Blow Jobs....A man's fantasy & A woman's Tricks

Contributor: RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by symbiasin
Thanks for the 'don't stop' advise. One thing I do already is massage in the urethra and for a longer time at the frenulum, since it seems to be more sensitive. RonLee, any tips about deep throating, besides go waaaaay deep? U all like ... more
Mmm coconut oil has such a sexual connection in my head anymore that if I just smell it I'll start to get a boner.
I really don't get the sexual turn on that some fellows have with their partner gagging on his cock. I can only speculate that it's a porn film thing, perhaps as an indicator that the man has such a large cock that it will gag anyone sucking it.

Symbiasin, as far as any tips about going deep, I personally enjoy a lot of pressure on my shaft especially at the base on the up stroke, but some don't like that. One person I've sucked (yes I'm a versatile Bi Guy) really prefers a very light touch. And as far as what would your fellow like I'd suggest asking but for many men, he would just be so thankful that you are willing that he might not be able to even answer. I'm a very communicative fellow myself, sometimes too much so. I've been told to just shut up and enjoy... LOL

One other thing would be to simultaneously stimulate your partner's prostate while sucking. I've cum from prostate stimulation alone so combining that with being sucked, that would be heaven. However, ask first. Not every man, particularly straight men, are comfortable with receiving anal stimulation, especially the first time.
02/19/2015
Contributor: symbiasin symbiasin
Probably is a porn thing. I know that different men have different ways they like it done so I ask different men....they are only too willing to tell me. If a female is asking, they MUST be interested in b.j.'s and that's a turn on right there.
02/19/2015
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by Vnessa
The oil on Mrs Secretary??? Or for you... I feel like I might need a plastic sheet tonight!! Lol.
We use it on her and me. For lube for vaginal sex or for use with anal toys. and the cool part about it is if you get it on your sheets... its coconut oil. It smells great and it doesn't get sticky if it gets on your clothes or your bed. It really is the ultimate! AND its good for your body.

If we don't use that or we don't have that we use maximus that that is incredible too. I did a review on it if you want to check it out.
02/19/2015
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by Vnessa
Ummm...yeeeeaaahhhh... we totally need to master that (happy claps!!!!). He gives in waaaay too easily lol. He has no control when it comes to my vag lol. I could go incredibly slow (which is my fave) or fast and hard and it would not make a ... more
Now see here's when I am going to have to be on the boarder of offending you.

Any guy can control his orgasm you just have to give him motivation. Now its more difficult for a guy than it is for a girl because we do seem to get to an orgasm much quicker than you ladies do.

However you need to make him control his orgasm. Make him learn about how his body feel and how close he is to having an orgasm. A great way to do that is to get on top of him to ride him and have him put his hands on your hips. As you ride him have him show you at what point of speed and stimulation he is at by having him slow down speed up or even stop you dead in your tracks. If you want the truth... This practice led to me figuring out how to have multiple orgasms without a break in between.

Truthfully I figured it out while masturbating. Then the next time we had sex I pulled out of her and came all over her stomach and she gave me that huge smile of like that was fun and she started to roll over and I put my hand oh her stomach and gently pushed her back onto the pillow and entered her again and she was shocked. I got really close down on top of her mixing my cum between our bodies and then I came for a second time inside of her then again for three times. She was shocked an hour later she was cooking in the kitchen telling me "you know... your still leaking out of me. That was like a gallon LMAO!"Trust me its completely worth taking the time to learn your body.

I am not shy at all about stopping her or pulling out if she is going to make me cum too quickly. Sure I want to cum but im in it to win it. I want to have an amazing orgasm not just a run of the mill orgasm. So I try and pleasure her while I try to use her body like my own personal sex toy to achieve the best orgasm I can.

