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Contributor: WanderlustinGypsy WanderlustinGypsy
Ok, so . . . long story short, I have a partner who is almost obsessed with fisting. He seems very excited about it, and is slowly working me up to it. Honestly, we've gotten close, but not complete. I surprisingly have enjoyed it, but I'm wondering . . .

What IS the appeal for the person giving? I've always thought it was kind of taboo, frowned on, joked about, not something that men were actually into doing. Thoughts?
11/22/2015
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Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
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Originally posted by WanderlustinGypsy
Ok, so . . . long story short, I have a partner who is almost obsessed with fisting. He seems very excited about it, and is slowly working me up to it. Honestly, we've gotten close, but not complete. I surprisingly have enjoyed it, but I'm ... more
Actually it's all about the taboo, doing something that is not supposed to be done and enjoying it.

I get a lot of pleasure out of seeing others in pleasure. Probalbly rhe same reason.
11/22/2015
Contributor: WanderlustinGypsy WanderlustinGypsy
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Originally posted by TheToyGuy
Actually it's all about the taboo, doing something that is not supposed to be done and enjoying it.

I get a lot of pleasure out of seeing others in pleasure. Probalbly rhe same reason.
He seems to just kind of be tapping into some level of his kinks, like, new found curiosity. Very much a control/SM vibe to his excitement about it. I guess I'm just not used to men finding this specific act appealing.
11/22/2015
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by WanderlustinGypsy
He seems to just kind of be tapping into some level of his kinks, like, new found curiosity. Very much a control/SM vibe to his excitement about it. I guess I'm just not used to men finding this specific act appealing.
My first wife and I were just doing some after play fingering and it just happened, she enjoyed it quite a bit. I didn't fist her every time we had sex but when we did she always liked it. Oh and please don't worry that you will become permanently "loose" I would say that is a myth promulgated by sex-negative people. Enjoy!
11/22/2015
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
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Originally posted by RonLee
My first wife and I were just doing some after play fingering and it just happened, she enjoyed it quite a bit. I didn't fist her every time we had sex but when we did she always liked it. Oh and please don't worry that you will become ... more
You can stretch, but the elstic properties of the vagaina and anus will return, but because of the stretching the cell/muscle fibres become stronger and over time it just becomes easier. Not too detrimental.
11/23/2015
Contributor: WanderlustinGypsy WanderlustinGypsy
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Originally posted by RonLee
My first wife and I were just doing some after play fingering and it just happened, she enjoyed it quite a bit. I didn't fist her every time we had sex but when we did she always liked it. Oh and please don't worry that you will become ... more
Oh no worries there. I'm a medical professional, with some background in OB, so I'm fully aware of the elastic properties of the magical vajayjay. It still just kind of baffles me though, I have never seen a guy be so excited about the idea. All attempts thus far have been close, but no success. Becomes far too overwhelming. He's a young gun, and I think I'm going to have to introduce him to the art of patience. ?? and lube... Lots and lots of lube. Natural isn't quiiiiite cutting it.
11/26/2015
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
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Originally posted by WanderlustinGypsy
Oh no worries there. I'm a medical professional, with some background in OB, so I'm fully aware of the elastic properties of the magical vajayjay. It still just kind of baffles me though, I have never seen a guy be so excited about the idea. ... more
What type of lube would you suggest (or use)?
11/26/2015
Contributor: WanderlustinGypsy WanderlustinGypsy
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Originally posted by TheToyGuy
What type of lube would you suggest (or use)?
Well up until recently my favorite go to lube has been sliquid organics. However, I'm out of it at the moment, and have been looking into more cost effective and longer lasting lubes. Let me just say this.... Googling blindly into the www of fisting has taken me to some dark corners of the interwebs... But it has also turned up a couple ideas for lube lol! Currently I'm waiting on some J-lube to come in, some people are squeamish of it because it's got sucrose in it, but I've never has issues with that in the past. Also I'm looking into making my own with xanthan gum. I'm pretty excited about the jlube. It has almost a cult like following and was the #1 mentioned lube for anal/big toys/fisting that I came across.
11/27/2015
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
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Originally posted by WanderlustinGypsy
Well up until recently my favorite go to lube has been sliquid organics. However, I'm out of it at the moment, and have been looking into more cost effective and longer lasting lubes. Let me just say this.... Googling blindly into the www of ... more
That is true.

But if you have an infection the sugar lubes will exacerbate it.
11/28/2015
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by TheToyGuy
That is true.

But if you have an infection the sugar lubes will exacerbate it.
I used whipped cream in a can with a silicone rubber hose to fill a GF's pussy so I could eat it out of her many years ago. It was quite a bit of fun in the moment... but she got a really bad yeast infection from it. I learned my lesson from that, no candy or other sweets goes into a woman's pussy at least not if you want to see her again.
11/28/2015
Contributor: bigcock bigcock
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Originally posted by WanderlustinGypsy
Well up until recently my favorite go to lube has been sliquid organics. However, I'm out of it at the moment, and have been looking into more cost effective and longer lasting lubes. Let me just say this.... Googling blindly into the www of ... more
I have heard that the jlube works really excellent but it's real messy, that's the only reason I haven tried it. I use k- y warming gel mostly, it is water based and real slippery.

I always wondered how it would feel to be fisted by a woman, or perhaps letting her put both hands in me and then ball them up inside me and start slowly turning them back and forth. I bet I would get off really great!!!!

I would love to hear more about your experiences !!!!
11/29/2015
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
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Originally posted by RonLee
I used whipped cream in a can with a silicone rubber hose to fill a GF's pussy so I could eat it out of her many years ago. It was quite a bit of fun in the moment... but she got a really bad yeast infection from it. I learned my lesson from ... more
Um, I guess that was the ICING on the CAKE. So to speak.
11/29/2015
Contributor: MrClark MrClark
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Originally posted by TheToyGuy
Actually it's all about the taboo, doing something that is not supposed to be done and enjoying it.

I get a lot of pleasure out of seeing others in pleasure. Probalbly rhe same reason.
I've personally gotten my fist inserted into myself anally... I mostly did it out of curiosity having stumbled upon it online, which is a reason I encourage people to be careful what they google. But I was curious if it was possible and what it felt like, and well not having a volunteer tried it on myself.

I know if my girlfriend was open to trying it I would definitely be excited to work her up to it, but only if it was something she was enjoying and it brought her pleasure. The single easiest way for me to get off is bringing my partner to the point of orgasm. The taboo/kinky nature of it would of course accentuate the experience.
06/01/2016
Contributor: spencerfist spencerfist
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Originally posted by WanderlustinGypsy
Ok, so . . . long story short, I have a partner who is almost obsessed with fisting. He seems very excited about it, and is slowly working me up to it. Honestly, we've gotten close, but not complete. I surprisingly have enjoyed it, but I'm ... more
As a guy I love it . My wife loves the full feeling of several fingers to a whole hand in her pussy. Use lots of lube and work slow. Gradually working up to more fingers and more hands. No need to worry about loosness It all comes back into shape. My wife van handle a 2 1/2" width dildo and brings her off several times. I've talked my wife into fisting me and after some practive can handle her hand deep into my anus at least 8"
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