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sometimes i feel depressed soon after ejaculation. Do other guys feel the same way too once in a while?

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Contributor: Kcito Kcito
i dont know if it is only me or what, but i always feel sad recently after masturbating, i'd like to hear from other guys.
i dont know if it is due to stress or any other medical condition. if this question has already been posted in the past, i apologize. im just really worried about this feeling of guilt i've been experiencing lately.
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sometimes
11  (38%)
everytime
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Total votes: 29
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10/29/2010
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Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I've never felt guilty - because it's never been at the expense of a partner. If I have my partner handy her needs come before mine - but if I'm really horny and she's not, I'll take care of business - so we both get what we want.
10/30/2010
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
You shouldn't feel guilty. Sexual needs and desires and natural. I'm sorry you're experiencing this.
10/30/2010
Contributor: Jessica Elizabeth Jessica Elizabeth
I had a period of time when I felt.... not guilty or depressed...but gosh how to explain it. It lasted a good couple years, but after I'd have sex I'd feel like I'd done a bad thing. Like, a really really bad thing. I'd almost go into a panic attack after sex.

Truth be told I never did anything about it. I was quite young at the time, and so didn't talk about it with anyone. Come to think of it, it went away after I stopped having sex with that particular person so it could have been directly related to him.

*hugs* I hope you get this figured out, man. Perhaps you should talk to your partner, or a counselor? There could be underlying emotional issues you need to deal with....
10/30/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
Have you done something that maybe you do feel guilty for?
10/30/2010
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
I suffer from this as well, its called PCT (post coital tristisse). When you climax your brain releases a flood of dopamine, which your brain counters with prolactin and this makes you feel sad or depressed after wards. Its not to uncommon or common really. I found that regular exercise helps a lot and I take vitamins daily although I am not sure they help, but it maybe worth a try.
10/30/2010
Contributor: Onanist Onanist
I answered sometimes because it happened to me in my early 20's. I'm 55 now and I haven't felt guilty and/or depressed since.

I felt guilty because of my Catholic upbringing.

I felt depressed because I didn't have a girlfriend and felt I had no other recourse except to masturbate to satisfy myself. I vividly remember thinking after masturbating that if I had just shared that with a woman, I'd be much happier.

I've overcome both and now enjoy my masturbation sessions.
10/31/2010
Contributor: AU AU
Maybe my answer is irrelevant as I'm female, but often I do feel sad after coming specifically when I masturbate. It's not as simple as guilt because of this or that. Though I often feel that I would have preferred to do something "better" with my time and would have preferred to do something with my partner.

Interesting, Avant-garde about post coital tristisse. Around the time I stopped exercising (and some other things happened) a few years ago, I went through a few years of some pretty heavy depression and I did start feeling a bit less happy about solo sexual activities. It's pretty amazing, just what exercise can do for your well-being. I hope it works for you.
11/01/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
ive never noticed on hubbie. we usually get it done at night, get a smile and knocks out. when he masterbates, no idea, im never around. but when i am, he seems to enjoy it.
11/01/2010
Contributor: Xavier7 Xavier7
Quote:
Originally posted by Kcito
i dont know if it is only me or what, but i always feel sad recently after masturbating, i'd like to hear from other guys.
i dont know if it is due to stress or any other medical condition. if this question has already been posted in the ... more
I do. My confindence drops and I don't know why.
12/12/2010
Contributor: Vaccinium Vaccinium
It's not happened to me to my recollection. Granted, my mood certainly changes after sex, what with the dropoff in adrenaline and other hormones, but I wouldn't characterize it as feeling "depressed"

Hopefully what you are experiencing is biochemical and your mind can begin to understand it from that standpoint.
01/09/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Vaccinium
It's not happened to me to my recollection. Granted, my mood certainly changes after sex, what with the dropoff in adrenaline and other hormones, but I wouldn't characterize it as feeling "depressed"

Hopefully what you are ... more
There definitely can be a lot of hormones swirling around after orgasm. It's probably the closest a guy gets to adolescence after reaching adulthood.
01/10/2011
Contributor: That Guy That Guy
Obviously this is a pretty complex issue, and it's not going to be the same for everybody, but I've always been like that. I'm pretty sure it's just a chemical/hormonal thing for me, but I'm always in a much better mood when I don't masturbate for long periods of time. The more I do it, the more depressed I tend to be overall, but right afterward, I usually feel an overwhelming sense of meaninglessness. I'd say cut back on it a bit and see if that helps.
01/13/2011
Contributor: fronz fronz
The church has taken advantage of a physiological occurance to their advantage. This just means you not titling enough....guilt=money.

Its just a crashing dopomine level that rebalances soon after orgasm. It happens in women as well from what I have read.
09/16/2011