How long did it take you from your beginning anal play until you were ready for anal sex? I'm still just thinking about it, but I'm starting to wonder if I'm really missing out? Also feel free to share how much time and how often you engaged in anal play before you were ready.
How long did you take from your beginning anal play until you were ready for anal sex?
02/15/2012
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Constructive discussions on Anal Sex:
I'm fairly new to this, but...
I've had anal sex before and as much as it hurt at first, I really would like to get more comfortable with it. What do you do to relax?
anal sex
any way for easy anal sex?.besides booze...yes she's willing, just says it's uncomfortable..
Anal sex influenced by porn
Have you ever watched a porn and your partner (male or female) asked to try anal sex because the were turned by watching it?
my first time
I want to try anal sex but I'm afraid that it will hurt or it will be messy.Is anal sex like losing your virginity in that it hurts only the first...
you favorate anal position
What position do you like having anal sex. Giving and recieving.
I'm fairly new to this, but...
I've had anal sex before and as much as it hurt at first, I really would like to get more comfortable with it. What do you do to relax?
anal sex
any way for easy anal sex?.besides booze...yes she's willing, just says it's uncomfortable..
Anal sex influenced by porn
Have you ever watched a porn and your partner (male or female) asked to try anal sex because the were turned by watching it?
my first time
I want to try anal sex but I'm afraid that it will hurt or it will be messy.Is anal sex like losing your virginity in that it hurts only the first...
you favorate anal position
What position do you like having anal sex. Giving and recieving.
02/15/2012
I basically jumped right into having anal sex, there was just a minute or two of warm up with fingers first.
02/15/2012
It took me a few days to go from using fingers and anal plugs, to actually have anal sex. Please take your time to get comfortable with fingers and toys first, do not rush into anything. AND don't forget plenty of lube!
02/15/2012
Slickdick
It took a few weeks for me to learn to relax and get my breathing down...but now i can lube up and take it right away!! and in my opinion u are definatly missing out!!
02/15/2012
Wouldn't that depend upon, the size of the cock you're going to be fucked by?
Many years ago I dated a guy who was HUGE. We were both relatively inexperienced and didn't use near enough lube. I thought that I'd prepared enough, I hadn't... it REALLY hurt. Learn from my mistake. Lube, lots of lube and dilation. Your partner should help, that's part of the fun!
Many years ago I dated a guy who was HUGE. We were both relatively inexperienced and didn't use near enough lube. I thought that I'd prepared enough, I hadn't... it REALLY hurt. Learn from my mistake. Lube, lots of lube and dilation. Your partner should help, that's part of the fun!
02/15/2012
I think youre missing out!
02/16/2012
A few months, and yes you are missing out!
02/16/2012
Thanks for the answers y'all! I really didn't expect anyone to chose the first 2 responses, but I decided to put them in just in case. I am glad I did. I guess I am kind of clueless still. I guess it doesn't take as long to get ready as I thought!
02/16/2012
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My first real lover was very gentle and I trusted him well before then. Once, when we were alone, with lots of time, he started playing with my tush, then turned me over and kissed/licked it for half an hour. I actually asked him to "have sex with me there, please", I was so hot. I had read about anal sex in the little "Forum Letters" magazine and it was obvious he could school me. He spent another half hour using his finger and lots of lube in me, while bringing me off twice with his tongue on my clit.
Originally posted by
Gracie
How long did it take you from your beginning anal play until you were ready for anal sex? I'm still just thinking about it, but I'm starting to wonder if I'm really missing out? Also feel free to share how much time and how often you
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How long did it take you from your beginning anal play until you were ready for anal sex? I'm still just thinking about it, but I'm starting to wonder if I'm really missing out? Also feel free to share how much time and how often you engaged in anal play before you were ready.
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When he finally penetrated my anus, it was slow, gentle and easier then my first vaginal penetration...and I REALLY enjoyed it.
I have been an anal fan ever since.