Now that does backfire on me sometimes because she gets on top has no intention of doing anything but ripping me up (Which is awesome sometimes too, no complaints here) and I will beg her to slow down... she refuses and rides me harder then she will pin my arms to the bed (I let her which gets her off) I let her take out her anger on me and a kind of bury my head in her breasts as I cum and groan like im going to get into trouble if someone catches me. (Gets her off too)

As I said in another post... sometimes she has no intention of her having an orgasm she just wants to make me cum. Usually she will slow down but she does like to force me to cum fast when I want to take my time so I put on that "Oh dont force me to cum" production on and she loves it!

Another little trick that I use that some guys will refuse to do is that I alternate during sex from oral to penetration to slow myself down if I feel I am going to cum too soon. There has been times where we have gone for several hours by me pulling out and going down on her off and on. That varies the stimulation for her but continues the stimulation. Truth be told... I may have said this before but precum just pours out of me while I am going down on her so its not like I need more stimulation. So it all works out well for me!

Now some guys are bugged out because they have that mindset of my dick was just there I don't want to eat her out after that. I love some good thick cream from her body built up on her clit and labia and I am sure there has been a time or two I have tasted my own cum/precum on/in her. (I'm not sure if she would be into going down on her after I have had a full orgasm but I don't think id be against it. I mean its all natural LOL!)

Give it all a shot you will love it!
02/19/2015
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by RonLee
Mmm coconut oil has such a sexual connection in my head anymore that if I just smell it I'll start to get a boner.
I really don't get the sexual turn on that some fellows have with their partner gagging on his cock. I can only speculate ... more
It is a shame I think you would agree Ron that straight men aren't always comfortable with receiving anal stimulation.

I cant lie I am straight and I felt awkward a bit until I had my first prostate orgasm with a toy while having oral performed on me.

It felt so good it was like my body overloaded then short circuited ! I was shaking for an hour afterwords. Its like a regular orgasm times three if you get it just right.

However that's not my normal thing and its gotta be a pretty kinky night for those toys to even get considered. But when they do OH BOY!
02/19/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Now see here's when I am going to have to be on the boarder of offending you.

Any guy can control his orgasm you just have to give him motivation. Now its more difficult for a guy than it is for a girl because we do seem to get to an ... more
Thank you, Jesus! (is it bad to mention Jesus while discussing sex lol) Anyway,I could totally Hi-5 you right now!!! You just gave me some great homework for the weekend

Oh....it takes a lot more than that to offend me lol. But, thank you, for being considerat
02/19/2015
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by Vnessa
Thank you, Jesus! (is it bad to mention Jesus while discussing sex lol) Anyway,I could totally Hi-5 you right now!!! You just gave me some great homework for the weekend

Oh....it takes a lot more than that to offend me lol. But, thank ... more
If he is willing to go along he may put up a fuss for a few minutes until he understands what you are trying to help him do.

As I said in another post. Dare him not to cum while you literally slide down him as slow as you possibly can. Then grind your clit against him when your all the way down gently but firmly.

His body will literally force him to cum after a while if he can concintrate on not getting excited. He will literally have to focus on not even contracting his pc muscles.

Once you guys get that down he will cum so hard he will hurt his chest muscles. And he will fill you up to the gills. Oh yeah btw... for a guy.. if you can pull that off the prostate just builds and builds and fills and fills until he cums. You will be amazed at the volume he produces after an orgasm like that. (and the distance he can cum believe it or not. LOL.)

She did that to me rolled me over wanted me to cum on her breasts... believe it or not I actually ejaculated so far that I came on the wall behind her and the screen on the window LMAO! I was embarassed for a moment or two.. then I was like I'M FUCKING SUPERMAN LOL!
02/19/2015
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
If he is willing to go along he may put up a fuss for a few minutes until he understands what you are trying to help him do.

As I said in another post. Dare him not to cum while you literally slide down him as slow as you possibly can. Then ... more
I think that it will literally get to the point where your body cant store the fluid anymore and your body forced itself to ejaculate.

