Simple question, in a private poll.

No. Sex was originally PIV. You don't lose your virginity from oral sex and it is not intercourse. It's a sexual act, but sex is where penis goes in vagina. That's my opinion. I don't know why it has to be made to be so complicated. There's sex = penis in a vagina. There's ORAL sex = penis in mouth or cooter in mouth. There's anal sex = penis in booty. They all have different names. The term for oral sex is fellatio. Sex is commonly known as intercourse. ORAL sex is a sexual act just as they all are, but it IS NOT SEX. It is oral sex or fellatio.

I am not counting oral sex as having sex. more of like 4 play. I see sex as any form of penetration weather thats me to her or her penetrating me. Then i would count that as sex.

I don't consider oral sex "sex", nor do I consider mutual masturbation sex, but I would consider strictly anal as "sex", as well as the obvious PIV sex.

I think oral sex is "sex" by way of being a sexual activity but don't "count" it in the same category, at least when people ask, because when most people ask, they mean how many penises have I allowed in my pussy. If someone asked something more general, like "how many people have you done sexual things with," I would count them.

But if I perform or receive oral from a guy, or girl, i'm not going to tell my friend "we had sex." I would say I blew him or ate her out or whatever more ACCURATELY described the act. As Kendra said, idk why people insist on blurring the lines and making things more complicated. Why can't being sexual, considered a sex act, and having sex in the name be good enough? It's semantic, and fairly pedantic as well. Not to mention tiresome.

Making a distinction between sex ie piv and oral sense also makes more sense, because people have real life distinctions for them as well, just as we have distinctions for anal. It's not downgrading its significance or legitimacy. I, for one, don't consider it sex. But at the same time, I tend to think it's a lot more personal than sex, at least when I give it. I really don't enjoy going down on somewhat I don't love. I don't enjoy it at all. There are many people who use oral like a "gateway" that they do that may or may not lead to piv or anal. For me, it's usually only done after piv and when the relationship has really gotten going because I refuse to do things I don't feel good about doing. Saying it isn't sex doesn't say it's less than or not real. It simply recognizes that the acts ARE different and that people think of them and engage in them according to different standards and rules, often times for perfectly legitimate personal reasons.

No, I do not count oral sex as sex. It is one genital/private area and the mouth. I WOULD count anal sex as sex, because I consider the anus to be basically classified with the genitals, just like I would count scissoring as sex. But using your hands on another person is not sex, nor is using your mouth.

Hrm this is actually a hard question. From my own hetero woman perspective, I would count PiV & anal as sex. Oral, no. (Then again I've had hours-long make-out sessions that ended up feeling more like "sex" than some actual penetrative sex I've had!)

But getting into woman-on-woman or some other meshing of body parts... I really don't know. I suppose in that case I would say "If it's sex to you, then it's sex." But then a lesbian who had decided oral sex didn't count would actually be a virgin even if she'd had many partners? That doesn't make sense to me.

Lame answer, but I really can't speak for anyone but myself here. If I tried to be inclusive I'd end up with a 5 page list of stuff that would probably offend people unintentionally!

Anything that has the word 'sex' in it counts

I can't not count because there are so few, not that there is anything wrong with that. I'd count those that are only oral, that means a lot imho.

I consider oral sex to be sex, and doing it, to me, counts as a loss of virginity. It's sharing a sexual act with another person; you're both vulnerable, intimate, and giving and receiving pleasure. That's sex. There doesn't need to be hymen breaking involved.

I think I count oral sex as sex--it's very much an "american" thing (I think) to NOT count it. But I mean, as a bisexual--I feel like oral counts. Otherwise I'd almost never be having sex with women!

Yes, it counts!

I want to say its not sex, but lesbians dont really have anything to penetrate with and they have sex, so i guess we can rule it as part of sex

I think it counts as sex unless you want to get into the actual semantics of the word which I think is a little overkill.

idk whatever some people think sex is their business, so whatever. but when I have oral sex, I consider it sex. i don't apply the bill clinton definition to my personal life lol you know i love you, bill!

LOL Did Bill Clinton put you up to this?

BTW--Someone should tell every gay man and lesbian that they are virgins. They would be surprised to find that out. Also, in the case of lesbians, it should be noted that (and this will surprise those of us who own one) that a penis is NOT even necessary for quality sex.