The New Intimacy

Question for Hetero Couples that DO enjoy anal play regularly.

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Sorry to limit this poll, but it was specific to our discussion and tough to word otherwise. I still want EVERYONE to "feel the love".

Anyway, if you are a HETERO couple who DO enjoy anal play regularly, we have a two part question. WHO in your relationship ENJOYS anal more, and WHO in your relationship INITIATES anal play, be it by asking or action, most of the time?

THANKS
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
In our relationship SHE enjoys anal more.
Terri69 , Mwar , bayosgirl , Bullfroggy and Rose , PDXlady , LAndJ , potstickers
7
In our relationship HE enjoys anal more.
Bex1331 , - Kira - , rom323 , pootpootpoot , John E W , A.noel , darthkitt3n , leanright69 , Vaginas , Germango , Acdub , Liberalqueer , goofballmaster , Trysexual , joelb42 , playsalot
16
In our relationship, we BOTH enjoy anal equally.
solitudinarian , BeeSquared , MaeGal , Bignuf , P'Gell , Beck , Evie Erotica , Vaginas , Chou Wang , sweetpea12 , Sundae Sparkles , mathdj , AmethystSmoke
13
In our relationship SHE initiates anal more often.
Bex1331 , Bullfroggy and Rose , Beck , Vaginas , mathdj , AmethystSmoke
6
In our relationship HE initiates anal more often.
Terri69 , rom323 , P'Gell , PDXlady , John E W , A.noel , LAndJ , darthkitt3n , leanright69 , Germango , Liberalqueer , potstickers , goofballmaster , Trysexual , joelb42 , playsalot
16
In our relationship we BOTH initiate anal about half the time.
solitudinarian , Mwar , - Kira - , BeeSquared , bayosgirl , MaeGal , Evie Erotica , Acdub , Incendiaire , oldkinky
10
Other???
pootpootpoot , Eronos18 , K101 , John E W , A.noel , Two Grand
6
Total votes: 74 (40 voters)
Poll is closed
06/12/2012
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Contributor: Terri69 Terri69
He definitely initiates anal more than I do. I got myself an ass man!
06/12/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
He enjoys anal more than me (with me as the receiver) but knowing that he enjoys it more he is hesitant to ask. I usually initiate, and when I do he jumps at the chance, I am learning to love it though.
06/12/2012
Contributor: solitudinarian solitudinarian
We use toys anally but don't have anal sex. Since you specified "anal play" I figured that counted. We both like having things up our butts and tend to initiate giving or receiving about equally.
06/12/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Anal is just too much a hassle (prep, timing) that we rarely do it. Lately he's been initiating but I have to turn him down because he asks at the last minute and I didn't get a chance to clean up thoroughly.
06/12/2012
Contributor: Bullfroggy and Rose Bullfroggy and Rose
My wife always initiates it and she really seams to enjoy it more.
06/12/2012
Contributor: pootpootpoot pootpootpoot
I guess I'm the first 'other'! Neither of us really initiates anal play, it's just kind of expected that it will happen every time we mess around. And yeah, he enjoys it more, especially physically. The appeal for me is that he can thrust deeper than usual, and how it turns him on so much.
06/12/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Sorry to limit this poll, but it was specific to our discussion and tough to word otherwise. I still want EVERYONE to "feel the love".

Anyway, if you are a HETERO couple who DO enjoy anal play regularly, we have a two part question. ... more
We aren't on the list... We both dislike the idea of anal play. Lol. I guess we're super unique.
06/13/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Terri69
He definitely initiates anal more than I do. I got myself an ass man!
I got me an "ass man" too...but I guess I am a BUTT GIRL, since I shake it in his face and MAKE him come in to play there!!!!!!!!
06/13/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
We aren't on the list... We both dislike the idea of anal play. Lol. I guess we're super unique.
Guess you didn't read the question, eh? I even explained that the poll was for couples who ENJOY anal play. Oh well....in this group you are ODD indeed.
06/13/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Bullfroggy and Rose
My wife always initiates it and she really seams to enjoy it more.
Know that MANY guys would probably LOVE to be you!!!
06/13/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
Anal is just too much a hassle (prep, timing) that we rarely do it. Lately he's been initiating but I have to turn him down because he asks at the last minute and I didn't get a chance to clean up thoroughly.
Honestly, in our humble opinion, you are making this harder then it needs to be. After decades of anal...with ZERO "accidents", we NEVER "prep" other then maybe a shower is we are going to add oral to the games. We have had anal play spontaneously, and first thing in the morning before getting up. Other then LOTS of lube, and the "mess" it makes, there is NO hassle or prep needed. Really.
06/13/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by pootpootpoot
I guess I'm the first 'other'! Neither of us really initiates anal play, it's just kind of expected that it will happen every time we mess around. And yeah, he enjoys it more, especially physically. The appeal for me is that he can ... more
If you allow it every time you "mess around" then you need to get into this play and find positions and techniques that DO turn it on for YOU. For instance, my FAVORITE is having him in my rear, as I have my tush on a pillow and he is standing at the edge of the bed. It is a HUGE turn on to be able to look him in the eye and he can play all day long with my clit...either with a toy, or with fingers, in that way. I cum over and over and over, and rarely fail to GUSH. You need to EXPERIMENT and turn it into YOUR favorite sport too.
06/13/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
We both equally enjoy anal, but I initiate it most of the time. I rather enjoy anal. I beg for it sometimes. He likes that.
06/13/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Guess you didn't read the question, eh? I even explained that the poll was for couples who ENJOY anal play. Oh well....in this group you are ODD indeed.
Some people don't like it. According to Nina Hartley, anal sex is an elective sexual activity. According to her oral sex is a "must."

