is it possible for me to have anal?

Contributor: cec578 cec578
My bf really wants to try anal and it's not something I'm opposed to. We've tried twice and were unsuccessful both time. We used lube, he wore a condom, foreplayed with his finger(s), and tried slow. both time it just ended up with me feeling the need to poop. Is there anything else I can try
10/05/2011
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Contributor: Ghost Ghost
Do you douche before you attempt anal?
10/06/2011
Contributor: Kkay Kkay
I'd suggest some solo anal play to grow more accustomed to the sensations.
10/06/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Practice with anal play can take weeks or months to progress from a finger up to to something penis sized. Enjoy the journey and don't be in such a hurry.
10/06/2011
Contributor: Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Practice with anal play can take weeks or months to progress from a finger up to to something penis sized. Enjoy the journey and don't be in such a hurry.
Thanks Gunsmoke - that encourages me.

We're currently "training" for anal play. Right now we're at the point where my husband can insert his index finger up to the first joint if I'm in the right position and have really relaxed from lots of play. Today I ordered a small anal plug (its glass and sorta bead-like in design) and something that can be used as an anal vibrator.

I really don't see myself wanting to go all the way and having anal sex (versus playing a bit with it) - but then again - I didn't think I could enjoy oral sex and I've learned I can.

Taking the time to work up to it is part of the pleasure I think...
10/06/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Thanks Gunsmoke - that encourages me.

We're currently "training" for anal play. Right now we're at the point where my husband can insert his index finger up to the first joint if I'm in the right position and have really ... more
Sounds like your doing the right thing for me. My wife is very reticent about the whole idea - but I recently got her to have an orgasm as I double penetrated her with an Alumina Flow and a finger.

Later on she used the Flow on me anally - I think was her suggestion to me that I try out the small end on her next. Gotta keep those eyes and ears opened for clues!
10/06/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Thanks Gunsmoke - that encourages me.

We're currently "training" for anal play. Right now we're at the point where my husband can insert his index finger up to the first joint if I'm in the right position and have really ... more
It took My Man and I over a month of training before we could have full anal/penile sex. We were using some rimming and gentle fingers. We tried some toys, but I didn't like them until after we had actual anal sex (now I love them.) We went a little further every time, but he made sure I was in the mood and relaxed.

I have to have an orgasm before I have anal sex. It's so relaxing, that I can relax everything and it's much more smooth.

We re-introduced toys after we had actually started having anal sex, although we don't use them every time. Sometimes we use anal toys on me and don't have anal sex. It's different every time.

A good lube is essential, as is being relaxed (try having an orgasm first) and for me, having vaginal penetration from My Man first and then using a phallic dildo or vibe vaginally during anal sex is helpful. Most women are used to vaginal penetration, so not only is the vaginal dildo comfortable, but it puts pressure on your G Spot and A Spot for even more arousal.

Take your time, use lube, go SLOWLY and enjoy every day.
10/06/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
I highly recommend this book. It covers everything said here and more. Even if you never go any farther than a finger, it has great info on anal health and the benefits of knowing all about the back door.
10/06/2011
Contributor: Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
I highly recommend this book. It covers everything said here and more. Even if you never go any farther than a finger, it has great info on anal health and the benefits of knowing all about the back door. ... more
Wow - looks like a good resource based on the video review. Thanks for sharing.

I know that for us - working up to it is the best option - taking our time to get me used to the idea. I think sometimes people can rush into it and then wonder why they don't enjoy it.
10/06/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Feeling the "need to go" is very common - after all, usually when the rectum has something in it that's what you need to do. Try some relaxation exercises and play by yourself to accustom yourself to the sensations and let your butt learn that having something "up there" doesn't always mean a trip to the toilet.
10/08/2011