My darling hubby was likewise schooled by some woman who KNEW what they were doing and so when we met and started dating, we were both big into oral/anal/vaginal play and the rest, as they say, is history.
02/16/2012
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It was less then thirty minutes between his tongue in my butt to his finger in my butt to his cock in my butt and indeed, once he WAS in there, he moved SO slow, SO gently and I was SO well lubed and relaxed (NO alcohol or drugs), that it was...amazing.
Originally posted by
Gracie
Thanks for the answers y'all! I really didn't expect anyone to chose the first 2 responses, but I decided to put them in just in case. I am glad I did. I guess I am kind of clueless still. I guess it doesn't take as long to get ready
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Thanks for the answers y'all! I really didn't expect anyone to chose the first 2 responses, but I decided to put them in just in case. I am glad I did. I guess I am kind of clueless still. I guess it doesn't take as long to get ready as I thought!
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02/16/2012
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That is the key. TONS of lube. More then you ever think you need...then extra.
Originally posted by
Rossie
It took me a few days to go from using fingers and anal plugs, to actually have anal sex. Please take your time to get comfortable with fingers and toys first, do not rush into anything. AND don't forget plenty of lube!
02/16/2012
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Yes, you are missing out...but as I have posted here a hundred times, DON'T buy into the DOGGY STYLE hype of porn. YES, a lot of folks here DO enjoy it that way, but for ME it never has worked. I know others too, who enjoy anal, but ONLY if laying on their left side or missionary with legs WAY up (over his shoulders). Best done if HE is standing by side of bed (thus stable) and you are at edge of bed, butt right at edge and legs up.
Originally posted by
Gracie
How long did it take you from your beginning anal play until you were ready for anal sex? I'm still just thinking about it, but I'm starting to wonder if I'm really missing out? Also feel free to share how much time and how often you
...
more
How long did it take you from your beginning anal play until you were ready for anal sex? I'm still just thinking about it, but I'm starting to wonder if I'm really missing out? Also feel free to share how much time and how often you engaged in anal play before you were ready.
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USE THICK lube...and twice as much as you THINK you might need...then use more. This is all about LUBE. Also, FORGET the porn movie thrusting stuff. GO SLOW. YOU control his movements. In fact, often he should go a TINY bit..then just STOP until YOU say "go". It is still incredibly intimate and tight for him...so he won't mind.
Enjoy.
02/16/2012
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BINGO
Originally posted by
Coralbell
I basically jumped right into having anal sex, there was just a minute or two of warm up with fingers first.
02/16/2012
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ditto!
Originally posted by
Coralbell
I basically jumped right into having anal sex, there was just a minute or two of warm up with fingers first.
02/17/2012
I don't know, my experience is kind of weird.
I played with a dildo anally, briefly, at age 16. Three years later (give or take) I had anal sex for the first time. I can't remember if he rimmed me before or after. There was definitely no toy insertion for those three years, which makes me surprised I could take a cock with so little pain.
I played with a dildo anally, briefly, at age 16. Three years later (give or take) I had anal sex for the first time. I can't remember if he rimmed me before or after. There was definitely no toy insertion for those three years, which makes me surprised I could take a cock with so little pain.
02/17/2012
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Bignuff I really appriciate all your encouragement and advice! Thank you!
Originally posted by
Bignuf
Yes, you are missing out...but as I have posted here a hundred times, DON'T buy into the DOGGY STYLE hype of porn. YES, a lot of folks here DO enjoy it that way, but for ME it never has worked. I know others too, who enjoy anal, but ONLY if
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Yes, you are missing out...but as I have posted here a hundred times, DON'T buy into the DOGGY STYLE hype of porn. YES, a lot of folks here DO enjoy it that way, but for ME it never has worked. I know others too, who enjoy anal, but ONLY if laying on their left side or missionary with legs WAY up (over his shoulders). Best done if HE is standing by side of bed (thus stable) and you are at edge of bed, butt right at edge and legs up.
