Hi everyone, thank you for the warm welcome to the boards so far, I am really feeling welcome here! While I have only made several posts here, my period of reading around on the forum has led me to the conclusion that this is an online community that is generally composed of genuine, caring people who sincerely want to share their knowledge and experience to help others. Before I begin with my issue I would like to apologize for the length of this post – I feel my issue needs to be fully explained in order for me to get good advice. Second of all, the advice I get here has the potential to make a significant positive impact on my self-esteem, confidence, outlook, and level of anxiety (I suffer from General Anxiety Disorder) - you have the opportunity here to make a BIG, positive difference in my life. Finally, this is a penis size post, so stop here if that is not your cup of tea – I don’t want to waste anyone’s time and also if this is an inappropriate topic please delete it I’m not trying to make any trouble or annoy anyone.
So with that, I was wondering if there was anyone out there in cyberspace who has the relevant experience and willingness to help me defeat a major personal insecurity for good. You see, I recently managed to get myself my first serious girlfriend, and things have progressed to the point where we are getting pretty intimate (a big accomplishment for a very shy, introverted, socially awkward guy like myself haha). Anyways, the other night she showed me her dildo, which turned out to be the Ribbed model that is featured on this site.
Now, I have always been insecure about not being adequate in the genital size department, but it has been particularly bad lately for some reason. However, at first I was overjoyed to see that her toy was about the same size as my penis – the toy measures 7 inches long and 1 3/8 inches wide; my penis is ¼ inch shorter in length with the same diameter but near the top of my shaft I am actually slightly wider (by 1/8 inch) than the toy (sorry if that’s too graphic). Things got even better when I read some reviews that described the toy as having “great size” and “great width,” and it honestly felt like a weight had been instantly removed from my back – and a very heavy, painful weight at that. I could not believe that my penis could actually be described as being a “great size” by any woman – let alone the fact that my size was picked out by the same girl who I happen to really like. At this point, this was all I needed to count my blessings, let go of literally years of insecurities and just bury and forget about my size issues once and for all. This was truly an amazing feeling.
However, I read some more about the toy and realized that the texture on the Ribbed toy could “add” girth to it by creating more friction/sensation, a theory that has been confirmed, much to my disappointment. Now, I am very specific by nature and slightly OCD, and I have now became worried that my penis might not in fact measure up to my gf’s equivalently sized ribbed toy in terms of feelings of girth, and that my penis would not be able to provide the sensations of girth and fullness that were reported in the Ribbed’s positive reviews, meaning that my short-lived sense of security was based on false assumptions. I now find myself again immersed in insecurity and extreme anxiety.
So, this texture issue is now the primary obstacle standing in my way of being able to truly accept and be happy about my penis size, and finally lay this insecurity to rest. Is there anyone out there in cyberspace who can report if a penis that is the same size as the Ribbed (and slightly wider across at the top of the shaft) can accomplish the same feelings of vaginal fullness and stretch? I understand that individual preferences vary, but if I could just get confirmation that my size works well (and is maybe even ideal) for at least some women out there, I would finally be able to bury this painful personal issue for good. If there is anyone out there who can help me with this I offer my deepest thanks - in fact words would not be able to describe my gratefulness.
Best,
Tim
PS I understand that there is more to attraction, sex, and relationships than one’s endowment, but I would like to focus this post on the specific issue of penis size.
So with that, I was wondering if there was anyone out there in cyberspace who has the relevant experience and willingness to help me defeat a major personal insecurity for good. You see, I recently managed to get myself my first serious girlfriend, and things have progressed to the point where we are getting pretty intimate (a big accomplishment for a very shy, introverted, socially awkward guy like myself haha). Anyways, the other night she showed me her dildo, which turned out to be the Ribbed model that is featured on this site.
Now, I have always been insecure about not being adequate in the genital size department, but it has been particularly bad lately for some reason. However, at first I was overjoyed to see that her toy was about the same size as my penis – the toy measures 7 inches long and 1 3/8 inches wide; my penis is ¼ inch shorter in length with the same diameter but near the top of my shaft I am actually slightly wider (by 1/8 inch) than the toy (sorry if that’s too graphic). Things got even better when I read some reviews that described the toy as having “great size” and “great width,” and it honestly felt like a weight had been instantly removed from my back – and a very heavy, painful weight at that. I could not believe that my penis could actually be described as being a “great size” by any woman – let alone the fact that my size was picked out by the same girl who I happen to really like. At this point, this was all I needed to count my blessings, let go of literally years of insecurities and just bury and forget about my size issues once and for all. This was truly an amazing feeling.
However, I read some more about the toy and realized that the texture on the Ribbed toy could “add” girth to it by creating more friction/sensation, a theory that has been confirmed, much to my disappointment. Now, I am very specific by nature and slightly OCD, and I have now became worried that my penis might not in fact measure up to my gf’s equivalently sized ribbed toy in terms of feelings of girth, and that my penis would not be able to provide the sensations of girth and fullness that were reported in the Ribbed’s positive reviews, meaning that my short-lived sense of security was based on false assumptions. I now find myself again immersed in insecurity and extreme anxiety.
So, this texture issue is now the primary obstacle standing in my way of being able to truly accept and be happy about my penis size, and finally lay this insecurity to rest. Is there anyone out there in cyberspace who can report if a penis that is the same size as the Ribbed (and slightly wider across at the top of the shaft) can accomplish the same feelings of vaginal fullness and stretch? I understand that individual preferences vary, but if I could just get confirmation that my size works well (and is maybe even ideal) for at least some women out there, I would finally be able to bury this painful personal issue for good. If there is anyone out there who can help me with this I offer my deepest thanks - in fact words would not be able to describe my gratefulness.
Best,
Tim
PS I understand that there is more to attraction, sex, and relationships than one’s endowment, but I would like to focus this post on the specific issue of penis size.
