Giving Direction When Going Down?

Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Does your partner ever give you direction when you're going down on them? Does it bother you or do you appreciate it?

Do you ever give your partner direction? Is it because they aren't doing a good job, or you just want it a certain way?
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Contributor: Sammi Sammi
We both do this on occasion. It doesn't bother either of us, it's more that we want it a certain way right then
Contributor: Fluke Fluke
My last girlfriend would make noises when I was in the right area and I was doing it just right. Never had a girl straight out give me directions or say exactly how to do it (although I wouldn't mind that)

I have been with girls that don't give me any help and it's pretty frustrating. I don't think they understand, every girl is different and I need some clues in order to to know what she likes.
Contributor: evie.amor evie.amor
I've given a guy directions before and he didn't take it well. I don't mind as long as they say it in a nice way.
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Yes, sometimes that's the way to get things done right!
Contributor: dawnkye dawnkye
I don't give direction, but perhaps a little nudge would be useful. I actually love getting feedback though.
Contributor: SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
Directions are a good thing, it helps your partner know what you like and don't like. I will usually give gentle directions to help them out and I absolutely love it when a partner does the same, takes the guess work out of it all.
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
He sometimes will, which doesn't bother me. I rarely give any instructions, he's good at what he does.
Contributor: dancingduo dancingduo
Balance gratitude and direction. New things can be scary, so direct but do not scold or correct.
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
The only direction I usually offer is: "Put your finger in my ass" or "push it in"

I've never been given real directions (by real, I mean I've heard a lot of "don't stop", but nothing like "do this, this way")
Contributor: spiced spiced
I wish my wife WOULD give me some directions. I've told her I want them, but she finds it hard to express what she wants. She's harder to please, and likes more different things, than any other woman I've been with. I sometimes feel I'm not doing a very good job, especially when she takes a long time. I don't really mind; I LOVE giving her head! I just pay attention to what she really likes, and what she doesn't respond well to, and strive to always get better.

I do give her directions. A long time ago, she told me that she likes it when I do. The results are nothing short of AMAZING.
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
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Contributor: VeganChick (is Gone) VeganChick (is Gone)
We have both given directions, but I think I am more prone to doing it then he is. Everything feels good to him, so it's kind of whatever I want to do, whereas I am a little more picky about what I need.
Contributor: nickeyt nickeyt
yes and it makes it better for bouth only you knows what feals good at that time
Contributor: purpleflower1972 purpleflower1972
I like giving direction and don't mind receiving.
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
I do give her some light directions, I don't usually get instructions (not that I'd mind making things better)
Contributor: Rokmai Rokmai
We both have. It's strongly encouraged.
Contributor: bog bog
Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
Does your partner ever give you direction when you're going down on them? Does it bother you or do you appreciate it?

Do you ever give your partner direction? Is it because they aren't doing a good job, or you just want it a certain way?
I LOVE receiving direction; I like when things are clear and I know what's going on, as opposed to guessing. In my experience, people prefer not giving direction because they don't want to be seen as demanding. I say, demand away; I am free to say no!
Contributor: chicmichiw chicmichiw
I need to give direction. It's important to make sure you get what you want, don't watch them flounder.
Contributor: Cinnyree Cinnyree
I don't think I could ever give direction. I see it as a gift to me, as long as they want to do it I'm happy. If they are just doing it to make me happy and get nothing out of it I don't want it!

On the flip side I had a partner that gave second by second detailed instructions and it was the hottest thing I've ever lived through!
Contributor: butts butts
the few times I've received, I've given a bit of direction and he seems happy to be told what to do.

When I give, I don't mind him verbally asking for specific things, I'll happily do what he wants. BUT I absolutely hate it when he uses his hands to push my head around or move my hands for me, that instantly infuriates me. I don't like being dominated, and when he tries to hold my head down or force me to put my hands certain places (almost always when I'm using that hand to hold myself up so it makes it REALLY uncomfortable for me), I want to stop right then and there. Fuck that. As soon as you cause me discomfort while I'm trying to pleasure YOU, you can get yourself off because I'm done. More than once I've stopped and glared at him, and I've told him I don't like it, but he always conveniently "forgets" a day or two after I remind him. There's not really anything in our sex life that is bad, we have great sex, except THAT. He would get oral more often if he would fucking stop that. >8(
Contributor: Bill220 Bill220
I ask my wife for feedback when we're trying something new/different. Nothing wrong with a little guidance down there
Contributor: llellsee llellsee
I give direction with my body movement rather than vocally if its during the act itself but I have given my partner my favorite book on oral sex to read and will often remind him what level of pressure is best for me depending on my mood.
Contributor: lillmiss5054 lillmiss5054
We both enjoy giving and receiving verbal and nonverbal instruction. It can be so verrrry HOT if given respectfully.
Contributor: bratcat bratcat
my partner will be very vocal while i give them oral, telling me what they like and how they like it. I find it incredibly sexy, and find it often adds to some sub/dom play. Unlike them, however, I'm much less vocal but i will use my hands and guide my partners head or move my pelvis around to better get off.
Contributor: Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
My partner does not give me direction. The only direction he ever did give was watch out for the teeth. Very understandable. I ask for feedback and he says he likes the way I do it. I love what he does so no direction is necessary from me.

Neither of us were on the receiving end in our prior relationships. I was with my ex for 21 years and he only ever tried once. He was with his ex for 15 years and she only did it a few times and did not like it. We are blessed that we both love to do it so now we get to give and receive.
Contributor: Sangsara Sangsara
I always give direction if I want it to be a main event and not just foreplay especially because all women are different, they don't all appreciate the clit flick in fact it makes my clit too sensitive - I prefer focus on my shaft - I think that communication in the form of direction when it comes to you own body and something you've been working on for years is something to be appreciated and commended not insulted by . I don't take offense to direction about felatio , in fact I do mutual masturbation to find out what guys like since so many of them are fond of simply saying "ya just like that " or in response to a request for direction "you're doing it perfect just like that" which once I see how they do it themselves is rarely the same.
Contributor: GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
I do give directions but I do it more when someone isn't doing too good on their own. I've never had anyone have a bad reaction to it and actually I've had some people tell me after that it was a huge turn on.
Contributor: snowminx snowminx
My current partner doesn't give me direction but a couple people in the past have. My response depends on how he gives the advice. Head is a privrage, not something I have to do for them. If I'm hurting them in some way I'm fine with it, if its something like "well my ex used to do ____ technique.." things aren't going to go over too well for him.

I don't give people advice on oral. I hated getting licked by at least 80% of my partners so honestly I don't really know what I do like. I'd just do no oral than bad oral. I know I have to be completely comfortable with my partner to even think about enjoying it and that's not something I can teach.