USE THICK lube...and twice as much as you THINK you might need...then use more. This is all about LUBE. Also, FORGET the porn movie thrusting stuff. GO SLOW. YOU control his movements. In fact, often he should go a TINY bit..then just STOP until YOU say "go". It is still incredibly intimate and tight for him...so he won't mind.
Enjoy. less
USE THICK lube...and twice as much as you THINK you might need...then use more. This is all about LUBE. Also, FORGET the porn movie thrusting stuff. GO SLOW. YOU control his movements. In fact, often he should go a TINY bit..then just STOP until YOU say "go". It is still incredibly intimate and tight for him...so he won't mind.
Enjoy. less
02/17/2012
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Just calling it the way I see and experience it. You are SO welcome. We really enjoy anal as part of our regular love life and I will be honest, we are not at ALL into "pain"...so it has been all about PLEASURE from the get go. Anal sex is amazing and can make me GUSH, a real "anal orgasm" some times. Just take it at YOUR own speed. YOU control the show and you can then BOTH enjoy what may be the MOST "intimate" of "secrets" and the most intense and trusting love gift you can give him (or he to you). Enjoy!!!!
Originally posted by
Gracie
Bignuff I really appriciate all your encouragement and advice! Thank you!
02/17/2012
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If I ever had pain, we STOPPED whatever it was and switched gears. We are simply NOT into pain at all. For ME the key is getting the right position. When that is right, anal is simply an amazing, intense sexual thrill ride.
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
I don't know, my experience is kind of weird.
I played with a dildo anally, briefly, at age 16. Three years later (give or take) I had anal sex for the first time. I can't remember if he rimmed me before or after. There was definitely ... more
I played with a dildo anally, briefly, at age 16. Three years later (give or take) I had anal sex for the first time. I can't remember if he rimmed me before or after. There was definitely ... more
I don't know, my experience is kind of weird.
I played with a dildo anally, briefly, at age 16. Three years later (give or take) I had anal sex for the first time. I can't remember if he rimmed me before or after. There was definitely no toy insertion for those three years, which makes me surprised I could take a cock with so little pain. less
I played with a dildo anally, briefly, at age 16. Three years later (give or take) I had anal sex for the first time. I can't remember if he rimmed me before or after. There was definitely no toy insertion for those three years, which makes me surprised I could take a cock with so little pain. less
02/17/2012
When I was a kid, I sortof experimented with anal play because I found it interesting. But it was more experimentation than anything sexual to me back then.
02/17/2012
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In my opinion, I will never force myself; it depends on whether or not a woman wants the experience or not!! I am more of a cunnilingus expert! And I know I can satisfy the woman!
Originally posted by
Gracie
How long did it take you from your beginning anal play until you were ready for anal sex? I'm still just thinking about it, but I'm starting to wonder if I'm really missing out? Also feel free to share how much time and how often you
...
more
How long did it take you from your beginning anal play until you were ready for anal sex? I'm still just thinking about it, but I'm starting to wonder if I'm really missing out? Also feel free to share how much time and how often you engaged in anal play before you were ready.
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02/18/2012
Don't worry about how long anyone else takes - it's going to happen (or not happen) on your schedule. You need to learn to enjoy it, to relax, and to trust you and your partner 100%.
02/18/2012
This is all great help! Thanks!
02/18/2012
We pretty much skipped any play and went straight to sex.
04/17/2012
It was only a few minutes from what I remember.
04/17/2012
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it took a min
Originally posted by
Gracie
How long did it take you from your beginning anal play until you were ready for anal sex? I'm still just thinking about it, but I'm starting to wonder if I'm really missing out? Also feel free to share how much time and how often you
...
more
How long did it take you from your beginning anal play until you were ready for anal sex? I'm still just thinking about it, but I'm starting to wonder if I'm really missing out? Also feel free to share how much time and how often you engaged in anal play before you were ready.
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04/17/2012
it happened so fast and now i cant go back
04/22/2012
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because its too good
Originally posted by
AbbyLover
it happened so fast and now i cant go back
04/22/2012
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