Do men really prefer sloppy, gagging blowjobs?

Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
Not sloppy as in bad quality, just messy with lots of spit and drool. My partner says it turns him on more than just a neat one. Is it because I look like I'm trying harder?
07/11/2010
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07/11/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
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Originally posted by PassionQT
Not sloppy as in bad quality, just messy with lots of spit and drool. My partner says it turns him on more than just a neat one. Is it because I look like I'm trying harder?
Mine doesn't. I don't think he'd mind it, but it's not like it turns him on. It just turns him on if I do it where he can see my face during it..and he especially likes it if I do it with my ass up in the air lol, but nothing about lots of spit and drool has ever really been mentioned.

He also does NOT like gagging because he feels like he's hurting me and is probably afraid I'll vomit on him. He prefers more tongue work instead of deep throating.
07/11/2010
Contributor: Kim! Kim!
I've been told by more than one guy that they prefer it that way. I haven't actually asked my boyfriend which he prefers but he seems to react more when it's messier.
07/11/2010
Contributor: trios trios
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Originally posted by PassionQT
Not sloppy as in bad quality, just messy with lots of spit and drool. My partner says it turns him on more than just a neat one. Is it because I look like I'm trying harder?
Definitely! The more lubricated the cock the more sensitive it is for him. Kinda like a foot massage: massaging your foot dry is nice. Then add lotion - it feels better. But with lots of massage oil the fun begins. Especially if there is no foreskin, more lube= more slicky fun!

Nothin to do your your effort but its feeling mainly, but I'm sure he appreciates the effort!
07/11/2010
Contributor: gone77 gone77
But I've found quite a few guys enjoy the sensations and the look. Some men seem to enjoy seeing a woman "ugly" herself up, so to speak, as she pleases him. It's like she's saying, "I don't care how I look as long you like what I'm doing!" Does that make sense?
07/12/2010
Contributor: sweet sally sweet sally
Great question. I'd like some male input on this one. I'm a neat kinda girl. I have never been able to figure out where those girls get all that spit? Sorry, I simply don't produce that much spit.
07/12/2010
Contributor: Blinker Blinker
I gave my boyfriend a sloppy BJ and got lipstick smeared all over the place. He loved it but admitted it was because I looked dirty and porn-worthy lol. It was a fun time but that damn lipstick was hard to wash off.

But during usualy BJs he does like to gag me sometimes. It makes my eyes water and I make squeaky sounds and he gets a sick kick out of it.
07/12/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
I do not particularly enjoy "sloppy" oral sex, but I like it when she gags on me and almost chokes. That I enjoy. But her getting all of her saliva on my pants? Then I get a bit mad, but at the same time, it isn't too bad.

