Husband can't cum

Contributor: Danielle1220 Danielle1220
My husband can't cum when I give him a blowjob...help!!

Give me some ideas...maybe something can help!
03/11/2011
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Useful topic breakdown on Oral sex enhancers:

Can You Deep Throat?
The title says it - I'm wondering what the ratio is here. Can you deep throat? Or do you choke?

Who is best at rimming?
For those who have been rimmed by both sexes. This a question in general since I realize each person is unique.

What tricks do you enjoy using while your giving or receiving oral?
I know that we all enjoy oral sex. How do you like it sweet,cool or with a little tingling sensation or a toy?

He you ever thrown up while deep throating?
I know this is totally gross but I was just wondering if anyone has ever thrown up when deep throating due to gagging? P.S sorry about the title...

Vivid bunny – clitoral vibrator on a scale of 1 - 10
How do you rate the Vivid bunny on a scale of one to ten. Based off power, noise level, color, shape, etc.
03/11/2011
Contributor: Vaccinium Vaccinium
I've never had an orgasm from a blowjob, so I can sympathize. Try stroking him while giving him the blowjob. that has a good chance at working so long as you do it rhythmically and using the right pressure.
03/12/2011
Contributor: agabby agabby
While my boyfriend always cums, I can give you a few pointers that he's said helps him cum quicker (we keep an open converation about what works, what doesn't, during sex).

Continuous motion: When you stop and go, although it may be exciting, it's gonna make him last longer. If you keep going at the same pace, rhythm, and motions, it gets him in the "groove" and it may be easier for him.

Use everything!: When I go down on him, I use my right hand to rub his base (as if I'm churning butter). I use my other hand to grab his ass, massage the back of his thighs, or reach up and rub his tummy.

The tongue: My boo LOVES when I stick out my tongue while sucking on him. I can't do it for too long, but when I do he's bound to cum all over!

The nipples: We found this out accidentally, actually, but whenever I suck on him and twist his nipples, he goes crazy. You can try it.

69?: Have you tried sucking on him while he plays with you? My boyfriend gets most of his pleasure from seeing me pleasured, so maybe that's the missing ingredient while you're getting busy down below

p.s. keep in mind that these tips pertain to one person...your husband may or may not go for it.

Good Luck! (And hey, trying new things is exciting in itself!)
03/12/2011
Contributor: mkhotshot mkhotshot
Quote:
Originally posted by Danielle1220
My husband can't cum when I give him a blowjob...help!!

Give me some ideas...maybe something can help!
I heartily agree with the 69 suggestion. I am totally unable to relax and cum when receiving oral unless I know I am making her feel good too.
03/22/2011
Contributor: extrafun extrafun
May be you should try and let him watch a movie that gets him excited at the same time. Also I have found that the longer it has been since I have had sex last the sooner and easier it is for me to cum. If its been several days, I can ussually cum quickly and then still be able to cum again later.
03/22/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My wife is pretty skilled at BJs and coming has not been a problem - but on those rare occasions when I'm having problems - getting her to use her fingers or an toy anally works every time.
03/22/2011
Contributor: LuvMyMan LuvMyMan
Quote:
Originally posted by Danielle1220
My husband can't cum when I give him a blowjob...help!!

Give me some ideas...maybe something can help!
Well I posted this earlier but even after my husband has cum several times I can still get him hard and get him to cum a few more times with anal play on him.

I know some people might cringe at the idea but I am telling you what works for us. I am a cum fanatic and each time we have sex I try to get him to cum as many time as possible. Anal play on him is what works. It is only as limited as the two of you want it to be. Over time you will perfect the process and techniques and he will be putty in your hands/mouth...errrr that actually should be a rock not putty - .
06/04/2011
Contributor: That Man from Mars That Man from Mars
I agree about the anal play. It can really make a difference if done right.

Anyhow, talk to him. Communication is very, very important. Perhaps you could ask him what his fantasies are, and what he does when he is masturbating on his own?
06/04/2011
Contributor: reinkaos reinkaos
we're having the same dilemma, so if you figure something out please send your advice my way
05/14/2012