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Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
I'm not sure if there is a myth, and I'm curious to know what others think. I can't tell if I'm having this issue because I've been using vibes a lot lately. There was a time when I never used them at all.

It just seems like it's getting harder to "lift off" now that I have been using them. Is it a mental thing in your opinion, or do you believe/know that vibrators decrease sensitivity to regular clitoral stimulation by hand or during sex?
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ToyGurl , DeliciousSurprise , CAKES , ZenaidaMacroura , Inwitari , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Taylor , joja , link82 , ddd masturbator(bye all!) , Normandie Hill , FemmeFlo , ~miss senora~ , null , ily , Collogue , jedent , *HisMrs* , chibi1091 , In Between Soliloquies , ksparkles16 , amie.snape , aliceinthehole , Thomas90 , pyratess , sexynola , twelve13
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ToyGurl , Inwitari , joja , Normandie Hill , unfulfilled , pyratess , rosythorn , butts , twelve13
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MaryExy , TameTemptress , Kiwidragon , 724-6924 , Karen Affeldt , soyandapplecrisp , joja , Ansley , null , sweetart , jenn g , Collogue , Kikui , (k)InkyIvy , EndlessFrost , geliebt , badk1tty , MistressDandelion , Lildrummrgurl7 , rosythorn , Lisset Finnien
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Eucaly , Normandie Hill , FemmeFlo , ily , Collogue , Darktragedy , In Between Soliloquies , aliceinthehole , Noelle , twelve13
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Red Vinyl Kitty , deletedacct , P'Gell , Airen Wolf , Kayla , Sammi , Coralbell , alliegator , MaryExy , Redboxbaby , mllebeauty , 724-6924 , Wild Orchid , Karen Affeldt , soyandapplecrisp , The Curious Couple , Misfit Momma , MJ1337 , RainbowOokami , cocorochelle , Bignuf , toxie m , Ms. Spice , ddd masturbator(bye all!) , eroticmutt , carenautilus , vanillaSpice , null , sweetart , sbon , Rin (aka Nire) , GONE! , Katelyn , GonetoLovehoney , unfulfilled , EndlessFrost , blacklodge , badk1tty , Em2Theilee , CadmiumKitty , MistressDandelion , panthercat23 , glitterbombs , Girly Juice , ToyGeek , AK Bunny , Hummingbird , butts , Lena Eden , Glitterlips , Mistress Lizzie
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Ms. Spice
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Contributor: Vegan Silk Vegan Silk
I've heard it is a myth, but not from a study. I can't even remember the source now that I try to think about it. I eagerly await more opinions!
06/08/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
Quote:
Originally posted by Vegan Silk
I've heard it is a myth, but not from a study. I can't even remember the source now that I try to think about it. I eagerly await more opinions!
Same here. I remember hearing this from somebody on TV saying NOT to use vibrators, and if anything to stick to dildos. So for the longest time, dildos was all that I owned until about sometime last year.

I'm starting to feel like it's harder, or that maybe it's just easier witht toys. I honestly can't tell too much. But it seems like I'm either struggling more during sex or just wishing it was extremely easy like it is with clit vibes.
06/08/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
I'm not sure if there is a myth, and I'm curious to know what others think. I can't tell if I'm having this issue because I've been using vibes a lot lately. There was a time when I never used them at all.

It just seems ... more
I started using sex toys because I was losing my ability to easily climax.

I used to come at the drop of a hat. Things changes as I got older and I had a hard time with orgasm before I ever used a sex toy. So My Man bought me my first sex toy to try to help out. I had been having sex and having orgasms for more than 15 years at the time, but I was becoming less sensitive to orgasm before we ever introduced the sex toys.

I think the Wahl saved me and saved our sex life!
06/08/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
I'm not sure if there is a myth, and I'm curious to know what others think. I can't tell if I'm having this issue because I've been using vibes a lot lately. There was a time when I never used them at all.

It just seems ... more
It is a myth that a vibrator can damage the nerves of the clitoris, yes if you rub a spot on your body (or use a vibrator) you can decrease the sensitivity slightly for a short while but it doesn't cause permanent damage to the nerves! Only cutting or otherwise impeding the electrical impulse will cause permanent decrease in sensitivity. The same is true of your clit. What changes is your mental ability to climax easily since a woman's orgasm isn't just physical (anymore than a man's is). You can still use a finger if you have used a vibrator but the orgasm will feel different leading many women to assume that they have damaged themselves.