What makes the blow job good is the movements she makes with her tongue and head, not necessarily how much saliva is there. The mouth is already fairly wet, so it's enough that it's a good amount of lubrication.
07/12/2010
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
Enthusiasm. I don't care if it's wet and sloppy or tactical; if she enjoys doing it, I enjoy receiving it.
07/12/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
Enthusiasm. I don't care if it's wet and sloppy or tactical; if she enjoys doing it, I enjoy receiving it.
That's my fiance's stance as well. He loves the wet sloppy ones and he loves the clean and neat ones. So long as I'm legitimately into it and working with what goes on instead of just trying to go 'by the book', he's enthralled.
07/12/2010
Contributor: Sensual husband Sensual husband
When my wife is enjoying herself giving me a bj is when I like it the most. My favorite bj my wife has given me is when she was blindfolded and has to tease and please me with just her tongue and mouth no hand help. I also like it a lot when my wife only licks me and does not take me deep in her mouth...
07/12/2010
Contributor: sandblastedskin sandblastedskin
I don't think I would enjoy having my girlfriend gagging all over my dick. Not only would that make me feel badly, but having someone puke all over my penis seems like it would be pretty horrible LOL.
07/17/2010
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
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Originally posted by sandblastedskin
I don't think I would enjoy having my girlfriend gagging all over my dick. Not only would that make me feel badly, but having someone puke all over my penis seems like it would be pretty horrible LOL.
I totally agree with this, lol. When I give blowjobs I use a lot of saliva because more lubrication just feels better, and I do go all in because I think enthusiasm is hot, but I don't know about the gagging. My partner would just feel badly and ask if I was okay, I think. I've gotten head with a strap-on before and I like sloppy, enthusiastic, but not nauseated. That's just not fun.
07/17/2010
Contributor: joja joja
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
Enthusiasm. I don't care if it's wet and sloppy or tactical; if she enjoys doing it, I enjoy receiving it.
Precisely. This is the most important thing for my boyfriend. Lucky for him, I love giving head.
07/17/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
Enthusiasm. I don't care if it's wet and sloppy or tactical; if she enjoys doing it, I enjoy receiving it.
JR - absolutely nailed it - it's all about desire. Her enthusiasm extends to me.
07/17/2010
Contributor: YoungCouple YoungCouple
SLOPPY! Or neat, whatever. Oral is a loving act when done correctly.
07/21/2010
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
Enthusiasm is the most important thing...I'm not exactly the most normal of guys (I mean, I identify as trans anyway), and I don't really care for the gagging blowjob thing. Sloppy is fine, but I'm not picky, I just want to see that she is enjoying herself more than anything else. I just wouldn't want to cause my partner discomfort in the process of enjoying things myself...gagging isn't really a turn on for me.
07/21/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by PassionQT
Not sloppy as in bad quality, just messy with lots of spit and drool. My partner says it turns him on more than just a neat one. Is it because I look like I'm trying harder?
If I gag game is over. My partner is really turned off by that. Good thing it only happened once, by accident.
07/21/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
I'm with LaUr3n and Alicia. Gagging is not cool for me.

Spit running everywhere is kind of gross, too, but I do like enough to let things slide.
07/21/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by PassionQT
Not sloppy as in bad quality, just messy with lots of spit and drool. My partner says it turns him on more than just a neat one. Is it because I look like I'm trying harder?
Mine say it's because it slides easier and feels like heaven. The saliva can make for temperature differences that are exquisite if you have a fan going in the room as well. The gagging feels like uneven muscle flexes which send shivers down a guy's spine, apparently. If it weren't for the inevitable acid reflux I get from gagging it wouldn't be an issue but ya, add in a tiny bit of stomach acid and YEOWCH!
It's about the sensory experience for my guys rather than the look as well. They tend to be arching with pleasure or have their eyes blissfully shut. I could be looking at them crosseyed and have waving antennas and they'd never notice! LOL
07/21/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by sweet sally
Great question. I'd like some male input on this one. I'm a neat kinda girl. I have never been able to figure out where those girls get all that spit? Sorry, I simply don't produce that much spit.
Try a glass of either warm or cool water. Take a sip of the water and then you should have all the lubrication you need, if not then take another sip! Warm tea works well too but be careful since most mouths can take a warmer temp than some sensitive penises!
07/21/2010
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Mine say it's because it slides easier and feels like heaven. The saliva can make for temperature differences that are exquisite if you have a fan going in the room as well. The gagging feels like uneven muscle flexes which send shivers down a ... more
I agree - it's all about how it feels, at least for my partner.
07/21/2010
Contributor: darlingnikkie darlingnikkie
I dont think it looks sexy if you have spit and drool everywhere.
07/21/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
I don't think I could handle being sloppy and spitty. It bothers me. But my boys haven't said anything aout it. I've only specifically asked one, and he only said that it was just hot to watch me enjoying it, either way. Sloppy or neat.
07/21/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
I don't think my bf would like that, but then again, I'm not much a sloppy person and if I'm gagging, well, he freaks out and asks if I'm okay.
07/22/2010
Contributor: Stephen G. Barr Stephen G. Barr
No way...
08/14/2010
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
I don't find gagging sexy, but spit I don't mind at all. Sloppy is good, but not snotty.
08/21/2010
Contributor: Lurr Lurr
the extent to which my partner is enjoying the experience is definitely the defining factor. if she is having fun then I am having fun.
09/19/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
i never asked not been told...
10/14/2010