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If you are the reciever during anal, do you prefer it "slow in and hold" or do you prefer "piston play" from your partner?

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
All the books I have read on the subject say "push in slowly, then hold and feel the fullness". I love anal play, but with slow in and out "pistoning" by my hubby, or I don't get anywhere near the pleasure. If he "stops", yes, there is pressure, but no "wow" factor.

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Contributor: Illusional Illusional
What's pistoning?
08/21/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
Urban Dictionary gave a weird... definition, lol
08/21/2011
Contributor: JessCee JessCee
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Originally posted by Bignuf
All the books I have read on the subject say "push in slowly, then hold and feel the fullness". I love anal play, but with slow in and out "pistoning" by my hubby, or I don't get anywhere near the pleasure. If he ... more
I need a good 10-15 minutes of no movement whatsoever before I can enjoy any in and out movement... I think this is what you're asking... but I'm a little unsure what pistoning is.
08/21/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
I think Bignuf was just describing moving in and out, like a piston in an engine.

Personally, I lead my partner in and hold him still for ... somewhere around 1-2 minutes? before letting him take over. I won't have an orgasm unless he's pumping/pistoning/what ever the kids are saying these days.
08/21/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
Ohhh okay
08/21/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I enjoy the thrusting motion. My fav is a wavy glass toy. The smooth feel is enhanced by changes in pressure that result from the changes in diameter.

My wife seems to prefer the penetrate and hold strategy - but with experience I believe she'll move on to thrusting as well.
08/22/2011
Contributor: PuddlePuppy PuddlePuppy
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Originally posted by Bignuf
All the books I have read on the subject say "push in slowly, then hold and feel the fullness". I love anal play, but with slow in and out "pistoning" by my hubby, or I don't get anywhere near the pleasure. If he ... more
Like normal sex?
For insertion I do like the, 'breathe out, full insertion, then relax and get used to the feeling.'
But for sex it's all about the intensity and constant sensation of frictional stimulation.
08/22/2011
Contributor: Ava5 Ava5
for me in the past, slow didn't feel good at all... fast felt great
08/22/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
I think the "slow in and hold" recommendation is aimed at the beginning, where it lets your anus/rectum relax and get used to the toy/penis/whatever in there. Once you're relaxed and lined up you can ramp things up (as long as you're lubed and comfortable - any pain and ramp them down!).
08/22/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by ScottA
I think the "slow in and hold" recommendation is aimed at the beginning, where it lets your anus/rectum relax and get used to the toy/penis/whatever in there. Once you're relaxed and lined up you can ramp things up (as long as ... more
Well said.
08/22/2011
Contributor: Minamie Minamie
I prefere slow, but not too slow, movement without stoping and without going out. In and out is not what will give me the most pleasure. A fast movement like "pistoning" is not as fun anally as it can be vaginaly. 100% chance of an orgasm for me if it's a regulated movement not too fast.
08/22/2011
Contributor: null null
When double penetrating, I prefer pressure, but not moving in and out. Whenever I have anal sex with my SO, 'pistoning' is ok.
08/22/2011
Contributor: Diablotin Diablotin
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Originally posted by Minamie
I prefere slow, but not too slow, movement without stoping and without going out. In and out is not what will give me the most pleasure. A fast movement like "pistoning" is not as fun anally as it can be vaginaly. 100% chance of an orgasm ... more
I'm taking notes. ;-)

Not that I need some, if I make you orgasms nearly all the time!
08/23/2011
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
I only like it slow for about the first five minutes, then I like getting pistoned for as long as they can.
08/23/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
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Originally posted by Bignuf
All the books I have read on the subject say "push in slowly, then hold and feel the fullness". I love anal play, but with slow in and out "pistoning" by my hubby, or I don't get anywhere near the pleasure. If he ... more
I need a very slow insertion and then a couple minutes with little to movement to get used to the feeling. After that, shallow thrusting is usually best and I do really enjoy the "full" feeling. One of my favourite things is when he goes all the way in and just thrusts without really pulling out at all, just very deep movement.

Oftentimes too much fast in-and-out thrusting can be overwhelming. If I'm really getting into it, though, he can thrust pretty normally but still not nearly as hard/fast as when we're having sex vaginally.
08/23/2011
Contributor: Elaira Elaira
Wow . . . haha.

Even my first time the guy went right in and started thrusting gently at first. I've never done the little to no movement. I'm still a beginner and haven't had anal sex in 6 years, but I plan on doing it again very soon and this was something I had never considered.
08/23/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Minamie
I prefere slow, but not too slow, movement without stoping and without going out. In and out is not what will give me the most pleasure. A fast movement like "pistoning" is not as fun anally as it can be vaginaly. 100% chance of an orgasm ... more
Speaking as a guy it's definitely the regular, rhythmic stimulation of the prostate that kicks me over the edge. Choose a dildo that hits the spot and keep on going - though I do like it fast sometimes.
08/23/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
When he first enters, I'd like him to stay put just for about fifteen to thirty seconds, just to give me a chance to relax. He can thrust a little from there for a bit, but then I like him to go really hard and fast. This is exactly how he likes it as receiver as well
08/23/2011
Contributor: CSEA CSEA
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Originally posted by Bignuf
All the books I have read on the subject say "push in slowly, then hold and feel the fullness". I love anal play, but with slow in and out "pistoning" by my hubby, or I don't get anywhere near the pleasure. If he ... more
yes slow, to start to feel comfortable then faster after its a different sensation
08/23/2011