Only with the practice of clamping the clitoris in such a way as to stem proper blood flow causes permanent nerve damage, vibration will not. Clamping the clitoris, if it is done right, will also not cause nerve damage.
06/08/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
A vibrator can give you intense yet robotic vibrations/pulsations. Fingers can pleasure the inside/outside of a pussy in various ways. And yet, receiving good oral is also an important factor to achieve intense orgasms.
06/08/2011
Contributor: CAKES CAKES
It does seem to be more difficult to orgasm by touching myself. There doesn't seem to be any problem for him to get me off by touching me though.
06/08/2011
Contributor: That Man from Mars That Man from Mars
You can get addicted to certain forms of stimulation, but it's all in your head. That isn't to say it can't cause a problem, however. Psychological sexual addiction is not uncommon, specifically with certain forms of masturbation or toys. There are actually 'recovery' groups and therapy specifically for this.
06/08/2011
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
I think "addicted" might be a bit of a strong of a word, but That Man from Mars is right. Your body gets adjusted to a certain type of stimulation, and it can possibly make it more difficult to orgasm other ways. Is the vibrator's fault? Nah, not at all. If you always get off from rubbing yourself up and down, it makes sense that trying to rub yourself left/right would be harder to orgasm.

If you find yourself unable to orgasm without vibrations, the best way to "fix" it (if it's a problem for you), is to slowly train your body back to orgasming from whatever method you're interested in. The book I'm reading now, "I Love Female Orgasms", talks more about this, but it's completely normal to enjoy vibrational stimulation, and it won't hurt your body at all.
06/08/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
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Originally posted by Kayla
I think "addicted" might be a bit of a strong of a word, but That Man from Mars is right. Your body gets adjusted to a certain type of stimulation, and it can possibly make it more difficult to orgasm other ways. Is the vibrator's ... more
I'll have to check out that book, thanks for the advice. I don't masturbate so often that I would become addicted, but I'm wondering if I've trained my body to climax a certain way. I'm trying to use various different motions so I can get back on track
06/08/2011
Contributor: That Man from Mars That Man from Mars
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
I'll have to check out that book, thanks for the advice. I don't masturbate so often that I would become addicted, but I'm wondering if I've trained my body to climax a certain way. I'm trying to use various different motions so I ... more
There's a common technique used by sex therapists, but it isn't pleasant. Basically, you abstain from masturbation for a period of time between a couple of weeks to as much as two months. After this you get 'in the mood' without physical stimulation of the genitals.

There are a number of steps and it's said to have relatively good (if not perfect) results when followed correctly, but few people will follow it completely.

Send me a pm if you want and I'll tell you more about it.
06/08/2011
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
I'll have to check out that book, thanks for the advice. I don't masturbate so often that I would become addicted, but I'm wondering if I've trained my body to climax a certain way. I'm trying to use various different motions so I ... more
It's totally normal to train yourself to orgasm one way. Seriously. Unless it's bothering you or you want to change, I wouldn't worry about it too much. If I asked the boyfriend to hump couch cushions instead of use his hand, he probably wouldn't be able to orgasm. Give him enough times of doing it though, and I'm sure he'd learn. Your body just tends to adjust itself to stimulation and get used to coming that way.

I'm slowly attempting to train my body to orgasm through g-spot stimulation, but it's a slow process.
06/08/2011
Contributor: alliegator alliegator
I think it is just a case of getting used to a sensation and some times, essentially, bored. The only way a vibe makes it so I can't orgasm as easily is that after using one, I need different sensations to climax that session. Teasing and light friction can make me climax normally, but after a vibe I need very firm pressure.
06/08/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
It's totally normal to train yourself to orgasm one way. Seriously. Unless it's bothering you or you want to change, I wouldn't worry about it too much. If I asked the boyfriend to hump couch cushions instead of use his hand, he probably ... more
You make a lot of sense. I actually started masturbating at age 5-6, and I would rub myself against pillows (or hump them, per se). That was the only way I could masturbate until I turned 16, when I started "training" myself to orgasm lying down on my back while rubbing my clit. So I guess it could be possible to orgasm another way if I try at that as well.
06/09/2011
Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
You make a lot of sense. I actually started masturbating at age 5-6, and I would rub myself against pillows (or hump them, per se). That was the only way I could masturbate until I turned 16, when I started "training" myself to orgasm lying ... more
Masturbating as in for pleasure or just poking at and stuff? I've seen the 6-year-old I babysit absent-mindedly "fiddle" I guess, but she doesn't seem to be doing it for a reason. I figure it's just healthy exploration of sexuality, but I might be a bit freaked if she could be doing it because it feels good (at least would wanna be more strict about how that needs to be away from even her sis) .