As I said before. Don't let him thrust, just extremely slow up and down and grind your clit on the bottom. (That's how I like it atleast LOL)And the dont flex your PC muscles thing is VERY IMPORTANT. And if you are not sure what they are is the muscle that you flex that makes you harder and stops you from peeing. (For a guy)

Stop if you have to then start again when hes started to drop back from his orgasm. Its all of the sudden going to go BOOM!

Have fun!
02/19/2015
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
I think that it will literally get to the point where your body cant store the fluid anymore and your body forced itself to ejaculate.

As I said before. Don't let him thrust, just extremely slow up and down and grind your clit on the ... more
Oh and last thing... If he lets you which most men probably wont. If you give him a prostate toy or a butt plug that presses up against his prostate he will cum much harder and much more volume. But you have to convince him on a toy like that.
02/19/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
I think that it will literally get to the point where your body cant store the fluid anymore and your body forced itself to ejaculate.

As I said before. Don't let him thrust, just extremely slow up and down and grind your clit on the ... more
I like BOOM!!

Now, I just need to remember all of this without having a concentrated look in my face lol.

Hurry up Friday!!!! Whoop Whoop
02/19/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
If he is willing to go along he may put up a fuss for a few minutes until he understands what you are trying to help him do.

As I said in another post. Dare him not to cum while you literally slide down him as slow as you possibly can. Then ... more
If he shoots anything across our room he is SO cleaning it up!!! Lol We have a huge headboard on our bed so that would be just lovely He can aim for me all he wants but our silk curtains and my furniture is off limits
02/19/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Oh and last thing... If he lets you which most men probably wont. If you give him a prostate toy or a butt plug that presses up against his prostate he will cum much harder and much more volume. But you have to convince him on a toy like that.
Can't I just have the toy instead???? I may be pushing my luck getting him to try it lol. I could be wrong....I've never asked or suggested. He may shock me like I shock him
02/19/2015
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Oh and last thing... If he lets you which most men probably wont. If you give him a prostate toy or a butt plug that presses up against his prostate he will cum much harder and much more volume. But you have to convince him on a toy like that.
Oh those poor silly (read repressed) straight men who just don't understand how much fun prostate play is... LMFAO!
02/19/2015
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by Vnessa
If he shoots anything across our room he is SO cleaning it up!!! Lol We have a huge headboard on our bed so that would be just lovely He can aim for me all he wants but our silk curtains and my furniture is off limits
LOL! I dont blame you at all!
02/19/2015
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by Vnessa
Can't I just have the toy instead???? I may be pushing my luck getting him to try it lol. I could be wrong....I've never asked or suggested. He may shock me like I shock him
I am sure Ronlee will agree with me on this...

As dumb as its going to sound... Order two of them. Use one yourself and get a few drinks in him make him take a shower with you and let him fondle yours and tell him how great it feels. You never know he may just let you use it on him.

I mean, this may really be out there but if you guys watch porn look up a prostate massage and show it to him. You may find him more agreeable.
02/19/2015
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by RonLee
Oh those poor silly (read repressed) straight men who just don't understand how much fun prostate play is... LMFAO!
LOL! Yep!
02/19/2015
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by Vnessa
Can't I just have the toy instead???? I may be pushing my luck getting him to try it lol. I could be wrong....I've never asked or suggested. He may shock me like I shock him
I mean drunk truth or dare kind of put me into my position. We had had sex 3-4 times that day and after a bottle of wine and an awesome sushi dinner she dared me to try the toy. I wanted to be open minded and of course not back down on the bet... so We tried it and she massaged it gently up against my prostate and she sucked me off. After 3-4 orgasms that I already had that day, not only was I amazed that I came again but it was harder and stronger than the other 3-4 I had earlier that day. She said she was also amazed at how much I came.

Once you have that first hard reboot of an orgasm, you cant go back to not considering it.
02/19/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by RonLee
Oh those poor silly (read repressed) straight men who just don't understand how much fun prostate play is... LMFAO!
Maybe I can just feed him beer, smack his ass, blind fold him, lube up the plug really good, just go for it, and hope for the best????
02/19/2015
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
It is a shame I think you would agree Ron that straight men aren't always comfortable with receiving anal stimulation.

