Hard sex talking, Why do you like it woman?

Contributor: Moein Moein
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Originally posted by P'Gell
None of the options apply to us. Yeah, we use dirty talk, I assumed most people do. But, it isn't "because I'm a woman." Nor am I "week." (UM, it's weak. But, that isn't me.) I'm as strong as Titanium steel, as ... more
Ok,
Out of the bed, in a Mall:
If a husband tells his wife: you are a "Bitch", it will considered as an "Insult" and she gets so mad and angry.

But on the bed during Sex session she will accepts it too much and considers it as (Love)...

I hope this clear the two faces of (Insult).
02/16/2011
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
Ok BBW thanks for your detailed explain..

So, based on your wourds I can classify sexual sessions for 2 main category:
1- Real Sex
2- Acting Sex (or fake)

The First one has a real intimate between the man and woman. The love in ... more
I'm starting to get the feeling that there's a language barrier here. I've never heard these subjects explained more clearly and simply than it has been in this thread, and still, you're not getting it. Either that or you may just have to let it go as something that some people like and you'll never understand. Really, it has been explained so well here that I'm not sure how you're still not understanding.

BDSM is not acting, nor is it fake, nor does it equal less love, sensuality, trust or commitment between partners.
02/17/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by Lucidity
I'm starting to get the feeling that there's a language barrier here. I've never heard these subjects explained more clearly and simply than it has been in this thread, and still, you're not getting it. Either that or you may just ... more
THIS: BDSM is not acting, nor is it fake, nor does it equal less love, sensuality, trust or commitment between partners.

I also agree there must be some kind of language barrier.
02/17/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
OK... yes there is a language barrier. OK.... how to put this as plainly as possible?

Maybe you can put this website in and find the translation in Arabic? link
02/17/2011
Contributor: Moein Moein
I think the subject is go in other different directions.

The subject is about feelings, not Actions.

The simple question is: do you like to be called by hard words? if you like it, then why?

Sluts, bitch, Jerk all these aords in any language are "Hard insults". What does make the woman like it during (some) sex sessions?

All what you are taking about is Actions and Labels.. Not feelings.

Again:
Is "Slut" an Insult?
If yes,
Then
Why does woman may like it?

It is a questiong about the Reason to like it, not about how these words are told or when are told...

I am sure there are no barriers for such simple question..
02/17/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
I think the subject is go in other different directions.

The subject is about feelings, not Actions.

The simple question is: do you like to be called by hard words? if you like it, then why?

Sluts, bitch, Jerk all these aords in ... more
It's a fetish, or a kink. It's not in the mainstream of what is typically "acceptable" by society. It doesn't make it wrong and the men/women who like being topped (dominated) don't feel like they're being insulted.
02/17/2011
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
It's a fetish, or a kink. It's not in the mainstream of what is typically "acceptable" by society. It doesn't make it wrong and the men/women who like being topped (dominated) don't feel like they're being insulted.
Yeah, also I truly feel that the question in question has been thoroughly answered.
02/17/2011
Contributor: Moein Moein
Ok ladies
let me summarize some results:

Most of the voters vote for:
(I don't know why I like to hear it, but it makes me feel good)
In fact, if you don't know why you feel good is a hidden answer, which means you hide some thing in your mind. (Don't Know) is just a cover.

My question is based on the feelings of woman been (insulted) during (some) sex sessions -what ever it is.
Some Answers were given are very close to choices I wrote.

For example:
SexyTabby, Redboxbaby said frankly:
(I want to please him any way, so if he likes this way so no problem)
They wrote it clearly but didn't vote for!!