I think when I try with my hand instead of a vibrator now, I just notice how much more fatigue I get without the extra help. I don't think I'm less, sensitive, though, just more aware of the work involved in manual masturbation compared to using a toy.
06/09/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
I very rarely orgasm during sex. I don't use vibrators often though, and either way it's difficult for me. I'm kind of curious how to make it easier.
06/09/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
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Originally posted by MaryExy
Masturbating as in for pleasure or just poking at and stuff? I've seen the 6-year-old I babysit absent-mindedly "fiddle" I guess, but she doesn't seem to be doing it for a reason. I figure it's just healthy exploration of ... more
Nope, I actually full on masturbated and had orgasms. I got in trouble for it all the time!
06/09/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
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Originally posted by emiliaa
I very rarely orgasm during sex. I don't use vibrators often though, and either way it's difficult for me. I'm kind of curious how to make it easier.
Vibrators speed it up so quickly for me that it's unreal. Possibly why I like them so much.
06/09/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I voted for my wife - we've been using vibes for 10+ years but she can still orgasm during intercourse. Sometimes orgasms are hard to achieve - but it's more about mood and hormones.
06/09/2011
Contributor: Kiwidragon Kiwidragon
I don't think vibrators lessen my ability at all, because so much of climax is mental. If I don't climax I can tell you why every time, and it's not because my husband was doing something wrong, it's because I was tired, I felt chubby, I was afraid the baby would wake up, etc. But, get the mind in the right place and bam! I can come at the drop of a hat. Though I do admit using a vibrator, especially during PIV sex makes an orgasm much more intense. I think there's as much mental conditioning needed as bodily conditioning in order to climax on a regular basis.
06/09/2011
Contributor: Wondermom Wondermom
I think its a myth, the only thing preventing me from being satisfied without a vibrator is getting used to my husbands tongue lol, my hands dont compare to anything anymore and it is so labor intensive
06/09/2011
Contributor: A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
I use vibrators often and do not think my sensitivity has changed. However, as vibrators give a much stronger orgasm than fingers, it just seems boring to me to masturbate without a vibe.
06/09/2011
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
Quote:
Originally posted by CAKES
It does seem to be more difficult to orgasm by touching myself. There doesn't seem to be any problem for him to get me off by touching me though.
same here. I get off fine during sex and with him touching me. I do have more trouble maturbating with out toys. Or maybe I've just gotten lazy since it's so much easier with a vibrator.
06/09/2011
Contributor: Wild Orchid Wild Orchid
I think the difficulties are all mental. We get used to the stimulation we experience often, we like what we know etc. For example if a woman learns to come from fingering her clit and it takes her, say 10 minutes and then she buys a vibe and starts to get off in 5, with stronger orgasms. When she goes back to fingers it will be disappointing. When she started out fingers were the best she's tried. Now they are not. If she got used to coming in 5 minutes, 10 may feel like forever.

That said, over the almost 10 years I've been masturbating (most of that time was with vibes) my orgasms have definitely improved. Most of it is due to me getting better at masturbating, understanding my body more and getting the right toys. But I'm sure that there have been some neurological changes in my body that contributed to that too.
06/30/2011
Contributor: soyandapplecrisp soyandapplecrisp
The only thing I've noticed is that it makes me extra sensitive. If anything I think being overly repeated might make your body more reliant on a single way to orgasm rather than desensitize you... so switching it up a bit would help. I definitely don't think it's a permanent thing if anything.
06/30/2011
Contributor: edrys edrys
Nope I've never had problems before
07/01/2011
Contributor: RainbowOokami RainbowOokami
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
I'm not sure if there is a myth, and I'm curious to know what others think. I can't tell if I'm having this issue because I've been using vibes a lot lately. There was a time when I never used them at all.

It just seems ... more
I've never had a problem getting off after regular use of a vibrator sometimes it would take longer but it was always well worth the wait
07/12/2011
Contributor: cocorochelle cocorochelle
I tried for a few years to acheive orgasm without a toy, but i was never able to orgasm. Now I use toys regularly and am able to orgasm.

Because it was impossible for me to orgasm without toys previously, it hasn't really changed my sensativity (I beleive). However, once after orgasming using a toy, my boyfriend stimulated my clit and I was able to reach orgasm.

I feel as though I may need a toy to get more blood rushing to my clit, and to reach my first orgasm, and then if i receive clitoral stimulation regardless of if it is from a toy or not, I can reach a second orgasm.
07/14/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
I'm not sure if there is a myth, and I'm curious to know what others think. I can't tell if I'm having this issue because I've been using vibes a lot lately. There was a time when I never used them at all.

It just seems ... more
We use mild vibes, harsh vibes and have for years. My clit is still as sensitive as ever..and with the right touch, I can come, and come again...so I don't personally see any issues of "desensitization" going on.
07/14/2011
Contributor: southern woman southern woman
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
It is a myth that a vibrator can damage the nerves of the clitoris, yes if you rub a spot on your body (or use a vibrator) you can decrease the sensitivity slightly for a short while but it doesn't cause permanent damage to the nerves! Only ... more
I agree with this. Since I've had my kids I haven't been able to orgasim. My husband bought my a clit vibrator and it has helped tremendously. I've noticed tho, if we're on a roll and I use it every night by the end of the week i feel nothing on it. However if we take a few days off and then use the vibrator again its right back to doing its job.
07/16/2011