Even though we enjoy anal, I have to agree with Nina. It isn't for some people. My Man and I didn't get into it until about 4 or 5 years ago, and I'm a bit older than Kendra. (OK, I'm more than a "bit" older than Kendra.) I never thought I'd like it, believed all kinds of fallacies about it, and was actually afraid of it.

People grow and learn and change. Some people like certain things and some don't.
06/13/2012
Contributor: John E W John E W
I like anal.
My girlfriend thinks its nasty and dirty and that's it's an out hole not in!
So anal with her is mostly not in the books!
06/13/2012
Contributor: A.noel A.noel
My partner enjoys it more, and he always initiates.
But I am trying to stretch myself and get more comfortable with anal, and I have to say I am starting to like it much more.
I may even be initiating soon
06/13/2012
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
He initiates, but doesn't like it himself. I enjoy it, but I'm not sure he likes doing it for anything other than the fact that I can get a stronger orgasm.
06/13/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by John E W
I like anal.
My girlfriend thinks its nasty and dirty and that's it's an out hole not in!
So anal with her is mostly not in the books!
Oh my....I think it is WAY "nasty and dirty" too....which is what makes it SO hot and what makes it a special thing that is only for ME and HUBBY.

You know, putting your tongue down someone's throat, having their genitals in your mouth (that they PEE with!), or even a finger inside their private parts (do you know WHERE that thing has been???? Is that the SAME finger that picked up a dead bug a week ago and picked a nose when you were three years old???) but I bet she does THOSE things too (of course, maybe not?).

Bottom line.....SEX is "NASTY and can be DIRTY". That is the wonder and JOY of it. It is PRIMAL FUN.

(Eating, by the way, can be FAR nastier and indeed dirtier if you look at some food contamination statistics).

Just RELAX and ENJOY. Life it TOO SHORT!!!
06/16/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by A.noel
My partner enjoys it more, and he always initiates.
But I am trying to stretch myself and get more comfortable with anal, and I have to say I am starting to like it much more.
I may even be initiating soon
Don't know what it was..maybe the TONE of your response, but my hubby just said "THAT is one cool chick"...."obviously her guy is one lucky dude".
06/16/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
We both equally enjoy anal, but I initiate it most of the time. I rather enjoy anal. I beg for it sometimes. He likes that.
Hummmm...beg for it? I am going to have to try that, except the minute I even HINT at it, there is NO TIME to "beg", Ha, Ha. He catches my cues like a World Series catcher.
06/16/2012
Contributor: sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Sorry to limit this poll, but it was specific to our discussion and tough to word otherwise. I still want EVERYONE to "feel the love".

Anyway, if you are a HETERO couple who DO enjoy anal play regularly, we have a two part question. ... more
He enjoys it a little more than me but, knowing that he is enjoying himself turns me on a lot
06/21/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Hummmm...beg for it? I am going to have to try that, except the minute I even HINT at it, there is NO TIME to "beg", Ha, Ha. He catches my cues like a World Series catcher.
I think he just likes to hear me beg!
06/21/2012
Contributor: Sundae Sparkles Sundae Sparkles
Its a sometimes special treat when It comes to anal sex and I ask for it but he is the one who got me into it.
06/21/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Sundae Sparkles
Its a sometimes special treat when It comes to anal sex and I ask for it but he is the one who got me into it.
Love your answer for some reason. To use, every act is a "special treat"!!!!
06/21/2012
Contributor: goofballmaster goofballmaster
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Sorry to limit this poll, but it was specific to our discussion and tough to word otherwise. I still want EVERYONE to "feel the love".

Anyway, if you are a HETERO couple who DO enjoy anal play regularly, we have a two part question. ... more
Even though I like it more, she still enjoys it.
08/09/2012
Contributor: joelb42 joelb42
She really loves it when I lick her ass and stick a finger in. But she hardly ever initiates it. It is always me going down on her and then slipping my tongue down below
08/09/2012
Contributor: AmethystSmoke AmethystSmoke
We both enjoy it equally but I initiate most often. Might just be because he's always willing so it's just a matter of me giving the green light.
08/10/2012
Contributor: playsalot playsalot
I am all about it and I initiate it most of the time.
08/10/2012