The next major selection was for
(It opens my mind for new sex imagination and makes me a different woman)
Also, Some described it by "bringing things to the very edge".
02/17/2011
Contributor: Moein Moein
Quote:
Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
It's a fetish, or a kink. It's not in the mainstream of what is typically "acceptable" by society. It doesn't make it wrong and the men/women who like being topped (dominated) don't feel like they're being insulted.
Ok BBW

I didn't talk about right/wrong feelings. But yes I was so clear by calling these hard words as (Insults). If you accept and love these words or not they are still Insults.
Or,
You can concider Pissing and Spitting -that some people do in some sex sessions- do not mean (Dirty) things!!
If a man piss on woman in street she will feels insulted, becomes angry and rise a claim, but if he do that in a fetish sex, she becomes happy and love it!!

There are a minimum common feelings between human kind, or for what Laws that protect our personalities made for?

In my thread I want to go deep inside the feeling of woman, but you changed the direction toward when/how these words are used.

Women are more sensitive in their feelings than men,
why they accept such hard words and feel good about them is a mystery for me and my wife.

Again the problem is not when/where/how those words are used..
It is with the sensitive women feelings..
Because we are human, feel about words and actions. If some one get insulted by his choise and like it, then I -from human view- must be wondered..

I hope it is so clear now
02/17/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
Ok ladies
let me summarize some results:

Most of the voters vote for:
(I don't know why I like to hear it, but it makes me feel good)
In fact, if you don't know why you feel good is a hidden answer, which means you hide some ... more
At no time did I say this was about "pleasing him". Quite frankly, he was uncomfortable with saying those things to me in the beginning. Once, he witnessed the pleasure it brought me, it got easier for him.

There is an awfulness associated with those words in our society. I have reclaimed those words, so to speak. For some of us, we have chosen to reclaim them and turn them into something positive and pleasurable.

Spankings, for some, are negative and hurtful. For others, they bring pleasure and are a positive thing when they come from someone we trust. It is the same with those words as long as they are coming from the man I completely 100% trust, I am turned on when he uses them. He ONLY uses those words in regards to sex (before or during), never in everyday situations or for anyone else, but the two of us, to hear.
02/17/2011
Contributor: pinkzombie pinkzombie
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
I and my wife are wondered about the "hard sex talking" that men may talk to their lovers during, before, or after sex.

Hard sex words a man could forward to his lover like:
Dirty little whore
Dirty slut
Bitch
My fuck ... more
I am not sure why I like things like this...interesting?! But it does turn me on!
02/17/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
Ok BBW thanks for your detailed explain..

So, based on your wourds I can classify sexual sessions for 2 main category:
1- Real Sex
2- Acting Sex (or fake)

The First one has a real intimate between the man and woman. The love in ... more
NO! That isn't it either.

You said, For BDSM, it must described as (Acting sex). There is too much words, tools needed to fire up the session. All these words and tools are (programmed) for the body (touch). It never comes out automatically. BDSM is NOT "fake sex." In many ways (and I think you have been told this numerous times) it is deeper and more intimate than regular, vanilla PIV sex.

Rough sex often "comes out automatically."

If you don't get it, that's fine, but it seems like you are intent on disparaging a form of sexual love that many of us not only engage in, but enjoy and find enhances our relationships. YOU don't have to "get it" but please, don't disrespect what others do, simply because you don't like it.

Please?
02/17/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
Ok,
Out of the bed, in a Mall:
If a husband tells his wife: you are a "Bitch", it will considered as an "Insult" and she gets so mad and angry.

But on the bed during Sex session she will accepts it too much and ... more
No. That's not it either. I am not that offend-able by My Man's actions.

It's the CONTEXT. He can jokingly call me "bitch" and I don't care. If someone else were to call me names like this, I let it roll off my back.

I'm not offended by My Man's using certain words, and please don't compare Dirty Talk to "pissing or spitting" on people. There are people who dig that, too. So? If it's consensual, what's the big deal? However, not everyone who uses Dirty Talk in the bedroom also engages in piss or spit play. Some people engage in piss or spit play and DON'T use Dirty Talk in the bedroom. You can't compare the two. NEITHER ARE WRONG, but they are simply different things.
02/17/2011
Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
NO! That isn't it either.

