I hear from a lot of people the first time they tried anal it hurt, personally I found it pleasant even with little lube.
Did it hurt your first time?
10/31/2011
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Thankfully, the first guy who introduced me to this activity was a very patient and gentle teacher, otherwise I might never have tried it again. I do NOT like pain....period.
Originally posted by
pleasurehunter
I hear from a lot of people the first time they tried anal it hurt, personally I found it pleasant even with little lube.
Thankfully more so, ALL my other lovers, and now, of course, my hubby of 32 years, have been superb lovers and very CONSIDERATE lovers at that, making sure EVERYTHING we do together was and is COMFORTABLE. Thus, I guess I was lucky and spared any of the "it hurt so bad" stories about anal sex I have heard from others.
Even though I am "pretty tight" back there...with lots of lube and lot's of patience it is ALL GOOD.
I will add one note, however. While my first, and tenth and thousandth time were FINE, it was not till I was very experienced at this kind of play, and tried different positions,that we DID find some that were not comfortable, for me, anyway. Doggy, for instance. A "go to" for many, it just plain hurts for me. All the lube and prep in the world do not change that...tried it a few times and same each time. SO...we just don't do it that way!!! No big deal. All GOOD.
10/31/2011
No. (EDIT: This was for PIV, I read the thing wrong.) It was lovely. I was with the man I married (although we later went through years of an open relationship, so he is not my "only" which I think is a good thing. For one, I appreciate him more, knowing how good he is compared to others.)
He was older, I was (obviously) 16 year old virgin. I waited until I was sure I loved him (that took a while, I don't fall in love easily) and obtained birth control.
We made love on his little twin size bed. I was SO nervous, but once we got started, it was just lovely! I didn't come, but it was my first time. Also, I wouldn't let him give me oral sex, so there's that. (I have NO idea why. I didn't think a man would "want to do that." My goodness, was I naive! ) We had done a lot of messing around and a lot of frigging, so if I had any hymen (which I doubt, because nothing ever hurt) it was stretched earlier. It was beautiful.
A few times later, he begged me to let him give me oral sex. A few times with that, and I could come. O.....M.....G........ I had "practiced" so I would figure out the way to have an orgasm. But, I had no idea how amazing it could be with an other person.
And, more than twenty years later we're still doing it. It rocks every time.
EDIT: Oh, the question was about anal. Here, I wrote a TEXTWALL about my first PIV experience.
No, anal didn't hurt the first time either. He has a way of "training" me, so that I'll be ready and anxious to try something new. I was a little sore, and had a little blood after the first anal experience (but, oddly not the first PIV) but, we probably didn't use enough lube, or something.
It never hurts now, ever. There are relaxing techniques you have to use, and I need to have an orgasm first. Lube is totally necessary. But, it didn't hurt. I could feel it, of course, but that's part of the fun.
He was older, I was (obviously) 16 year old virgin. I waited until I was sure I loved him (that took a while, I don't fall in love easily) and obtained birth control.
We made love on his little twin size bed. I was SO nervous, but once we got started, it was just lovely! I didn't come, but it was my first time. Also, I wouldn't let him give me oral sex, so there's that. (I have NO idea why. I didn't think a man would "want to do that." My goodness, was I naive! ) We had done a lot of messing around and a lot of frigging, so if I had any hymen (which I doubt, because nothing ever hurt) it was stretched earlier. It was beautiful.
A few times later, he begged me to let him give me oral sex. A few times with that, and I could come. O.....M.....G........ I had "practiced" so I would figure out the way to have an orgasm. But, I had no idea how amazing it could be with an other person.
And, more than twenty years later we're still doing it. It rocks every time.
EDIT: Oh, the question was about anal. Here, I wrote a TEXTWALL about my first PIV experience.
No, anal didn't hurt the first time either. He has a way of "training" me, so that I'll be ready and anxious to try something new. I was a little sore, and had a little blood after the first anal experience (but, oddly not the first PIV) but, we probably didn't use enough lube, or something.
It never hurts now, ever. There are relaxing techniques you have to use, and I need to have an orgasm first. Lube is totally necessary. But, it didn't hurt. I could feel it, of course, but that's part of the fun.
10/31/2011
We didn't have enough lube so it hurt a little bit.
10/31/2011
The one person I've tried it with said it was great, even without slathering an entire tube of lube everywhere.
10/31/2011
I had played with toys before my first time, so that it wouldn't hurt, and it didn't.
10/31/2011
I had no experience with anal before and yes it did hurt, some. Now I love it.
10/31/2011
It was uncomfortable for me, and in my head uncomfortable means pain lol hahahahaha. I need to change that, so I'd have to say it did hurt a little.
10/31/2011
I didn't get lube, I was scared, and it hurt like hell.
11/01/2011
I voted for my first anal experience, which hurt a little bit, but not too much.
11/01/2011
My first anal was to myself and it didnt hurt i took it slow and lots of lube. Still waiting to get a harness for my wife.
11/02/2011
The first time I had sex, it was anal sex. Surprisingly it did not hurt much at all, only a little at first. He was good, though, and used plenty lube.
11/03/2011
I'm still waiting to try it with a more nicely sized penis. (Ohhh... was that a mean thing to say? ) Heh. Anyway... My first time having anal sex hurt slightly, but in a tolerable and I-kinda-like-it way.
11/03/2011
The first time was unbearable. He had to stop and I was completely done with sex of any kind for the night, for a few days even. He didn't let me know what he was going to do, and went in entirely too fast/deep.
It's MUCH better now, and I love it...but that first time, ohhh my, ouch. He's lucky I ever wanted to try again.
It's MUCH better now, and I love it...but that first time, ohhh my, ouch. He's lucky I ever wanted to try again.
11/03/2011
No, it didn't hurt. It felt a bit odd at times, but it was overall one of the most pleasurable sexual experiences I've ever had. In fact, since then anal has become one of my favorite activities. I'm almost never "not up for it."
11/03/2011
Read my article about the first time: anal sex article
11/03/2011
My first anal experience hurt like hell, no lube, saliva and force....a wicked combination. It was awhile before I went there again, but I practiced by myself with my fingers, butt plugs and dils.
Now I love anal sex, both to get it and to give it with a strap-on.
Now I love anal sex, both to get it and to give it with a strap-on.
11/17/2011
Even with just his finger, it always seems to "hurt" just a bit for me, and yet it feels good at the same time?
12/02/2011
Not even a little
12/03/2011
no i have never
12/03/2011
the 1st time hurt a bit but the guy that was doing it just sucked in general.(zachary simmons)=s horible lay. my bf now (jesse williams) is great at it and it feels great and we dont even need lube sometimes it feels so good.
12/03/2011
It hurt some but in the good way I guess I figured it might. I'd used my vibrator there before and liked being penetrated there, otherwise I wouldnt have been looking to get my butt fucked in the 1st place! My 1st time was spur of the moment with an older guy I didn't know very well, in his car at a wedding reception, and I was the one who asked for anal sex. Not perfect and didnt last as long as it could have but looking back it was still pretty hot.
12/04/2011
It was uncomfortable, but not incredibly painful. I still don't like the sensation.
12/06/2011
For the first two seconds and then I started enjoying it, although my first guy was quite small. It's hurt worse with a bigger guy than my first time.
12/07/2011
Never been pegged, but the first time I tried with toys, yes it hurt. Love it now, can't get enough of it for solo play
12/19/2011
There was tons of working up to it so it was a slow process, but I was never able to have successful anal sex that was genuinely enjoyable until very recently.
12/20/2011
There is definitely a learning curve
12/20/2011
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