My longtime partner (romantic and sexual) has taken a job that will move him out of the country for a year. We are monogamous, great friends, and very much in love. I am not so worried about the strictly emotion aspects of this separation. It's very temporary, we have a game plan for communication pretty much daily, and I think it will give both of us a chance to develop both independently and interdependently.

My question is this: What to do about sex? During past periods of separation we have played around with skype sex, masturbating in front of each other. It's been hot and thrilling, but I'd like to spice it up a bit, to continue to have new, fun sexual adventures despite the distance. Anyone have ideas for me? less

I like the idea of "missions." How very James Bond. I have also considered buying the Cone-a-Willy kit to do now, so that I can use it on myself both on and off camera, and have some sort of vestige of him with/inside me. And in the pre-trip meantime, the idea of double penetration by the same penis is unbelievably hot. less

There are some toys here that can be controlled by your partner over the internet. They are pricey but if you want more than just regular skype video and picture sex of sexting, then they might be worth it.

They have male and female ones even.

I was never left short by phone sex or other long distance sexual activity with my last partner or my current one for that matter when I did my internship. But, I got to see them once a month or more. I think the longest might have been a month and half? So I don't know if there are any plans for visiting. But I will tell you that the distance makes the sex SO MUCH hotter! The build up is key. And if you trust each other not to stray then there is no harm no foul.

You could also give each other "missions" I've done this with long distance bf's. They would tell me something I had to do and likewise. For example one bf wanted a pinup photoshoot with red lipstick, heels. fishnet etc. i would send him pictures all day of little pics (the lips, the heels, some fishnet). He didn't get to see the finished product until later and hearing him moan into the phone made the hair on the back of my neck stand up, as soon as he finished I couldn't help myself.

So...there are plenty of things you can do dear! less

Actually, I've given it some thought. Any way you look at it, though, you're going to go through a few kits of trial and error, and need quite a bit of crafty know-how. It would NOT be a project for the faint of heart! You'd have to find a way to mold an opening in the clone-a-pussy (just cutting it will probably not yield a comfy toy), then attach the clone-a-pussy to the penetrable device in a secure, non-toxic way.

If you want to let your partner to be able to control your toy without the huge cost of internet-enabled toys, look into the Club Vibe by OhMiBod. It can be set to respond to ambient noise with vibration... you can plug it into the headphone jack, or set it beside your speakers, and every word he says over skype will make the bullet vibrate. less

My longtime partner (romantic and sexual) has taken a job that will move him out of the country for a year. We are monogamous, great friends, and very much in love. I am not so worried about the strictly emotion aspects of this separation. It's very temporary, we have a game plan for communication pretty much daily, and I think it will give both of us a chance to develop both independently and interdependently.

My question is this: What to do about sex? During past periods of separation we have played around with skype sex, masturbating in front of each other. It's been hot and thrilling, but I'd like to spice it up a bit, to continue to have new, fun sexual adventures despite the distance. Anyone have ideas for me? less