit uncomfortable is when I hadn't done any anal play in a while and I wasn't really ready for it. If you prepare and your partner doesn't try to rush or go hard right off the bat, it shouldn't hurt
03/18/2013
Contributor: hillys hillys
It hurt and it still hurts. I stay away from that.
03/21/2013
Contributor: melissa1973 melissa1973
hell ya especially since I didn't ask 4 it and no lube to boot.
03/21/2013
Contributor: StarrStacked StarrStacked
I voted no because we haven't been able to successfully get it in soon I hope.
03/21/2013
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
Yuppers... we were having rougher sex and he "aimed" wrong. Talk about putting an end to a fun night.

It still hurts if I am not ready/prepared for it.
03/21/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by sweetpea12
Did anal sex really hurt the first time?
If it had, I probably would not have "signed up" for more. I had a slow, gentle, experienced lover introduce me, and it made all the difference in how I feel about anal play now.
03/30/2013
Contributor: kaylajoy89 kaylajoy89
a little bit. it still hurts sometimes.
04/02/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
I was ready and it only hurt a little at first. I had warmed up with a dildo larger than my guy's penis a couple of hours before and we used plenty of lube.

At first, he tried to go in too fast (just like in the anal porn film we had been watching) and I had to stop him, make him wait half a minute, and then I guided him slowly in. Once he was all the way in, it felt GREAT and it was all pleasure for both of us.
04/02/2013