Are you nervous when having sex for the first time with a new partner?

Contributor: noway noway
What are you nervous about?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
My partner won't like my body.
22
I won't like my partner's body.
3
I'm worried about my performance.
17
I'm worried about my partner pleasing me.
5
I'm worried about pleasing my partner.
14
Total votes: 61 (34 voters)
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03/19/2013
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Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
New experiences are always scary, especially ones that are so intimate. I worried about them not liking my body, worried about whether or not I would please them and how things would turn out with the relationship if I couldn't. Probably silly things to concern myself with since it's always turned out fine, but I think it's pretty common.
03/19/2013
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
Oh yes! Very! Nervous he won't like my body, worried about my performance and pleasing my partner.
03/19/2013
Contributor: surreptitious surreptitious
Quote:
Originally posted by noway
What are you nervous about?
Sometimes I'm nervous even beyond the first time! I guess that I'm sort of a self-conscious person, but it doesn't stop me from enjoying myself, so I've never tried to fix it.
03/19/2013
Contributor: rihanne rihanne
Quote:
Originally posted by noway
What are you nervous about?
yeah.
03/20/2013
Contributor: chicmichiw chicmichiw
Incompatibility is always an issue.
03/20/2013
Contributor: bratcat bratcat
im always kind of worried about it, especially with my weigh and body "issues" that i experience, luckily my partner and i went from kind of awkward sex to now having great fantastic amazing sex.
03/20/2013
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
I worry about my body, I have self esteem issues I wasn't really thinking about that much though with my fiance the first time. He just made me feel.....comfortable.
03/20/2013
Contributor: woodsdragon woodsdragon
I definitely worry about my body
03/20/2013
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by noway
What are you nervous about?
Usually its just a performance fear.
03/20/2013
Contributor: shnsmth6 shnsmth6
Quote:
Originally posted by noway
What are you nervous about?
worried about my performance, and if i'm big enough for her
03/20/2013
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Quote:
Originally posted by shnsmth6
worried about my performance, and if i'm big enough for her
Pretty much how I feel too.
03/20/2013
Contributor: The Vixen The Vixen
I don't get nervous about our bodies or performance.
If anything I worry about me being able to let go and enjoy myself. I'm not able to finish the first few (or dozen) times I'm with somebody new because I get so emotionally wrapped up in the experience.
03/20/2013
Contributor: MrWood MrWood
I've always had anxiety and performance fears when being with a new partner for the first couple of times. Once I get past the nervousness of pleasing them, it's always been great though.
03/22/2013
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
Though I do worry about my performance, I think I worry a little more about their performance. I know if the sex is meh it can get better, but if they're amazing from the start...well, it's good for morale, because I'll have the incentive and eagerness to get them in bed again, meaning MY performance will be better because I'm so looking forward to it.
03/22/2013
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
Quote:
Originally posted by noway
What are you nervous about?
I am just worried he has a small dick.
03/22/2013
Contributor: musicownsmysoul musicownsmysoul
My low self-esteem would get in the way and I'd end up not really enjoying it. Although the last time I had sex with someone new we were both under the influence of alcohol and all we really did was he ate me out and we spent the rest of the night talking. Two weeks of talking of no sex later we started dating. That was a year ago.
03/23/2013
Contributor: mdnght mdnght
I worry about my body and my performance...
03/23/2013
Contributor: Gleb Gleb
I'm worried about my performance.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
I'm not particularly worried...excited is the word.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
Yes, I get nervous.
03/28/2013
Contributor: kaylajoy89 kaylajoy89
it's always scary/exciting the fisrt time
03/29/2013
Contributor: KatPawz2003 KatPawz2003
I have always been rather insecure about not only looks but how good I am and I they will enjoy it or not.
07/08/2013
Contributor: KitKat16 KitKat16
Is it strange I'm never worried about my performance? I feel pretty secure in that I know what to do and I'm always eager to please a partner...I get more anxious about giving up control, relaxing and letting someone else take the reigns over me. It has always been the biggest struggle...
07/10/2013
Total posts: 24
Unique posters: 24