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Alicia
How are you bringing yourself to orgasm when you're on your own? Are you using toys? I find that if I use too much intense vibrations on my clit I'm too sensitive to my husband's touch and I have a hard time orgasming from oral or
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How are you bringing yourself to orgasm when you're on your own? Are you using toys? I find that if I use too much intense vibrations on my clit I'm too sensitive to my husband's touch and I have a hard time orgasming from oral or manual stimulation. I have found that only using super intense vibrations on my clit every now and then helps it from getting too sensitive.
Also, he may need to learn to back off a bit when you get close. Like a tease almost. Sometimes too much pressure or too rapid of movement can cause me to not be able to orgasm for the same reasons you're talking about. I find that it has to be a mix of light and heavy to get it done. If you want him to stop or back off let him know. Like I would say "easy" or something like that and he would know to ease up. After a while he got used to the body language and knowing when he needed to back off on his own. But, until he is familiar with what you need he might just think he needs to try harder...which can just make the issue worse.
Another thing, maybe have him play with a little bullet vibe with you. This way it's his use of it that's getting you off but it's a little extra to get you there.
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Thanks for the suggestions! I actually don't use toys because I haven't yet found any that work for me, but I'm planning on trying them out again sometime soon.
