I want to feel not so alone and I am sick of feeling bad about doing it.
How often (Percentage of the time) do you fake an Orgasm to please your partner or just to end sex? WOMEN ONLY
04/29/2012
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The answer is never. It's no biggie if I can't come once in a while, why fake it? I usually make a joke out of it and say to my husband 'you owe me one!'; he actually loves to hear that because it means he can have sex again soon.
04/29/2012
Never, never, and did I mention never. My husband and I are in our 30's and he's old enough to know that it just takes me a while to get there and if it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen. He knows I'll pull out one of my toys to finish myself off if I want to.
04/29/2012
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LMAO! This is what we do! Lol
Originally posted by
Rossie
The answer is never. It's no biggie if I can't come once in a while, why fake it? I usually make a joke out of it and say to my husband 'you owe me one!'; he actually loves to hear that because it means he can have sex again soon.
04/29/2012
It doesn't benefit either one of us if I were to fake it. My Man
couldn't learn what works if I were to fake it, and we both would be subjected to dishonesty.
If I want sex "to end" we end it. We solve this problem by having me usually come first. I rarely ever come for the first time during PIV (most women don't come during PIV (intercourse)) so we use oral sex, toys, manual play, more oral sex, toy etc until I get where I need to be. On the occasion when I don't come, I know we'll work on it next time. But, most of the time, when I come, I have to during his giving me oral sex or while we're using a toy. If I come again during PIV (and we almost never start PIV until I've already had my first orgasm, either) it's a bonus.
I feel faking it would be like lying to him, and then we'd both be frustrated. We work through our issues and often find it's easier for me to come with less pressure, so he knows when to back off and use a toy for me to finish.
This is what works for us. Faking only teaches your partner bad habits and puts a wedge in the relationship.
couldn't learn what works if I were to fake it, and we both would be subjected to dishonesty.
If I want sex "to end" we end it. We solve this problem by having me usually come first. I rarely ever come for the first time during PIV (most women don't come during PIV (intercourse)) so we use oral sex, toys, manual play, more oral sex, toy etc until I get where I need to be. On the occasion when I don't come, I know we'll work on it next time. But, most of the time, when I come, I have to during his giving me oral sex or while we're using a toy. If I come again during PIV (and we almost never start PIV until I've already had my first orgasm, either) it's a bonus.
I feel faking it would be like lying to him, and then we'd both be frustrated. We work through our issues and often find it's easier for me to come with less pressure, so he knows when to back off and use a toy for me to finish.
This is what works for us. Faking only teaches your partner bad habits and puts a wedge in the relationship.
04/29/2012
fake all the time
04/29/2012
My sexual satisfaction is important to my partner and to me, so I never fake.
04/29/2012
I never fake it why bother if you can't finish stop until you are ready.
04/29/2012
I NEVER fake with my love he pleases me very well
04/29/2012
Never. If I don't come and I don't want to continue having sex, I just say, "I'm done." I would never lie to my partners, not even by faking an orgasm. Also, I don't want my partner to get the wrong idea about what's good for me. I want to communicate what WORKS, not "reward" them for something that doesn't.
04/29/2012
Never fake it, doesn't help either of us.
04/29/2012
haven't
05/08/2012
I do not fake with my partner. I think I would feel a lot of resentment towards him if I did that, and neither of us wants that. We also want both of us to equally enjoy our sexual relationship, and if anyone fakes it that just isn't going to happen.
05/08/2012
I have once or twice, but always felt awful about it and told him afterwards. Communication and better sex ensued
05/08/2012
well I feel like a bad girlfriend now
05/09/2012
I've never faked it. I can't get off without my fingers and/or a vibrator; even though my husband has tried with his fingers/tongue, it just doesn't work. He accepts that, and it's not like he's inadequate..just the way I am. I always opt for open communication rather than lying to make someone else feel better (no offense to those who fake O's.)
05/09/2012
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Never because I don't like to have sex unless I climax. And I won't lie because then they'll never learn
Originally posted by
indiechick
I want to feel not so alone and I am sick of feeling bad about doing it.
05/09/2012
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Please don't feel bad! I do it maybe 10% of the time. We've gotten better over time (it used to be like 50%), with learning about each others likes, but there are still days I feel like his ego will be bruised. Sometimes I tell him I've had enough but I didn't "finish" too. I'm hoping toys will help make that other 10% go away!
Originally posted by
indiechick
well I feel like a bad girlfriend now
05/09/2012
Never. Not because the sex is fantastic, but because I've never actually had an orgasm, so I highly doubt I'd be able to believably fake one. Usually I'm just there for him, so when he's done, we're done.
05/13/2012
I used to fake with my ex. He was horrible in bed and only cared about pleasing himself.
I don't have to fake with my current guy. He's great!
I don't have to fake with my current guy. He's great!
05/13/2012
i'll admit once in a while i have. but usually i don't have to fake
05/13/2012
If I am not getting there I just say so. I don't fake.
05/13/2012
I thought about doing it once with a friend.
I've never done it with my boyfriend. I'll just tell him it's not going to happen today if that's the case.
I've never done it with my boyfriend. I'll just tell him it's not going to happen today if that's the case.
06/02/2012
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I never fake it, cause I feel like if you tell a man he is doing a good job and pretending to like it he will never know he is not getting the job done. I would rather off a little coaching that to fake it.
Originally posted by
indiechick
I want to feel not so alone and I am sick of feeling bad about doing it.
06/02/2012
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Never, its NOT worth it!!
Originally posted by
indiechick
I want to feel not so alone and I am sick of feeling bad about doing it.
06/08/2012
I don't, and I haven't in awhile, but I've faked with partners in the past.
06/08/2012
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Never! if i dont orgasm he knows lol and then he fixes it =]
Originally posted by
indiechick
I want to feel not so alone and I am sick of feeling bad about doing it.
07/26/2012
I never fake with my current partner. But I've done it a couple of times in the past.
07/26/2012
I have never faked it - ever. Sex is about my enjoyment, too. If they think you got off and you didn't, they won't learn what pleases you. I will say that there have been times (very rarely) that it just isn't going to happen for me, in which case I let him know. Its super rare and I think more frustrating to ME than him LOL.
07/27/2012
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