I cant lie I am straight and I felt awkward a bit until I had my first prostate orgasm with a toy while having oral ... more
Too bad my husband's not interested in this forum, or else I'll make him read this post!

My husband's one of those straight men; he refuses to let me finger his hole. He's okay with me massaging his perineum (and he makes those oohs and aahs noise) but will move my finger away after a minute or two. I have a question for you guys. One time while giving him a BJ and some rimming, I stuck a finger into his hole, and he cummed instantly. Afterward, he claimed he didn't like it. So, do you guys think he's in denial? Why did he cum if he didn't like it?
02/20/2015
Contributor: symbiasin symbiasin
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Originally posted by RonLee
Mmm coconut oil has such a sexual connection in my head anymore that if I just smell it I'll start to get a boner.
I really don't get the sexual turn on that some fellows have with their partner gagging on his cock. I can only speculate ... more
I just remembered something....after some guys come, they draw themselves away, saying that they are too sensitive now. Does that mean that they are finished or are they missing out on some feeling?
02/20/2015
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by Rossie
Too bad my husband's not interested in this forum, or else I'll make him read this post!

My husband's one of those straight men; he refuses to let me finger his hole. He's okay with me massaging his perineum (and he makes those ... more
To address your question of why your Hubby claimed he didn't like it. There's quite a bit going on in a man's head about sex. Would I think that he's in denial? Denial about what? He very well could be saying he didn't like it because he's afraid of what YOU would think of him Rossie. I'm not saying that you would accuse him of "being gay" but it is not at all uncommon. I'm a bi guy and very comfortable with my own sexuality, but many straight men just aren't comfortable at all that they might enjoy something that a gay men do.

So there's a distinct possibility that several things are going on simultaneously. He might be worried about what you would think.
He might even be worried that if he likes anal play that it will "turn him gay".
He might not understand some of the pleasure of the sensation of your finger in his hole. After all anal play is foreign to him. With prostate play, in particular, it sort of feels like you have to pee, but you don't.
Then there's even the possibility that he really did not like it, but orgasm was a physiologic response. Even some paralyzed men can orgasm from the correct sort of stimulation, including the use of a rectal probe.
Communication is king here.
02/20/2015
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by Vnessa
Maybe I can just feed him beer, smack his ass, blind fold him, lube up the plug really good, just go for it, and hope for the best????
Vnessa, along with that thought of communication. (pst I know that you were joking about "blindfold him, lube up the plug really good, just go for it, and hope for the best?")
Even an experienced anal player like me needs warm up and going really slow for the first penetration of a session. So Please get CONSENT First. But Vnessa, your man just doesn't know how lucky he is...
02/20/2015
Contributor: symbiasin symbiasin
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Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Now see here's when I am going to have to be on the boarder of offending you.

Any guy can control his orgasm you just have to give him motivation. Now its more difficult for a guy than it is for a girl because we do seem to get to an ... more
I painted such a vivid, fun picture of all that going down, going in, cumming, multi's, etc. it was like a porn show in my head (a good one)

