it has gotten better over time. I will admit sometimes I miss the crazy thrashing of the early months, but my S.O. has become an expert at pleasing me effectively!
Does sex get better with experience?
11/01/2012
The first time I had sex (long long ago, when I was 16) it was great. It got better as I learned to have an orgasm during oral sex, and My Man learned what I liked. Our sex life has been up and down. As most women, my drive nosedived (dove?) after our babies were born. But in my defense, I was keeping a completely helpless human being alive all by myself (I mean, My Man helped with diapers and rocking, but the whole "feeding baby and caring for the baby" was my responsibility.)
It's always been good (except for when I was on Depo Provera, to shut down my estrogen production and shut down my menstruation to treat endometriosis. My sex drive was in cold storage for a long time. We still had sex, but I dreaded it. Oddly, once we got into it, I enjoyed it, but while I was on Depo Provera, I didn't think about sex and never thought I wanted it. As soon as I went off of it and got regular again, my sex drive returned. I got pregnant about a year after going off the Depo, and when I entered pre-mature perimenopause my sex drive went through the exosphere!
The last 3-5 years our sex life has been freaking wonderful! Even with a perimenopausal problem with orgasm (which seems somewhat better with HRT) we both still love sex, and the introduction of sex toys sex is wonderful.
We've always been very sexual people, but in the past few years, sex has been better than ever.
So, yes, although it's always been orgasmic and wonderful, the past few years have been the best.
You have to put effort into it. Both have to work hard, do what please your partner (as long as it's consensual,) speak up when you want or need something, and work hard to make time for it. I don't buy the "We don't have time to have sex." You have to MAKE TIME even if that means waking up early or going to be late or even waking up in the mid of night to make love. My Man is older (in his mid 50s) and we've had to work with changing bodies, and changing lives, but it's still amazing and fantastic sex. We look for solutions, not excuses, and always respect and love each other.
It's always been good (except for when I was on Depo Provera, to shut down my estrogen production and shut down my menstruation to treat endometriosis. My sex drive was in cold storage for a long time. We still had sex, but I dreaded it. Oddly, once we got into it, I enjoyed it, but while I was on Depo Provera, I didn't think about sex and never thought I wanted it. As soon as I went off of it and got regular again, my sex drive returned. I got pregnant about a year after going off the Depo, and when I entered pre-mature perimenopause my sex drive went through the exosphere!
The last 3-5 years our sex life has been freaking wonderful! Even with a perimenopausal problem with orgasm (which seems somewhat better with HRT) we both still love sex, and the introduction of sex toys sex is wonderful.
We've always been very sexual people, but in the past few years, sex has been better than ever.
So, yes, although it's always been orgasmic and wonderful, the past few years have been the best.
You have to put effort into it. Both have to work hard, do what please your partner (as long as it's consensual,) speak up when you want or need something, and work hard to make time for it. I don't buy the "We don't have time to have sex." You have to MAKE TIME even if that means waking up early or going to be late or even waking up in the mid of night to make love. My Man is older (in his mid 50s) and we've had to work with changing bodies, and changing lives, but it's still amazing and fantastic sex. We look for solutions, not excuses, and always respect and love each other.
11/01/2012
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Definitely much, much better.
Originally posted by
SheRa!
Has your sex life been like a fine wine getting better with time? or like a loaf of bread (stale, bland)?
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11/01/2012
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Exactly. If you work at it, it only gets better - just like a relationship. It can stagnate over time if you let it, but if you're willing to put in the work, it can get soooo much better!
Originally posted by
Rossie
Sex gets better with practice and communication.
11/01/2012
It gets better with experience.
11/01/2012
It's been a rollercoaster of experimentation and learning, but I'd say it's an upwards rollercoaster! We definitely have some crazy good sex now
11/02/2012
Great to start and only getting better.
11/02/2012
much better!
11/02/2012
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