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Contributor: adlunam adlunam
I hope this hasn't been asked a million and one times, but I need some help.
My boyfriend and I have had anal twice before. Each time, we made sure we had a crap ton of lube, we made sure I had several orgasms before he even attempted it, and even used a plug to help get me ready.

Now, it's been a while since we've done so. For the past couple nights, we've made sure I'm lubed up enough, that I've cum a few times, but did not use the plug. And when only puts about half of his length in me, I'm okay, but when he goes (as they say) "balls deep", it hurts so much I want to scream, and I literally did the other night. It kind of ruined the entire mood.

I don't know what to do! The first few times I actually got off from it, this time it hurt too much. Any suggestions? Please?
10/30/2012
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Contributor: Nympho88 Nympho88
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Originally posted by adlunam
I hope this hasn't been asked a million and one times, but I need some help.
My boyfriend and I have had anal twice before. Each time, we made sure we had a crap ton of lube, we made sure I had several orgasms before he even attempted it, and ... more
I have a product called "booty ease" it is a cream that you use b4 anal and it numbs you a little bit. I found that it works really well along with a good amount of lube. You also have to make sure you are relaxed and not tensed up.
01/17/2013
Contributor: melliegirl melliegirl
maybe he isn't giving you enough time to get used to him going that far in you. Let him go in to where you are comfortable. Then try waiting a half a minute (or whatever makes you feel better) before slowly going deeper an inch at a time and giving you time to stretch out at each inch. Good luck
03/12/2013
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Nympho88
I have a product called "booty ease" it is a cream that you use b4 anal and it numbs you a little bit. I found that it works really well along with a good amount of lube. You also have to make sure you are relaxed and not tensed up.
NO NO NO!!!!!! Don't use any numbing products!!!

Half-length= OK, balls-deep=owch seems like it's a positioning problem. His penis is poking something on the way in or otherwise putting pressure where it shouldn't be. I'd say try some different positions and see what one works best.

Note that you do want to be careful and slow for a while. There are some supporting muscles and regulating muscles in and around the rectum that need to loosen up in order for it to move around. If you've been going fast this might be the problem, otherwise if you've been going slow I'd say try some different positions. With a dildo I find doggy style uncomfortable personally, but other positions are much better.
03/23/2013