Thanks for the early morning picture show (in my head).
02/20/2015
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by symbiasin
I just remembered something....after some guys come, they draw themselves away, saying that they are too sensitive now. Does that mean that they are finished or are they missing out on some feeling?
Both! I'd say that many, most or even all of us men become "too sensitive" as far as use of the cock right after orgasm. However some of us, me included very much enjoy that overstimulation. Some don't though. My Baby knows that if she's made me cum by hand to just not stop with what she was doing when I stop orgasming. The toe-curling, uncontrollable thrashing about reaction from being overstimulated is just so much fun for me, I love it!
But sadly, some don't...
02/20/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by RonLee
Vnessa, along with that thought of communication. (pst I know that you were joking about "blindfold him, lube up the plug really good, just go for it, and hope for the best?")
Even an experienced anal player like me needs warm up and ... more
Absolutely, luv . I want his total trust, always. Honestly, it would be foreign and new for both of us. I wouldn't want to scare him off. I need to make sure I know how to make it absolutely amazing for him before I even approach his little virgin hole . Plus, I don't want to be afraid of it. I need to be confident about it. I'm a bit of a perfectionist that way. Is it creepy to wish there was a "model" to practice on first lol. I mean, seriously. I don't want to be some amature player lol. I want toes curling, incomprehensible speech, tingling balls, and numb teeth!!! Yes, he has said before that the orgasms I've given him have made his teeth go numb and his ears ring lol. I want THAT for him with this, if I can get him to go along with it
02/20/2015
Contributor: Inquisitor Inquisitor
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Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
It is a shame I think you would agree Ron that straight men aren't always comfortable with receiving anal stimulation.

I cant lie I am straight and I felt awkward a bit until I had my first prostate orgasm with a toy while having oral ... more
Agreed!
02/20/2015
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by symbiasin
I painted such a vivid, fun picture of all that going down, going in, cumming, multi's, etc. it was like a porn show in my head (a good one)

Thanks for the early morning picture show (in my head).
My pleasure !

See the obstacle isn't getting him to try and control his orgasm once he wants to do it, the obstacle is to get him to want to try and control his orgasm.

I was kidding with a friend the other day that if we had known about these techniques in college or high school we would have been gods!!!

Back then it was YAY I am gonna have sex and cum! If she enjoys it that's cool too but YAY FOR ME! Now I know that its so much better to have her cumming while I am.

Once you understand that sex is so much better when she is getting off your off to the races.

I was saying if only we had a time machine to go back and tell ourselves things like this! LMAO!
02/21/2015
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
My pleasure !

See the obstacle isn't getting him to try and control his orgasm once he wants to do it, the obstacle is to get him to want to try and control his orgasm.

I was kidding with a friend the other day that if we had known ... more
Ladies say what you want to say but I think you will agree.

Its easy to make a guy cum... his challenge is not cumming.

Its difficult to make a woman cum... her challenge is relaxing and getting in the right state of mind enough to allow herself to cum.

You can play with her clit and g-spot all you want, if she isn't feeling it its just not going to happen.
02/21/2015
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Ladies say what you want to say but I think you will agree.

Its easy to make a guy cum... his challenge is not cumming.

Its difficult to make a woman cum... her challenge is relaxing and getting in the right state of mind enough to ... more
And I am just going to throw it in there....

I made her cum twice in a row last night just from straight up sex nothing else! I felt like a fucking superhero!

(It has happened before but I always relish it for a while afterwords LOL!!!)

I have found how to have multiples, but I want her to start having the same fun I have. (Got in trouble with that yesterday, I pulled out of her the first time I came and kinda came on her sweat shirt she was planning to wear later on because I didnt want to cum inside her and make her sticky before we were done. Before kids I could get her every time we had sex. After kids it isn't that easy and now we are getting back to before we had kids and I want to kick her up to having multiples as well if it takes oral, penetration and toys combined!

Im a man on a mission!

My problem is I obsessed about two. Now that I have gotten two a few times... the goal is of course three. I like cumming until I literally cant ejaculate anymore during sex and you have that exhausted raw sore feeling inside that feels great for a day or so. I want her to experience that feeling of I came so many times I just cant cum anymore until I have had some gatorade and some steak LMAO!
02/21/2015
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
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Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
And I am just going to throw it in there....

I made her cum twice in a row last night just from straight up sex nothing else! I felt like a fucking superhero!

(It has happened before but I always relish it for a while afterwords ... more
Well, shit fire, I'm sulking lol. My cumming was HIJACKED by 'said' kids lol. I have to wait it out!!! Therefore, I am living vicariously through The Secretary right now .

I'm glad some people on here got what I was supposed to last night . Maybe the cards will be in my favor today...(come on good Karma)
02/21/2015