You said, For BDSM, it must described as (Acting sex). There is too much words, tools needed to fire up the session. All these words and tools are (programmed) for the body (touch). It never comes out ... more
I think people are taking this WAY too personally.

There is a language barrier here.

Please, everyone, stop assuming words are meant to be insulting and try to understand each other instead of jumping on each other.

BDSM and especially humiliation are very, very difficult for many people to understand. Add in English as a second language barriers and it becomes even more difficult.

I do not see anyone trying to be insulting, just trying to understand and, probably, using words differently than we do.

Remember, someone who doesn't speak English as their first language will use words literally and not always understand the connotations they may have to others.
02/17/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
I think people are taking this WAY too personally.

There is a language barrier here.

Please, everyone, stop assuming words are meant to be insulting and try to understand each other instead of jumping on each other.

BDSM and ... more
Yeah, you're probably right. I didn't catch the language thing.

Sorry.
02/17/2011
Contributor: Moein Moein
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
I think people are taking this WAY too personally.

There is a language barrier here.

Please, everyone, stop assuming words are meant to be insulting and try to understand each other instead of jumping on each other.

BDSM and ... more
I am now sure that there is a Relativity in the world of Sex.

Words like (Slut) may have 2 meanings depends on the situation it is used for.

Also, A man must know earlier if these words will be understood by his partner or not. This what I called it before a (programmed) sex.
02/18/2011
Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
I am now sure that there is a Relativity in the world of Sex.

Words like (Slut) may have 2 meanings depends on the situation it is used for.

Also, A man must know earlier if these words will be understood by his partner or not. This ... more
Absolutely.

If a man has not discussed it with his partner and starts saying words that are, in general, considered demeaning, he may end up clonked on the head with a frying pan!

I think this is what others were trying to say earlier. If the couple is on the same page, know exactly what the intentions of the other are when this type of play is engaged in, it's all good.

If not, such play can be hurtful to either party.

I think a lot of people like to do this sort of play because it allows them to step outside their normal constraints. A "good girl" is supposed to always behave and not do any bad things. It's liberating to let go and be "bad" during sex and these insults often intensify that feeling. The same for the people doing the name calling. In normal life, you can't just call someone a whore but it's liberating to do so during sex, which can be great fun when you're being dirty and physical and carnal, animal, instead of nice and loving all the time.
02/18/2011
Contributor: girl next door girl next door
It just gets me hot when he says I am a dirty lil slut. I don't really know why. But the rest of the things I don't really like.
02/19/2011
Contributor: Moein Moein
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Originally posted by girl next door
It just gets me hot when he says I am a dirty lil slut. I don't really know why. But the rest of the things I don't really like.
It gets you hot,
I understand that girl next door

But the question is about feelings: Do you like it or not?

Is it like a small barrier you need to jump over it to reach a prize?

May be you don't like it, but accept it because you want just to reach orgasm any way, even if you have been insulted?

Is it like that?
02/19/2011
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
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Originally posted by Redboxbaby
I love it when my husband uses most all those phrases (minus asshole, and jerk), but he also uses more that I completely adore (some people might shudder if they heard them)! He will often whisper them in my ear when we are in public to gently ... more
Great answer - love your differentiation at the end there too. And the whispering in public? SO HOT.
02/21/2011
Contributor: SaraU29 SaraU29
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
I and my wife are wondered about the "hard sex talking" that men may talk to their lovers during, before, or after sex.

Hard sex words a man could forward to his lover like:
Dirty little whore
Dirty slut
Bitch
My fuck ... more
I like it because it lets me know how much he's enjoying himself.
01/08/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I didn't vote b/c there wasn't this option, but I would not like to hear this at all from my hubby.
01/08/2012
Contributor: Moein Moein
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
I didn't vote b/c there wasn't this option, but I would not like to hear this at all from my hubby.
So, then the last one is your choice.
01/08/2012
Contributor: hotcherry hotcherry
Those words do nothing for me.
08/12/2012