Do you think it's all in our heads?

Do you think it's all in our heads?

ToyGurl ToyGurl
I just read a post (lost the link) on EF about a girl wondering if it's normal to only be able to orgasm a certain way. I explained that it is totally normal because everyone gets off in different ways.

However, do you think it's all mental? Do you think there's a barrier causing us to only be able to orgasm in unconventional ways? When I say "unconventional", I don't mean that anyone is weird. I just mean that humans were designed to have PIV sex. That should cause us to orgasm/ejaculate. But there are many who cannot get off that way. A lot of people need other types of stimulation.

So do you think it's all in our heads? Do you think that if we tried hard enough we could change what "gets us off"?
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Ansley Ansley
In regards to actual physical stimulation, no it's not just in our heads. I recently heard a very informative interview with a prominent Atlanta gynecological specialist and he explained that when we're little girls the nerves in our vaginas determine how we will orgasm later in life. Some women have a heavier concentration of nerves in the g-spot and others in the clit.

Sometimes it's split 50/50, sometimes it's split 70/30, sometimes one area gets all of the nerves and the other doesn't. This explains the vast number of differences of why each woman is different in her preferred methods of orgasming. Some women HAVE to have clitoral stimulation during sex and others don't need it at all.

The fetish stuff? Yeah, that's all in our heads. But, so few of us actually have true fetishes where we have to have that mental or visual stimulation to orgasm.
10/03/2011
AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
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Originally posted by Ansley
In regards to actual physical stimulation, no it's not just in our heads. I recently heard a very informative interview with a prominent Atlanta gynecological specialist and he explained that when we're little girls the nerves in our vaginas ...
Hey! Who was the gyno? Would like to look them up and maybe interview them. INteresting!
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Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
Hey! Who was the gyno? Would like to look them up and maybe interview them. INteresting!
You just had to ask didn't you? LOLOL It flew straight out of my brain as soon as I read your comment. Stand by while I dig up the info.
10/03/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
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Originally posted by Ansley
You just had to ask didn't you? LOLOL It flew straight out of my brain as soon as I read your comment. Stand by while I dig up the info.
I was about to ask as well!
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P'Gell P'Gell
I am pretty sure we were built to do more than just have PIV sex. At least 10% or more of the population is GLBT, and most of people in the GLBT community don't have PIV sex, yet most have orgasms. Most women orgasm from clitoral stimulation, the latest stat, depending on who you are reading, says only about 10% or less of women can orgasm from only PIV. It makes sense that many different types of stimulation are normal, expected and are even done in the animal kingdom in order to bring both men and women to orgasm.

The female orgasm has barely any impact on conception, so PIV isn't "necessary" for many women to orgasm.

As oral sex and other forms of stimulation are common, well known and even used by animals, I think the need for things other than PIV is normal, healthy and common.
10/03/2011
AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
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Originally posted by Ansley
You just had to ask didn't you? LOLOL It flew straight out of my brain as soon as I read your comment. Stand by while I dig up the info.
Awesome! Hahaha! DM me if you find it!
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AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
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Originally posted by P'Gell
I am pretty sure we were built to do more than just have PIV sex. At least 10% or more of the population is GLBT, and most of people in the GLBT community don't have PIV sex, yet most have orgasms. Most women orgasm from clitoral stimulation, the ...
P'Gell, If I remember right you are a RN right? Love you posts.
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froggiemoma froggiemoma
Interesting
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Rockin' Rockin'
From the OP " I just mean that humans were designed to have PIV sex. That should cause us to orgasm/ejaculate."

From an evolutionary standpoint, those sentences don't really follow one another. As P'Gell mentioned, the female orgasm doesn't really impact conception. It would make evolutionary sense for PIV sex to cause the male to orgasm because that would be good for procreation.

Anyway, to answer the questions put forth, I don't think it's all in our heads. But our heads help! And yes, I think we can learn to orgasm in different ways. I've read about learning to transfer sensations, so that you kind of replicate sensations. I think the example I read was something like learning to think about having your genitals stimulated if you had your finger stimulated. Sounds really interesting.
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Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
I think if all women were mean to orgasm from PIV alone, we wouldn't even have a clitoris. So, no I don't think it's all mental.
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P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
P'Gell, If I remember right you are a RN right? Love you posts.
Thank you.
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